Why am I being treated like the enemy?

[cberry297]

After having my husband tell me he wanted a divorce after 22 years I was devastated! The first few weeks I was like a wet noodle unable to fuction. So now I realize he is serious and there is nothing I can do. Because he is still putting his check from work in the joint checking and giving me money for household items, I am continuing my part laundry, cleaning ,cooking. So why all of the sudden am I being treated like the enemy. I've agreed to how he wants to split everything and I am being civil. He won't barely talk to me, he won't eat the food I cook, he acts like I am the one that started all of this. Can someone please tell me why all of the sudden I am being treated like ****!!!

[Brooke79]

If you don't have any kids are anything to complicate your departure, just leave and don't sit around and be treated like crap while he is somewhere treating some other woman like she is worth more than you. If I could right now I would take my kids and leave, but the house is in my name only, I work nights and need my job for insurance and pay so I am stuck and pregnant!

[PWSX3]

I would HIGHLY suggest that you don't just give him anything he wants. I would HIGHLY recommend you go see a lawyer.

 

I know to many people that went along with things just to be "NICE" and then when it was all over they were the ones that got screwed......

 

He has to be mean to you (in his eyes) so someone else is to be blamed for what he is doing. He can't validate what he is doing so he is taking it out on you.

 

I would like to suggest you see a lawyer & don't just agree with everything he says, I'm sure you will regret it when it's all over. No this isn't a double typo, just wanting to make sure you get the suggestion....

[El Ben]

My guess is that he is decoupling, and doesn't want you to get the idea that he has changed his mind, you know, being cruel to be kind. Unfortunately he appears to be going about it totally wrong.