Do we have to tell each other everything we know?

[jochris]

Hello. Firstly, I'd like to tell that I'm not married. I'm still 17 and what I want to discuss is about my crush.

 

She is an introvert person and I'm a very sensitive person. I'm a type that is always try to do the best and what's annoying is I keep asking her which things I should do and don't. She always gets annoyed with my unimportant questions such as 'Do you like muscled man? Why?'

 

I know that she has crush on me too and we are very close so I imagine her as my spouse. That's why I always trust her not anyone else. I just joined this forum and I still wondering can I trust anyone around.

I mean, when you are man and wife, surely you have to know each other, do we have to share and tell each other what we know and we want to know?

 

If yes, why is my crush always get upset, mad, and think I'm annoying with those questions, so who should I ask?

Can we ask anyone(especially in this forum) beside our spouse and is it OK that she doesn't know it?

Do I have to tell her everything I write in this forum?

Thanks

Edited January 21, 2010 by jochris

[carhill]

My first advice would be to date her before telling her your life story. Then, as time goes by, share a little at a time. At 17, your questions are generally many and your answers generally few. So, experience life together and answer each other's questions.

 

Remember, ask her out on a date. Good luck

[1000]

Hello. Firstly, I'd like to tell that I'm not married. I'm still 17 and what I want to discuss is about my crush.

 

She is an introvert person and I'm a very sensitive person. I'm a type that is always try to do the best and what's annoying is I keep asking her which things I should do and don't. She always gets annoyed with my unimportant questions such as 'Do you like muscled man? Why?'

 

I know that she has crush on me too and we are very close so I imagine her as my spouse. That's why I always trust her not anyone else. I just joined this forum and I still wondering can I trust anyone around.

I mean, when you are man and wife, surely you have to know each other, do we have to share and tell each other what we know and we want to know?

 

If yes, why is my crush always get upset, mad, and think I'm annoying with those questions, so who should I ask?

Can we ask anyone(especially in this forum) beside our spouse and is it OK that she doesn't know it?

Do I have to tell her everything I write in this forum?

Thanks

 

 

O.K. here's a hint. As you are apparently new to this "relationship" stuff let me give you a couple of rules to try to follow--

 

1. If you are doing or saying something that seems to be getting your girl upset, mad, expressing negative emotions, then STOP whatever it is you are saying or doing that is having that effect on her. For gosh sake DON'T keep doing it or doing it more insistently.

 

2. If you are doing something or saying something and it makes her laugh or smile or want to touch you and be nice to you, KEEP DOING OR SAYING whatever it is that is having that effect.

[jochris]

thanks, I'll try

i still have one my question left unanswered, if we are man and wife, should we tell each other everything we have in mind? or can we just leave the unimportant things left unsaid?

 

anyway, i'm a newbie here, can't I edit the post I've submitted above.. it has grammatically mistakes, my english is pretty bad

[jochris]

lol she's so introvert you could never imagine.. i can't imagine she is asking that way -__-

well let's take it as I'm not referring her as my wife

let's just talk about a future wife, whoever she'll be..so what do you think?

[jochris]

My first advice would be to date her before telling her your life story. Then, as time goes by, share a little at a time. At 17, your questions are generally many and your answers generally few. So, experience life together and answer each other's questions.

 

Remember, ask her out on a date. Good luck

 

hey thanks for your advice. it really helps. i talked about it with her and she agreed. now I won't ask tons of not-so-important questions in a time then do it over and over. i'll ask when I think it's neccessary. time will answer everything, I just have to enjoy my time with her, stop thinking too far of the future.