ironcross Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Hey guys. I am the same guy who posted my pics for evaluation a couple of days ago. Right now, I am a senior in college, graduating this May. I don't know how it happened, but I have still not had any relationship thus far in life. Should I be worried? What do you think could be the cause? Here is the thread with my pics: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2607016#post2607016
carhill Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 My 'cause' simply was not approaching enough women and unhealthily investing in some who were incompatible. TBH, I think it was more the former than the latter.
bananaboat11 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 C.O.N.F.I.D.E.N.C.E. I'm confident in my (hetero)sexuality to say you're an attractive guy. Work on your self-esteem. Women with low self esteem can get laid easily... Men... forget it. You might as well stick your dick in a power outlet.
Confusedalways Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 We are about the same age and I also haven't had any real relationships in life thus far. You are perfectly normal/ attractive. Someone will come along for you! The first poster is right- you need to be confident
guy.lepage Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 From one straight man to another, I think you're good looking. It's either your attitude OR you're not looking in the right places OR you're spending too much time playing video games with your buddies.
dazzle22 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Odd to me how Tony felt you had enough comments, so, CUT....? You are better looking than about 70% of the world's population. There are very UGLY people out there sporting wedding rings and sitting with the opposite sex stuffing their fat faces at MacDonald's with all their ugly little spawn, so I think we should lay to rest the idea that your lack of romance is looks related? What is your personality like? Are you an alpha or a beta male? My guess is, you are beta. With an alpha persona, and your adequate looks, you would not be lonely...
DiscoChick Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 You are attractive and nice. Plus, you seem to have some kind of future for yourself. I'll take you.
OpenGL Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I'm very glad I'm not a young guy coming up like you. In this generation you are litterally f-ed. I'm sorry. You better start hitting up obese women or paying for it. Luckly when I was comming up women were no where near as bad as they are now so I have actually had quite a few girlfriends and lost my virginity in my teens.
Payden Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I posted in that thread too that got locked.... yes that one...out of all those others. whatever. BTW//I'm a 35 year old virgin, yes I have problems and it sucks bad... You're a good looking dude and seem very nice and respectful..keep it up and you should have no problems. Get out there and start talking to people..don't be shy..don't be me and stay sheltered. The shine of a ,45 looks good when you get into the stage of life I have been in.... don't get like that...go out now away from the computer and be yourself.. Ask that cute girl in the corner if she wants to go see Avatar.... anything, but start now. Again..you are a decent looking guy and very nice on the forum.... This I hope leads to your life off the forum... Good luck and don't worry yourself to death.
USMCHokie Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 You are better looking than about 70% of the world's population. There are very UGLY people out there sporting wedding rings and sitting with the opposite sex stuffing their fat faces at MacDonald's with all their ugly little spawn, so I think we should lay to rest the idea that your lack of romance is looks related? Heheh, I think about this every time I go on a road trip and frequent all those Waffle Houses and Cici's Pizza places up and down the east coast... Ironcross, you remind me a lot of me when I was 21...and 16...and even 23...I will speculate that you're finally getting out of a shell you've created for yourself...before, you may have retreated behind your thoughts that you weren't good looking enough or whatever enough...but in reality, you were just fine the whole time... There's nothing wrong with being a "late bloomer"...you'll have a lot more going for you when you jump into the game with confidence...
Author ironcross Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 I'm very glad I'm not a young guy coming up like you. In this generation you are litterally f-ed. I'm sorry. You better start hitting up obese women or paying for it. Luckly when I was comming up women were no where near as bad as they are now so I have actually had quite a few girlfriends and lost my virginity in my teens. I can always count on your comments to put a smile on my face. Just...stop doing this to yourself.
OpenGL Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I can always count on your comments to put a smile on my face. Just...stop doing this to yourself. I'm not doing anything to myself. I go to work everyday, work on my business, live my life like normal. I just share my experiences and observations on women and relationships. The truth isn't pretty.
dazzle22 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 C.O.N.F.I.D.E.N.C.E. I'm confident in my (hetero)sexuality to say you're an attractive guy. Work on your self-esteem. Women with low self esteem can get laid easily... Men... forget it. You might as well stick your dick in a power outlet. Wow. Is this the same Banaboat I have read on other posts? Sounds like you are growing some "Alpha" cahones....good for you. A little cocky sarcasm is sexy!
dazzle22 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I'm not doing anything to myself. I go to work everyday, work on my business, live my life like normal. I just share my experiences and observations on women and relationships. The truth isn't pretty. Come clean! You really are Woggle aren't you?
