Little_miss_sun Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Hi, I would be so grateful if I could get some advice please! Thank you! Dated my ex bf for 2.5 yrs. We were in a long distance relationship for 18 months (which was fine though hard work)...different countries 6hrs away. I am European, he is Arabic. We are both career minded and starting out on getting good careers going. He is very stressy and has 0 ability to communicate emotions, I am (was) high maintence and very volitile (though I have learnt my lesson on this one & am changing). But we wanted marriage and kids together though the combination of distance, culture and personal flaws didn't help! Just all became too much. We agreed on a break up 10 weeks ago, we both started to argue and pick on each other...got into a rut and we couldn't commit to a relationship which was falling apart however much we loved each other. It has been very very difficult and he stood by what we said and thinks its for the best. I begged, pleaded usual stuff. Then I snapped out of it and calmed down and became mature and grown up which he repsonded well to...he apologised for the hurting me and said its a delicate situation but we need to slavage the good stuff. At the start of the break up he said it was totally over and now he is like lets see what happens, couples get back together, give it time and gives examples of friends who end up back together etc Great, but thats not happening for us! Anyway, we communicate everyday. We are still in love each with other and care for each other, fancy each other and are not looking for other people...He is very serious and for all his faults would never lie about another woman....he is a workaholic anyway (bit of a geek really ) He says that if I can calm down and control myself more he can trust in me more and know that we'll have a stable relationship. He says he doesn't want a stressful relationship especially if we live in a different country together. He is very sensible and I trust his judgement though this is killing me because I still worry that we'll never be a couple again. He says lets see what happens in 6 months ....but really if you want someone, you'd be with them???? So has anyone been in my situation with a positive outcome? I am not stupid and well aware of this not being a great situation but my gut feeling is just to hang on in there and keep a low profile til he decides he is ready again to start a relationship - which I feel we're a still in. He is flying over to see me. We are meeting for the day and he is staying with friends. We'll get on; we're best friends but worried about how to feel after our meeting. Any suggestions? Thank you for reading x
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