Khabarak Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 There is a girl in one of my classes who I find physically attractive. I know virtually nothing about her, but I'm hoping to change that soon. Today I forced myself to speak to her. Now, I didn't say much, but enough that she'll at least recognize me next time I see her. Basically I just made a comment about the class we have together, she responded (with a smile), and we parted ways. As I said, nothing significant, but I opened my mouth once, and now I know I can do it again. Miraculously (for me anyway) I wasn't nervous at all. I just wish I didn't have to wait until next Tuesday to talk to her again! =/ On to my questions: I know her name because the professor calls roll each day. I feel like I should still ask her name to be polite. Should I? Or should I go ahead and say something like, "Hey, you're _____, right? I'm _____." Also, assuming that we get to talk a little more next time and I'm still interested, should I go ahead and ask for her phone number before I leave? Is there any reason I should wait?
amagordos Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Just ask her for her name. I think girls like that question, and then she can ask yours and it gives you more to talk about. Don't ask for her number yet, that might freak her out. Talk to her more and see where it goes.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I disagree with "Monica." I'm a chick and it would be totally flattering if the guy knew my name. Either he heard it during role call, or he heard someone else use it and he was PAYING ATTENTION.
Author Khabarak Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 I'm a chick and it would be totally flattering if the guy knew my name. Either he heard it during role call, or he heard someone else use it and he was PAYING ATTENTION. I always pay attention. =) I'm glad you say that though... I would also be happy to know that someone was paying enough attention to me to learn my name. If I didn't have class with her I'd worry that I'd look like a stalker or something. Since I do and she knows it, I feel like it will just let her know I'm interested. Amagordos, thanks for your opinion as well. However, since SoulSearch is a woman I'm probably going to go with her advice. Nothing at all against you. I will, however, definitely take your advice about the phone number. I was weary of asking so soon (seems strange to me), but I've been told by some to ask as soon as possible. Thanks again for your input. I appreciate it very much.
amagordos Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 your welcome, but i am a girl, i just have a different opinion than her. She might be right though, most people would be flattered that you know their name.
dreamergrl Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 I agree, I'd be flattered if a guy knew my name already.
tigressA Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Ditto on the flattery. I was briefly involved with a guy I met in one of my classes last semester. The day we first talked to each other, he said my name and I was very pleasantly surprised and pleased. I joked to him about "stalking" me and it became a running gag with us. We're friends now and we still laugh about it.
Author Khabarak Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 your welcome, but i am a girl, i just have a different opinion than her. She might be right though, most people would be flattered that you know their name. Sorry! I just assumed you were a guy since you said you *think* girls like that question. Obviously that was a false assumption. After all, not all women like the same things so your statement is completely legitimate. =) Thanks for all the replies. I'm glad most of you feel that already knowing her name will be flattering. Now I just hope she's not already taken... Wish me luck and feel free to leave any other input you may have. =) Thanks again.
Author Khabarak Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 It's kind of pathetic, but I've yet to actually follow through with what I've said in this posting. Every day I've managed to come up with some reason why I should just wait until next class period to say something. For the most part it is because she keeps walking away with one of her friends and I feel like I'll come across as rude if I interrupt. Usually my worries are pointless so unless someone tells me that this is actually a legitimate thing to worry about I'm just going to try to join their conversation. Of course I'll do it politely... I'm not just going to butt in. An update: Before today I really had no idea if this girl was at all interested in me, but I'm 95% sure I caught her looking at me today. I happened to glance her direction and notice that she was looking right at me (or appeared to be anyway). At first I turned quickly away (kind of a reflex... don't get caught -- dumb reflex!!), but then I looked back because I decided there was no reason to hide the fact that I wanted to look at her (it's not like I'm constantly staring). I held her stare for a second or two and then smiled. She looked down. Maybe she was just staring in my general direction, I don't know but it sure looked like she was staring at me. I feel like this is a good sign for me. Assuming she was looking at me, do you guys/gals agree? Thanks in advance.
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