USMCHokie Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I'm going on what I've heard some people whose partners or husbands have died and said they think it was easier for them than if their partner had stopped loving them, abandoned them, cheated on them, if they die still loving you the love is there forever, they avoid the heartbreak of rejection and the hoping of reconciliation. My partner hasn't died but I am depressed and I don't know when it will stop. Last time he left me I pretended to myself he didn't exist anymore as a way of coping and cutting myself off from pain because while he's in the world I still want him. But he still exists and the what ifs and the silly hope and the fear of him meeting someone else. You might laugh at me, but I watched the movie 'P.S. I Love You' last night, and this topic was one of the main themes of the movie... When you lose your partner to death, it's not something either of you choose...but when a partner leaves you, it's by their choice...someone choosing not to be with you...I think this goes beyond just a hope of reconciliation or having to live with the thought of that ex being with someone else...in the end it's simple rejection by someone you loved...and someone who loved you... Rejection is painful, whether it be asking for a person's number at the bar, or after many years in a relationship...and for that, I think it's worse when a partner leaves you...
EricaH329 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I'm going on what I've heard some people whose partners or husbands have died and said they think it was easier for them than if their partner had stopped loving them, abandoned them, cheated on them, if they die still loving you the love is there forever, they avoid the heartbreak of rejection and the hoping of reconciliation. My partner hasn't died but I am depressed and I don't know when it will stop. Last time he left me I pretended to myself he didn't exist anymore as a way of coping and cutting myself off from pain because while he's in the world I still want him. But he still exists and the what ifs and the silly hope and the fear of him meeting someone else. No offense, but all of that sounds extremely selfish. They don't get heartbroken, they don't feel abandoned, they don't feel worthless, etc etc. I understand that you need to put yourself first and foremost, but at the expense of anothers life? Just because one human being doesn't care for you the way you care for them, doesn't mean they should have their life ended to spare you the hurt and rejection. Heartbreak is a part of life. It's what makes us stronger and grow as a human being. Without it, how will we know who we ultimately want to be with? Pain in every form blows, but it has to be endured. Preferring a loved one to die as opposed to them leaving you, in my honest opinion, is the cowards way out. No Offense!!!!!!
Author McGrupp Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 (edited) where has my thread gone? just j/k Edited January 22, 2010 by McGrupp
nobmagnet Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 it went in to debate land darling!!!!!!!! you always provoke!!!!!!! your like a mascot. we all love you! i always think.........oh **** whats he done now and i recon we all want you to feel good. hugs nobby xxxxx
Author McGrupp Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 i appreciate that. cant wait to come back in 2 years, tell you about the girl i met, invite you all to the wedding...
sunrae Posted January 23, 2010 Posted January 23, 2010 i feel good though. pretty good. way better then i did. even breaking NC NYE, i still dont hate myself. i miss her vagina i think the most and her cooking. her laugh was nice too. but the vagina. i like those things. OMG McGrupp...That was the line of the night.... Thanks for the laugh... And yo know they make fake ones of those (so I hear)
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