Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 im happy with the man in my life right now..he's amazing in so many ways, i would be ungreatful to say anything bad about him or to not appreciate him but there's one thing that bothers me somewhat and am wondering if it's dumb.. i've always been the type of girl who likes to be showered with flowers and things like that. also when my ex used to text me, he would always start with "hey beautiful, or hey my princess, hey my pretty lady"...etc etc...when my current texts me its always like "hey, and blah blah blah"...or even when he calls or sees me...he doesnt even say "hey babe" hes like "heeeeyyyy you i miss you"...i know this may sound so stupid to you guys but i just feel annoyed by it...also as i said hes AMAZING and compliments me all the time on everything but hes not the very sentimental type..like you know the romantic stuff u see in movies or that i had with my ex like "i could stare into your eyes forever...etc etc" he thinks thats cheesy... he does tell me he misses me and cant wait to see me and soo many compliments...and although im so thankful for everything he is, i cant help but want more....i especially hate the whole "hey, how's your day" thing...instead of "hey my love, how are you?:love: lol am i being weird??? what do you guys think?? would it bother you if you were in my shoes?
sagetalk Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Why do you want your BF to be like your ex? Let your ex be your ex and BF be your BF. Like him for who is, or don't like him it's a free country. Yes, I think it is silly.
OnlyJake Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 would it bother you if you were in my shoes? No, that wouldn't bother me.
jw90063 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 im happy with the man in my life right now..he's amazing in so many ways, i would be ungreatful to say anything bad about him or to not appreciate him but there's one thing that bothers me somewhat and am wondering if it's dumb.. i've always been the type of girl who likes to be showered with flowers and things like that. also when my ex used to text me, he would always start with "hey beautiful, or hey my princess, hey my pretty lady"...etc etc...when my current texts me its always like "hey, and blah blah blah"...or even when he calls or sees me...he doesnt even say "hey babe" hes like "heeeeyyyy you i miss you"...i know this may sound so stupid to you guys but i just feel annoyed by it...also as i said hes AMAZING and compliments me all the time on everything but hes not the very sentimental type..like you know the romantic stuff u see in movies or that i had with my ex like "i could stare into your eyes forever...etc etc" he thinks thats cheesy... he does tell me he misses me and cant wait to see me and soo many compliments...and although im so thankful for everything he is, i cant help but want more....i especially hate the whole "hey, how's your day" thing...instead of "hey my love, how are you?:love: lol am i being weird??? what do you guys think?? would it bother you if you were in my shoes? Actually I know exactly what you mean. It's not that you want him to be like your EX, but that was an admirable trait your ex had, and you would like it with future partners. I prefer more of what you are saying as well. I think if I had a boyfriend who didn't say those things, or do certain things it would bother me to some extent. I mean nothing overboard, but I like "hey beautiful", and things like that.
Porn_Guy Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 lol am i being weird??? yes you're being weird
Pizzaman81 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Hey sexy, you need to grow up in your way of thinking. You need to look past all that superficial crap with the words. I swear people say "I love you" like it just comes rolling out of their mouth, "BABE, BABE, I LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU" it starts to mean nothing... and when time comes they will still leave. So just remember that you are happy, and that you have a man that loves you. Action speaks louder than words... Ok babe?
Author Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 Actually I know exactly what you mean. It's not that you want him to be like your EX, but that was an admirable trait your ex had, and you would like it with future partners. I prefer more of what you are saying as well. I think if I had a boyfriend who didn't say those things, or do certain things it would bother me to some extent. I mean nothing overboard, but I like "hey beautiful", and things like that. thank you for understanding thats exactly what i mean,
Author Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 Hey sexy, you need to grow up in your way of thinking. You need to look past all that superficial crap with the words. I swear people say "I love you" like it just comes rolling out of their mouth, "BABE, BABE, I LOVE YOU, LOVE YOU" it starts to mean nothing... and when time comes they will still leave. So just remember that you are happy, and that you have a man that loves you. Action speaks louder than words... Ok babe? LOL you're funny...hahahah...thanks BABE for your opinion. lol also im not saying this bothers me EXTREMELY and i dont want him to be like my ex, i simply want him to be more "romantic" i guess is the word? lol
jw90063 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 LOL you're funny...hahahah...thanks BABE for your opinion. lol also im not saying this bothers me EXTREMELY and i dont want him to be like my ex, i simply want him to be more "romantic" i guess is the word? lol The thing is, this is probably how he has always been and there probably isn't much you can do to change it. Even if he starts being more romantic, it is not entirely sincere obviously. I mean it would be nice of him to please you by saying things you want him to, but its not really who he is, or he would already be doing it. If you tell him you would like him to be more romantic, he probably won't get it. I want a guy to say/do things because he wants to, not after the fact I bring it up.
