wakeman Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 (edited) Hi im new here.... i actually just signed up cuz i was reading some forums and i thought i could post a question to get some help... Me and my girl friend dated for 6 months. I was her first love and i loved her dearly. she was everything ive ever wanted and the most perfect girl i have ever dated. when i met her i new she was leaving to school to byu idaho for in 6 months, but i took the risk of falling in love and laying my heart out there, cuz i never knew where love would take us. as we dated longer it was slowly apparent that we both wanted to get married. she planned on going away for only a semester to please her parents and to show them that we could live without eachother and still be madly in love. she is only 18, but we are of the mormon culture and it is accustomed that we usually get married young so this wasnt of an issue. we always talked about her coming back after the semester and getting married and starting our life together. I had full faith and confidence that she would return to me. well she left to school and it started getting "wierd" i guess u could say. i sent her flowers on the first day of school i wrote her letters called to say i loved her, but there was just an eaarryyy feeling like i wasnt getting the same response and love back that i would always usually get. you can just tell when youve been in love and all the sudden you "stopped" being loved and someones starts pulling away. after a week she told me that she feels like she needs to be up there for 2 semsters now. i told her i supposrt her and love her and will be waiting. then as the week went on she told me she didnt know what she wants and her eyes have been open and she sees she wants to do so much more with her life... i try to talk on the phone with her and she said its not a good idea cuz it will just make things harder. she tells me shouldnt talk as much cuz it will be hard on her until she figues out what she wants in life. i respected it and told her ill be waiting till she figures out what she wants out of our relationship. then last night i told her that i cant just be led on a string like this just "wondering" what will come of us that its not healthy and i cant keep loving her if she doesnt love me back. She then let it out and told me that we need to move on with our lives in seperrate ways and that we have so many different goals and that she can never see it working between us!!! she said she still loves me but it just wont work. i told her i respected her decision, but in the same respect if we could not contact eachother so it would make the moving on and grieving process move faster, so i just dont sit with an open wound and everytime she talks to me its like pouring a little salt in teasing me. that i just need to sew up the wound let it heal and move on..... im sooooooooooooo in a mess right now, i feel hurt, confused.... never loved at all.. i mean how could someone that says they really love u and seem so devoted, just gove up and change in a matter of less then 3 weeks? does she seee all the eligible guys up there and realize she just picked a lousy guy and made a bad decision? i mean im just sooo lost? did i make a wrong choice by telling her we shouldnt contact eachother? did i burn my bridges? please help me!!! what should i do? please any input will help..... Edited January 21, 2010 by wakeman wrong spelling
Author wakeman Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 why isnt anyone answering me? i need help here!!
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