Disillusioned Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Sounds like a case of "the grass is always greener..."
Author juan1212 Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 Hey Disillusioned! What exactly does that mean?
bittersweet memories Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Oh yeah I forgot to add this.. After she canceled on friday she didnt contact me at all the rest of the weekend. So I texted her on sunday nite just to say hi. ME: Hey babe How are u? Her: ( an hour later) Hey how was the game? ME: Good how was your weekend? Her: OK ME: Aww wish you could have to come to the game. She didnt respond to that.. So I waited a couple days and texted her on wednesday "Hey whats up? Hows it going? She didnt answer that and havent heard from her since. I guess shes just not interested and I know i have to accept that and move on but its just bothering me. I feel like texting her but cant casue I dont have her numer ( which is probably good ). I know I feel better in some time and be thanking myself that I didnt get invloved with this crazy chick.. It doesn't sound good...by just ignoring your text thats not a good sign. Its all fresh right now and seems difficult to move on but I promise there is a light in the end of the tunnel. Keep moving forward and keep yourself busy eventually she will be just a memory.
Author juan1212 Posted January 23, 2010 Author Posted January 23, 2010 Thanks Bittersweet! Thanks for the advice. I have that feeling where I wish she would contact me but I really dont want her too. You know what I mean? I just feel disrespected and lead on. Its a wave of emotions angry, sad, depressed, etc..
Satisfaction Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 Hi everyone!! I have a couple more questions any answers would help.. I can't stop thinking about this girl, how do I get over it and move on? Ive been going out and can't stop comparing other girls to her, how do I stop that? I could have a date with this cute girl tonight but I just dont feel up to it for some reason.. Should I do it anyway? If and when she texts/calls should I answer it?? I don't know. But if you find out please post it!
Author juan1212 Posted January 24, 2010 Author Posted January 24, 2010 Satisfaction, I will do if I ever find out. All I ever hear is that it takes time. I remember when I broke up with my ex it took a while.. This relationship was really short so Im sure it wont take long for me.
boogieboy Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 Thanks Bittersweet! Thanks for the advice. I have that feeling where I wish she would contact me but I really dont want her too. You know what I mean? I just feel disrespected and lead on. Its a wave of emotions angry, sad, depressed, etc.. You WERE led on. She held onto you until she found someone new. Thats why she kept texting you and then ignored you. She moved onto someone new and left you wondering. Cold hearted bitch she is. So now you can move on knowing this. You dont want to be witn someon who wasnt even mature enough to break it off with you.
Author juan1212 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Yup I sure was led on. Its getting better I only think about it for half the day instead of all day. She really is a cold hearted bitch. I should have gone with mt gut feeling and ended it myself after she stood me up. It just amazes me how someone can just shut you out and treat you like crap after you were nothing but a gentlemen. It really is her loss cause your not going to do much better then me.
Author juan1212 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Oh and I know she will try to get back it touch with me at some point once the new or old guy starts treating her bad. She will realize that she never should have done that to me when she gets ignored. I will never again give a women a second chance Ive been burned way too many times for that.
make me believe Posted January 25, 2010 Posted January 25, 2010 The no-call no-show to your date should have been a dealbreaker. A guy did that to me once and I stopped talking to him completely. Not even calling to apologize & cancel is unacceptable! I mean, really, that's just SO rude. The guy that did it to me seems similar to this girl... he would call/txt occasionally after that, but I just stopped responding. I don't have time to deal with people like that. This girl is trying to keep you on the back burner "just in case". Don't let her!!
Author juan1212 Posted January 25, 2010 Author Posted January 25, 2010 Hey make me believe! Yeah it really is rude and really disrespectful. I should have ignored her and never talked to her again after she stood me up.. She just kept texting me and made me believe she was still interested so I gave her a chance to prove it. Once she said she "had to run out for a while and would text me when she got home" I made other plans for the nite cause I knew i wasnt going to see her that nite. I honestly think this girl likes being treated badly by men I guess i should have been more of an butthole. HAHA
Author juan1212 Posted January 27, 2010 Author Posted January 27, 2010 Hey everyone!! I just wanted to give an update and write some things out.. First off thanks to everyone who replied to my thread.. This site is the best it really makes you see whats going on and the people here give great advice. So its been a week and a half since Ive heard from her and I feel much better than 7 days ago. I know my situation wasnt a big deal but it did interupt my life for a while. I realize now that this girl was just playing games with me and I was most likely the rebound guy. While it sucks to be a rebound I now know never to get involved with someone who is fresh out of a relationship and or who still talks to her baby daddy who still has feelings for her.. I still think about her but when I do I try to remember how she treated me and how much of a bitch she was. By thinking like this it makes me not want her and have nothing ever to do with her. I had a gut feeling well before this happened that she was playing games but I just didnt want to belive it.. My gut has always been right involving women so from now on I will follow it no matter my heart tells me.. I have 1 more question if anyone can help? Do you think these type of people ( who ignore you and treat you like crap ) ever regret what they did?
Satisfaction Posted February 2, 2010 Posted February 2, 2010 congrats on your 7 actually now 14 days. Sorry for delay! I don't think that they do and if they do its momentarily a long time down the line. I think if they are truly sorry they will risk wrath or indifference and tell you that they are sorry. These memories stay with you but i use them by calling on them when I see myself drifting down the path of stupidity. That is possibly not a healthy thing to do.
Author juan1212 Posted February 3, 2010 Author Posted February 3, 2010 congrats on your 7 actually now 14 days. Sorry for delay! I don't think that they do and if they do its momentarily a long time down the line. I think if they are truly sorry they will risk wrath or indifference and tell you that they are sorry. These memories stay with you but i use them by calling on them when I see myself drifting down the path of stupidity. That is possibly not a healthy thing to do. Hey thanks!! Yeah Its been 2 weeks today that I initiated any type of contact with her. She texted me last thursday ( while I was on a date ) and of course I didnt answer. I posted another thread and the great people here made me realize what a fool I would be to respond to her bread crums. I mean did this girl actually think I was going to answer after she ignored me and treated me like she did. I seriously cant belive I actually took this girl out after she stood me up with no apolgy.. Really stupid on my part, but you live and learn. I can say that I feel much better after these 2 weeks of not speaking to her, so at least thats good. I only feel bad about being rejected and wasting my valuable time on her.
Satisfaction Posted February 6, 2010 Posted February 6, 2010 I can say that I feel much better after these 2 weeks of not speaking to her, so at least thats good. I only feel bad about being rejected and wasting my valuable time on her. so good to hear that! Congratulations and well done! Hope you find the person who truly deserves you!
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