ppge4 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 What are your thoughts on dating girls who are tall? I'm 5'9". I know it's not very tall but I've always been self conscious about it. No matter how thin or in shape I am, I feel bigger. I know it's stupid and hopefully I will grow out of it but I find myself envious of petite girls.
OpenGL Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Why do you even care? You're a woman, you will get laid on command no matter how tall/short you are. It's men who have the problem.
Author ppge4 Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 I don't care about just getting laid. The last guy I dated had three serious relationships before me and they were all 5'5 or below. He even mentioned one time that this was his first time seriously dating a tall brunette which made me uncomfortable.
OpenGL Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I don't care about just getting laid. The last guy I dated had three serious relationships before me and they were all 5'5 or below. He even mentioned one time that this was his first time seriously dating a tall brunette which made me uncomfortable. You will also have no problem getting LTRs or anything else you want. What exactly is the problem here?
Author ppge4 Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 It's just one of those things I'm self conscious about I guess. I keep dating guys who have previously dated smaller chicks. I don't know if it's a fluke or what.
meerkat stew Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I've dated/been in relationships with plenty of 5'9 and taller, one 6'3, I'm 5'11. Height doesn't factor into the attraction equation for me, long as they are 4'11" or up. Most men I know wouldn't think twice about it, even shorter ones.
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 short girls are 'cuter'...thats what does it for me. im 6' and would probably never date a girl over 5'-7"...i prefer around 5'-2
PinkToes Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 short girls are 'cuter'...thats what does it for me. im 6' and would probably never date a girl over 5'-7"...i prefer around 5'-2 Definitely not the first time I've heard that. I've been told I'm "too tall" by more than a few men.
Zeegagge Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Im 6' and I wouldnt want to date a girl taller than me, that's it though, otherwise I don't care.
Stung Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I'm six feet and found my height objectified either positively or negatively by a lot of guys out in the dating realm. Many men said that I was 'too tall' for them...I learned that that was often code for them being somewhat insecure in their masculinity. It bothered me at first, but I learned to use it as a screening mechanism. Then there were the guys who fetishized my height and would hit on me only because of it with zero regard to what I was like as a person, who said they wanted to 'climb me like a tree' etc. Being a fairly typical female in that I want an emotional connection not just some guy looking to climb up and get laid, I nexted those guys quickstyle. The thing is that all the rest of the male population, all those in-between guys who didn't care about my height or thought it was mildly sexy or whatever, those guys were still everywhere. Most of them had never been with a woman as tall as me, either; many of them were shorter than me. It didn't matter. He's with you already, obviously he can't have a real problem with it. So he's always been with shorter women than you, so what? Most women are shorter than you, so that's just a statistical probability. It's just one of the qualities that makes you unique, memorable. And if he's a leg man, you're one up on the competition.
and.then.some Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 If they're making you feel insecure about your height because of the comments they make, then I'd say you're picking the wrong ones. If they don't have a problem with your height, then you most certainly shouldn't. Of course, the other option is to stick to taller guys, but they really are few and far between it seems. (I think I've dated half of them already... )
You'reasian Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 What are your thoughts on dating girls who are tall? I'm 5'9". I know it's not very tall but I've always been self conscious about it. No matter how thin or in shape I am, I feel bigger. I know it's stupid and hopefully I will grow out of it but I find myself envious of petite girls. I'm comfortable with women whom are your height and even taller. Its attractive!
Satisfaction Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Which guy told you that? Had you been trying to ask him out and he told you that? The average man is about 6 foot tall so you are still about 3 inches shorter than most men so what's the problem?