Stung Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 im happy with the man in my life right now..he's amazing in so many ways, i would be ungreatful to say anything bad about him or to not appreciate him but there's one thing that bothers me somewhat and am wondering if it's dumb.. i've always been the type of girl who likes to be showered with flowers and things like that. also when my ex used to text me, he would always start with "hey beautiful, or hey my princess, hey my pretty lady"...etc etc...when my current texts me its always like "hey, and blah blah blah"...or even when he calls or sees me...he doesnt even say "hey babe" hes like "heeeeyyyy you i miss you"...i know this may sound so stupid to you guys but i just feel annoyed by it...also as i said hes AMAZING and compliments me all the time on everything but hes not the very sentimental type..like you know the romantic stuff u see in movies or that i had with my ex like "i could stare into your eyes forever...etc etc" he thinks thats cheesy... he does tell me he misses me and cant wait to see me and soo many compliments...and although im so thankful for everything he is, i cant help but want more....i especially hate the whole "hey, how's your day" thing...instead of "hey my love, how are you?:love: lol am i being weird??? what do you guys think?? would it bother you if you were in my shoes? You're going to nitpick this poor guy right out the door and into the arms of a woman who will actually appreciate him.
Kristine Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 After you have romance nothing is going to compare. You'll have to remind yourself why he's an ex instead of remembering all the things you loved about him. I'm with a Mr. Romance now and I love it! I want to keep him forever, but I just want to see if he wants to keep me.
jw90063 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Well, at least if he compliments the OP often(as she says), and does ask her how her day is going and all, that's a very good thing at least. OP, how long have you been dating him? If you haven't been dating that long, it could be it takes him more time to say certain things.
Author Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 You're going to nitpick this poor guy right out the door and into the arms of a woman who will actually appreciate him. there is no need to be rude...if you read my post i said i DO appreciate him very much...jeeez all im saying is it wouldnt hurt to hear "hey beautiful" instead of "hey" when he calls.. however he does tell me that all the time..you're so beautiful, im lucky to have you...etc....its just when he greets me, its always like "hey, what's up?" i guess it does sound silly...everything else is perfect though so thats why i dont stress it that much...
Author Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 Well, at least if he compliments the OP often(as she says), and does ask her how her day is going and all, that's a very good thing at least. OP, how long have you been dating him? If you haven't been dating that long, it could be it takes him more time to say certain things. we have been dating for 5-6 months...its a great relationship, but its not the "i would give everything for you, you're my world" type of relationship..its more like "you make so happy,i love spendind time with you and i like you alot.." it's hard to explain..
jw90063 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 we have been dating for 5-6 months...its a great relationship, but its not the "i would give everything for you, you're my world" type of relationship..its more like "you make so happy,i love spendind time with you and i like you alot.." it's hard to explain.. Ok, you said he does tell you all the time "you're beautiful", and he is lucky to have you. I wouldn't worry so much about him not saying "hey beautiful", but as far as other things, that's just not who he is. He already said it's cheesy.
Orchid8 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 It wouldn't bother me. I like the sweet gestures and all but it wouldn't be something I would gripe about if he didn't do it.
Author Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 ok thank you everyone..i appreciate all your responses..