bananaboat11 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Wow. Is this the same Banaboat I have read on other posts? Sounds like you are growing some "Alpha" cahones....good for you. A little cocky sarcasm is sexy! You all were nice enough to knock my balls back into place. Whether the ex comes back or not... **** her. No really, I'll **** her and leave. That's all she's good to me now. I'm not really going to give her that pleasure/benefit, though. She doesn't deserve it. No, I'm not being cocky, I'm being honest. Even after our breakup all she could complement me on was the sex... ****, I kept her coming back for more/me. So thank you. I do intend to stick around and pay everyone's kindness forward. When I said I have every right to be cocky, arrogant, conceited, and self absorbed... I was serious. But I'm not. I do suffer symptoms of NGS (Nice Guy Syndrome) I am growing confident again thanks to all of you, back to how I was before meeting Nicole. I love how I can say her name now and not cringe. It's a good feeling. I am content with going to sleep alone... and one day, when the time is right I will meet the right woman. A woman I can love with every waking breath who will love me the same way back. I am not a player. Not a tool. I don't use women. I am not a misogynist. I just need to be more perceptive when entering into a date/relationship... But I think I'm learning more about myself... again, thanks to all of you.
sharkhunter Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Hey guys. I am the same guy who posted my pics for evaluation a couple of days ago. Right now, I am a senior in college, graduating this May. I don't know how it happened, but I have still not had any relationship thus far in life. Should I be worried? What do you think could be the cause? Here is the thread with my pics: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=2607016#post2607016 you're worrying WAY too much. when you meet the right girl it will happen. Concentrate going out with girls to have fun and make them laugh. That's what really turns 'em on. The sex will just come naturally after that.
Itzo Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Come clean! You really are Woggle aren't you? Hey dazzle22 What do u understand by alpha male & beta male? Is there a gamma male?
Satisfaction Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 you're worrying WAY too much. when you meet the right girl it will happen. Concentrate going out with girls to have fun and make them laugh. That's what really turns 'em on. The sex will just come naturally after that. ^ | what shark hunter said! Just do that, you are cute, you are doing interesting things with your life. Put yourself out there the right person will come along. Don't settle for any crappy girl! Pick the best for you
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Odd to me how Tony felt you had enough comments, so, CUT....? It's sorta in line with the community guidelines.
ella23 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 You just need confidence. Being a virgin at 21 is not uncommon.
Author ironcross Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 Thanks guys. Your comments are much appreciated.
dazzle22 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Hey dazzle22 What do u understand by alpha male & beta male? Is there a gamma male? Just my opinion. I think both A and B characteristics are important for everyone of both sexes. And they have positive and negative sides of the coin. I really like what Mem11363 said about this. Alpha being the positive assertive protector pole, beta being the sensitive nurturing pole. Everyone is on this continuum, but the key I think is being on the right side of the teeter totter at the right time. If a person is too beta in a situation where they can be taken advantage of, they tend to get walked on. A person who is exhibiting the negative alpha pole is aggressive and not assertive. Just the right mix is very attractive. Hmmm, what would gamma be?...Like a gamma ray? Cut through the fog, no BS?
bananaboat11 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Just my opinion. I think both A and B characteristics are important for everyone of both sexes. And they have positive and negative sides of the coin. I really like what Mem11363 said about this. Alpha being the positive assertive protector pole, beta being the sensitive nurturing pole. Everyone is on this continuum, but the key I think is being on the right side of the teeter totter at the right time. If a person is too beta in a situation where they can be taken advantage of, they tend to get walked on. A person who is exhibiting the negative alpha pole is aggressive and not assertive. Just the right mix is very attractive. Hmmm, what would gamma be?...Like a gamma ray? Cut through the fog, no BS? Gamma would be the person sitting at home on his computer... weighing in at 340 lbs... at 5'4"... no shaven or showered in weeks... pretending to be something/someone he / she is not. could be any one of us...
dazzle22 Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 You mean that's not your real picture? Now you really have me wondering what you look like, BB! haha:p
Disillusioned Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 BTW//I'm a 35 year old virgin, yes I have problems and it sucks bad... 35 is a bad age for a man to be lonely, because women won't give him the time of day. However, time wounds all heels... I happen to be a 42-yo virgin (and no I don't feel gypped), but I honestly feel that IRL my clean slate of a sex life is nobody else's damn business.
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