OndaChin Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Honestly, I WOULDN'T worry about your height. Many people think others might prejudge them based on the height difference but after you've dated a few- you'll see most don't really care if you're taller OR just tall. If someone does care (that you're too tall)- they aren't worth a second glance. * I dated a woman much taller than I and we had a great time together. Cheers and best wishes.
knaveman Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I've always preferred tall girls. Hard to find them sometimes. I'm 6'2" once dated a girl 5'11" Wish I could find more like that, tall and willing to date me.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I'm tall, and it's never been a problem. My last boyfriend was just 2 inches taller than I am, and once said something like, "Sometimes I wish I could just tower over you." But mostly he expressed that he liked that I was "on his level". You can't change your height (well, not without expensive and ridiculous leg-shortening/lengthening surgery), so I see this as one of those things you just accept. Why waste time feeling bad? It's non-negotiable. Embrace it. There are advantages to being tall for both women and men. In professional settings, tall people command more respect. I have definitely used this to my advantage in my career, as a business owner, when giving presentations, and in dealing with clients.
angie2443 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 OP, how old are you? I have found that most people grow into their looks some where in the mid twenties. My guess is that in a couple of years you'll be perfectly happy with how you look.
randall Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Some men might be put off by a tall girl because people assume girls want guys who are taller than them. If a girl is tall a lot of guys who are the same height or shorter will automatically assume they aren't in with much chance as well. On the other hand, and almost in contradiction to what I just wrote, I've noticed tall girls get a lot of attention at parties (especially the slim ones).
counterman Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Yes, don't worry about your fine. The guys that do care and feel that it's an issue, you shouldn't bother with them. Many of my taller friends prefer taller girls around your height. Some of my shorter friends want to date taller girls but think there is no chance that will ever happen. And, don't worry if the guys you date have previously dated petite girls. If he's dating you and he's cool with your height, then it'll be fine. Some guys do prefer petite girls and some prefer tall girls, it doesn't matter. I personally felt uncomfortable about dating girls taller than me but in saying that there hasn't been one that I've been interested enough in to go through with dating. A couple of girls taller than me showed interest, but I wasn't really interested in them (not because they were tall).
Chicago_Guy Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 What are your thoughts on dating girls who are tall? I'm 5'9". I know it's not very tall but I've always been self conscious about it. No matter how thin or in shape I am, I feel bigger. I know it's stupid and hopefully I will grow out of it but I find myself envious of petite girls. I am 5'8.5" myself and I think that women your height who are fit are extremely attractive. It's hard not to check out a proportionate woman who has nice long legs.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Oh, yeah, the legs that go on forever. I'm gonna brag a little and tell you that more than one man has told me: "I wasn't a leg guy till I met you." And this beautiful short woman I know once said, "Can I trade legs with you just for one freaking day?!"
Disillusioned Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 What are your thoughts on dating girls who are tall? I'm 5'9". I know it's not very tall but I've always been self conscious about it. No matter how thin or in shape I am, I feel bigger. I know it's stupid and hopefully I will grow out of it but I find myself envious of petite girls. Read my post in the ISO forum: "Being tall ain't so great". I'm a man who's 6'6", so I think I have a pretty good idea what I'm talking about. BTW child-sized women never interested me much... sounds like some kinda fetish...
brock25 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 (edited) Height is NOT an issue for me. I once dated a woman who was 5' 10". I think the majority of men ( at least the ones I know ) don't care about height. However some short men won't approach a tall woman because they would assume that she wouldn't date them due to height. Edited January 23, 2010 by brock25
Satisfaction Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Oh my god for F's sake the average man isn't fricking 6 foot tall. Where are people learning this bullcrap? Average height is around 5'9.5, for white men it's about 5'10. (and in case you didn't know, that's the MEAN height, the majority of men are clumped withint 5'7-6'1 so someone who is 5'7 isnt fricking short, it's pretty average). Just today I heard someone describing someone as "he's 5'10, a sort of short and stocky guy". WTF? Since when is 5'10 short? Ok yes I've just checked and you're right about height being 5"10 for men. Well according to Wikipedia anyway. I've not checked anywhere else.
Satisfaction Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Read my post in the ISO forum: "Being tall ain't so great". I'm a man who's 6'6", so I think I have a pretty good idea what I'm talking about. BTW child-sized women never interested me much... sounds like some kinda fetish... 6'6 really? Shopping must be fun. Don't you worry there are plenty of tall girls out there who would love to spot you on their horizon. Its probably taking alot longer than you had hoped and you maybe keep thinking about the love you lost but you shouldn't think your whole life will be like that!
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