Author Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 In my opinion, yes. She admits to, but then minimizes and glosses over a lot of her more contradictory and hypocritical actions, which is a common human way of rationalizing drama. She does not seem to be able to see the forest for the trees. Sometimes this requires a bit of a shock to the system, better it be from a blunt stranger than a broken heart when a decent man gets tired of what he might reasonably perceive as headgames. let me just say that i treat him like a king and if there is one thing he could get tired of is being treated with so much respect...i am human and we all have our "pet peeves" or whatever you want to call them. i would prefer more romance and security in a relationship, that doesnt make me a bad person or doesnt mean i dont appreciate him because i do and the fact that i am waiting on him and not bailing because he "might" move soon, shows that i truly do care and want to give this a shot.
Stung Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 yes we have talked about it a few times..he said i could move with him and live together but at this moment i have to finish school..we both agreed to not be in a long distance relationship...so if he moves, it will be over. May I ask, how old are each of you? How close are you to finishing school? Does he have any idea where he might be moving to yet? Even if you decided against a LDR, would you stay in touch?
Author Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 May I ask, how old are each of you? How close are you to finishing school? Does he have any idea where he might be moving to yet? Even if you decided against a LDR, would you stay in touch? i am 21 and he is 27...i am not close to finishing school because after my bachelors i am going straight for my masters. he might move in a state that is very far from where we live now and yeah we would stay in touch but we wouldnt be together.
jw90063 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 yes we have talked about it a few times..he said i could move with him and live together but at this moment i have to finish school..we both agreed to not be in a long distance relationship...so if he moves, it will be over. Hmm..... Well you either move with him, or wait until after school, OR transfer to another school where he would be located. This is if he even moves, and he's not at the moment. I guess some people just won't do LDR's, but if you feel that strongly about someone, you would do it, if you had no other choice. It doesn't have to be a permanent thing. You should just sit down and talk to him, and tell him it's really bothering you. Don't seem like you are completely freaked out by it, but just calmly bring it up, and talk about it. I wouldn't worry about the other stuff(him not being romantic enough) because it sounds like he really likes you.
Author Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 Hmm..... Well you either move with him, or wait until after school, OR transfer to another school where he would be located. This is if he even moves, and he's not at the moment. I guess some people just won't do LDR's, but if you feel that strongly about someone, you would do it, if you had no other choice. It doesn't have to be a permanent thing. You should just sit down and talk to him, and tell him it's really bothering you. Don't seem like you are completely freaked out by it, but just calmly bring it up, and talk about it. I wouldn't worry about the other stuff(him not being romantic enough) because it sounds like he really likes you. thank you for all your advice..i do really like him but i wouldnt be willing to leave everything here and move far away unless we were very serious, which is not the case at this moment...i guess i'll just leave it all up to God..what's meant to be will be..
boogieboy Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 WOW you are young, well you have some growing up to do before realizing that you dont really need all the lovey dovey stuff. But I would think, from personal experience that greeting you with "hey beautiful" as opposed to "hey" is one of the ways he is keeping his distance. Like he would be more romantic, but since he doesnt want to go all in yet, that type of romance stays with his heart. Knwo what I mean? You will have to be patient with that, if thats the case. And he has a good point of wanting you to pay sometimes. Even if you are broke, he doesnt want to get you used to being completely dependent, and expecting him to pay all the time. Its working, you offer to pay, but when you offer, dont gripe about it. If you want him to pay all the time, you better tell him that and tell him why so he understands your point of view. If you want to this to be serious, it will come up again. If youre the type of girl that wants to be completely taken care of, and wants her man to pamper her financially, let him know now. If not, then pay sometimes.
nicolesanders27 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I understand your part, every woman wants to feel the romantic side of their man. But it isn't good to almost compare the way your man now shows his affection to you and how your ex boyfriend had shown his before. Why not ask and talk to him about that so he could explain and you can open up your feelings? That way, he'll be able to know and maybe, he'll find a way to show that kind of romance that you were asking in a few days. ;-) Good luck, beautiful! :-)
Peter Attis Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Honey, you need to dump that zero and get you a hero!
Satisfaction Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 You could just try telling him. No one can be perfect though. You are not with your ex anymore probably because he messed up in someway? Sorry i haven't read through the whole thread. This guy must do some things better than the other guy. How important is it that he does that? Its pretty important to me but mostly if you say to a guy i really like it when you text me with cute names they normally are quite happy to do that.
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