bbrooke Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 (edited) texted me first.. asked me to bring his stuff to work so he could come by and get it.. i asked him to call me instead of texting.. i really wanted to hear his voice.. he was really cold towards me.. he is acting like i did something wrong and that all of the sudden he hates me.. i just don't understand it.. it doesn't make sense.. we aren't kids.. i mean.. we are both in our late 30's.. so no games... i just don't understand the attitude towards me... he was also acting strange.. he said he was outside talking to me.. in the year i've known him he's never went outside to talk on the phone... He didn't want to talk about anything.. i knew that.. i started to try to talk about things.. and he got upset.. that's how we left it.. I'm so confused... how can someone go from I love you soooo soo much.. to hating you? I didn't do anything.. it's a weird feeling i have.. I was up all night again... 3rd night in a row.. i'm so tired.. my brain is going to shut down.... I sent him a long text and that's it... i'm done... i said my Peace.. but I love him so much that i want a response and i'm not going to get one... what now?? Edited January 22, 2010 by bbrooke
cheeze Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 texted me first.. asked me to bring his stuff to work so he could come by and get it.. i asked him to call me instead of texting.. i really wanted to hear his voice.. he was really cold towards me.. he is acting like i did something wrong and that all of the sudden he hates me.. i just don't understand it.. it doesn't make sense.. we aren't kids.. i mean.. we are both in our late 30's.. so no games... i just don't understand the attitude towards me... he was also acting strange.. he said he was outside talking to me.. in the year i've known him he's never went outside to talk on the phone... He didn't want to talk about anything.. i knew that.. i started to try to talk about things.. and he got upset.. that's how we left it.. I'm so confused... how can someone go from I love you soooo soo much.. to hating you? I didn't do anything.. it's a weird feeling i have.. I was up all night again... 3rd night in a row.. i'm so tired.. my brain is going to shut down.... I sent him a long text and that's it... i'm done... i said my Peace.. but I love him so much that i want a response and i'm not going to get one... what now?? 'How can someone' is a really difficult question. I dont think anyone can tell you why or how your ex behaved the way he did. All we can tell you is to keep your cool. Speak to yourself. Think about 'you' for sometime. Dont try to find out reasons for what he did because you will find none. Try to distance yourself from him for now. Stop finding reasons for what is happening with you. Take care.
Ilovecake Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Sorry you’re hurting but this is unfortunately how breakups work. You usually stop talking to each other and start living separate lives. What you are describing 99% of the people on this site experienced. Your post is just not revealing enough to give you an answer or advice. It does however sound like he obviously doesn't want to talk about your past relationship and just wants to move on with his life. Why? No idea, I would imagine it would depend on why you two broke up, what your relationship was like when you were still dating, how serious you were and how long you’ve been together. What now? Your only option is to break all contact, forget about him and move on with your life. Not an easy thing to do but with time it will happen. You’ll probably never get all the answers you want but after a while that won’t matter either.
madisonlayne Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 You may not ever get the response you deserve. It's a coward move on his part, and I'm sorry you're sad. There are SO many good men out there who will love you and your family very much. Allow yourself time to grieve but do take care of yourself. You have 3 little babies that need an emotionally happy mommy.
sedgwick Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Have you asked him? Has he offered an answer? Oh, and one more thing: it's always super helpful when you end sentences with periods instead of ellipses. The neverending sentences make for difficult reading!
sunrae Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Have you asked him? Has he offered an answer? ! It sounds like he doesnt wants to talk, per their last conversation she tried to have with him.. So he probably wont answer the questions even if she did ask. If you keep trying to communicate, he will just get shorter and snappier and sometimes down right hateful.. I dated a guy and we broke up several years ago. I kept wanting to "talk things out" and he didnt.. the conversations just kept getting more and more intense, and my feelings would get more and more hurt, because he just wanted it to end and try to move forward.
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