Stung Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 there is no need to be rude...if you read my post i said i DO appreciate him very much...jeeez all im saying is it wouldnt hurt to hear "hey beautiful" instead of "hey" when he calls.. however he does tell me that all the time..you're so beautiful, im lucky to have you...etc....its just when he greets me, its always like "hey, what's up?" i guess it does sound silly...everything else is perfect though so thats why i dont stress it that much... I'm not trying to be rude, I am responding honestly to your post, as somebody with (I'm guessing) a LOT more relationship experience than you and excellent reading comprehension. He texts you to ask about your day and tell you he misses you, he compliments you...you claim you appreciate this but it doesn't sound like you really do when you rush past it to to complain that he doesn't call you a princess or feed you romantic lines from the movies. In my opinion, it sounds like he's a lot more sincere than some guy who calls you babe all the time and says he wants to stare into your eyes forever--most guys who frequently say things like that to women do it because it's a quick way into their pants, not because there's pure poetry in their souls. Look for the poetry in the small things, in his actions. This guy sounds like he is treating you with actual respect. And all women love to be told they are beautiful or special, but you say he showers you with compliments, so is he not doing this already? In my opinion, you are nitpicking.
harmfulsweetz Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Romance will never be the same as in the movies, firstly. It would either come across as romantic and sweet, or cheesy and well, silly. You say he's amazing right? Appreciate him for the things he does, instead of the things he doesn't do. Once we all start to appreciate the people in our lives for who they are, instead of what they could be, or who we want them to be, we will all be happier.
Author Ilovehim Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 I'm not trying to be rude, I am responding honestly to your post, as somebody with (I'm guessing) a LOT more relationship experience than you and excellent reading comprehension. He texts you to ask about your day and tell you he misses you, he compliments you...you claim you appreciate this but it doesn't sound like you really do when you rush past it to to complain that he doesn't call you a princess or feed you romantic lines from the movies. In my opinion, it sounds like he's a lot more sincere than some guy who calls you babe all the time and says he wants to stare into your eyes forever--most guys who frequently say things like that to women do it because it's a quick way into their pants, not because there's pure poetry in their souls. Look for the poetry in the small things, in his actions. This guy sounds like he is treating you with actual respect. And all women love to be told they are beautiful or special, but you say he showers you with compliments, so is he not doing this already? In my opinion, you are nitpicking. thank you..no i truly understand what you mean..that's why i don't make a big deal about it..because he is a great guy and trust me i appreciate him alot..he does compliment me all the time...i guess as dumb as it sounds its simply about when he texts me or calls me..the way he greets me i guess..its always like "hey, etc etc" instead of "hey gorgeous etc etc..." LOL i realize this sounds sooo dumb..and perhaps it is
harmfulsweetz Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 thank you..no i truly understand what you mean..that's why i don't make a big deal about it..because he is a great guy and trust me i appreciate him alot..he does compliment me all the time...i guess as dumb as it sounds its simply about when he texts me or calls me..the way he greets me i guess..its always like "hey, etc etc" instead of "hey gorgeous etc etc..." LOL i realize this sounds sooo dumb..and perhaps it is Perhaps you are just in the habit of one way of doing things, and need to snap out of it, and find a new way? Either way, sounds like you've got a good guy there, appreciate him for what he is.
OceanTropic Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 You need to relax lol. Not all men are romantic like that, most of them aren't actually. Men don't usually put their emotions on display like that, even if its to you. He's just a different type of guy, nothing to worry about
jw90063 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 most guys who frequently say things like that to women do it because it's a quick way into their pants, not because there's pure poetry in their souls. In my opinion, you are nitpicking. Yes, honestly I was thinking this. I still like the occasional "hey beautiful", or romantic stuff, but come to think of it the two guys who tried to be overly romantic turned out to be jerks and all. It seems like more of the flirty types go that route. It just shouldn't be overboard, but I like romantic.
sagetalk Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I would suggest to start associating positive things with your boyfriend rather than your ex. If he does something better than your ex, then dwell on that rather than the opposite. Say to yourself, "My BF is so much better at Y than my ex was". It will change your attitude entirely. Don't fall for the grass is always greener syndrome. Fight it, you'll be glad you did .
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