reboot Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Oh jeez people not ALL affairs turn out like that. No one on here ever says they ALL do. Just most of them.
WhereToGoFromHere Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Have you ever seen the movie, "what the bleep do we know about anything?" It breaks down strong euphoric emotions during infatuation into the true neurochemical reaction going on in our brains, and it is not unlike getting a hit of cocaine. Really worth a watch. So it is little wonder that people feel so great and alive and get swept away. Your marriage has fallen into comfort and predictability. No great surges of exciting neurochemicals here except some oxytocin... Yawn. .....This new friendship makes you feel alive and sexy again. But just like a hit of cocaine, the crash afterwards is bad. See if it helps to think of this as your brain awash with chemicals that are impairing your judgment. Good luck. Hey dazzle, who's in that? I found one reference, is it Marlee Matlin? Is this the right one? I would like to see that. It sounds really interesting!
silverplanets Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I don't know how to get YOU to control yourself YOURSELF ... What would YOU say to one of your kids if they were cheerfully about to do something which was going to hurt them and everyone around them for at least the next 5 years and probably haunt them forever? If all else fails though, make sure you take some video of you and the OW in bed together ... ... cause when you're alone, spanking your plank, with no kids, no wife, no other woman and no friends who respect you any more in a sh*tty little apartment (or whatever) then you'll have a constant reminder of what you gave it all up for ... Oh, i'm not getting at you... we've all been there .. just trying to save you learning the hard way .... It sounds like all was ok with your wife until this hit you out of the blue, so put your effort into getting it back together with your wife ... and pat yourself on the back for the smartest descision of your life. Good luck !
dazzle22 Posted January 24, 2010 Posted January 24, 2010 Hey dazzle, who's in that? I found one reference, is it Marlee Matlin? Is this the right one? I would like to see that. It sounds really interesting! Yep! That is it. Now, I am not saying I buy into everything in the movie, (can't remember it all frankly) but I loved how they showed the 3-D animation of the brain awash in neurochemicals triggered by situations such as flirting, and falling in love that the actors were enacting. When I feel myself getting too emotional about something, I tell myself, this is all pesky neurochemicals and neurotransmitters whipping up a storm. Let them settle down so logic can take over! I think it would help you to frame it that way! After all, being in love is a bit like being high, isn't it? Same pathways, same chemicals.... (No comments from the peanut gallery!)
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