Why women love black men

[Woggle]

:lmao: Brilliant.

 

You know, I realize that I am in a different generation from that of my parents, but WOW. My uncle thinks it is so important to date within the African American race. I don't know if he noticed, but around here, most of them have too many kids, sell drugs, have been to jail, don't have a job/education, or are just genuinely not interested in me [feeling is mutual]. I cannot be in a relationship with someone I have nothing in common with. I don't care what race he is.

 

I see I found another black woman that hates black men. If I were single I would have no problem dating or even marrying a black woman but if they get the I hate black men kick I would run.

[Clep]

Unfortunately, that's not always the case. I've met women who appeared overtly racist and made disparaging remarks about blacks only to later find out that these same women had slept with black men. It's like they treat this aspect of their life as their dirty little secret.

 

 

I very much doubt it.

 

Sounds to me like the people you choose in your life have poor values.

[Johnny M]

Sounds to me like the people you choose in your life have poor values.

You are confused. These are the people I chose not to have in my life.

[ella23]

You are confused. These are the people I chose not to have in my life.

So you think that anyone who dates someone from another race has poor values?

[OpenGL]

Johnny, do you have a problem with black men only or any non-white man?

[Johnny M]

So you think that anyone who dates someone from another race has poor values?

You can it whatever you want. The bottom line is that it's a huge turn off for me.

[tigressA]

:lmao: Brilliant.

 

You know, I realize that I am in a different generation from that of my parents, but WOW. My uncle thinks it is so important to date within the African American race. I don't know if he noticed, but around here, most of them have too many kids, sell drugs, have been to jail, don't have a job/education, or are just genuinely not interested in me [feeling is mutual]. I cannot be in a relationship with someone I have nothing in common with. I don't care what race he is.

 

My black extended family feels the same way your uncle does, but then I'll often hear from them about how black men are in our area and the comments are always negative. I do know plenty of black men who are good men and would make a good partner for a woman--but I never found myself attracted to them, even after getting to know them. I had a black guy pursue me romantically a couple of times my first few years of college; we were friends, and it would've been nice if I had felt more for him but it just never happened.

[Johnny M]

Johnny, do you have a problem with black men only or any non-white man?

To be clear, I'm not just talking about black man/white woman couples. I find white man/black woman pairs just as unsavory. As for other interracial couples (i.e. white/asian), I also don't like them, although not to the same degree.

[Clep]

You are confused. These are the people I chose not to have in my life.

 

So your perceptions are based up the behaviors of people you choose not to have in your life?

 

If you have enough knowledge about them to find out their dirty little "secret" that they have slept with a black man you must know them more than just meeting them. I couldn't imagine any person divulging that kind of personal information to someone they had just met.

 

If I had people with poor values in my life to deal with I might also have negative perceptions I guess.

[OpenGL]

To be clear, I'm not just talking about black man/white woman couples. I find white man/black woman pairs just as unsavory. As for other interracial couples (i.e. white/asian), I also don't like them, although not to the same degree.

 

Why do you consider white/black wore than white/asian? Is there anything worse than white/black in your eyes?

 

What exactly is white anyway? Just having white skin? Are you ok with American white/Russian or American white/Spanish? I'm genuinely curious.

[Chicago_Guy]

So your perceptions are based up the behaviors of people you choose not to have in your life?

 

If you have enough knowledge about them to find out their dirty little "secret" that they have slept with a black man you must know them more than just meeting them. I couldn't imagine any person divulging that kind of personal information to someone they had just met.

 

If I had people with poor values in my life to deal with I might also have negative perceptions I guess.

 

Clep, although you disagree with Johnny M's values, a lot of people would argue that you are in fact the one with a poor value system. If you brought the guy in your avatar picture home to meet your parents and he was dressed the way he is in that picture, can you honestly say that your parents wouldn't have a problem with you dating that guy?

[Johnny M]

Why do you consider white/black wore than white/asian? Is there anything worse than white/black in your eyes?

I'm not sure, it's just an instinctual "yuck" reaction. Maybe it's because whites and blacks are so different from each other appearance-wise.

 

What exactly is white anyway? Just having white skin? Are you ok with American white/Russian or American white/Spanish? I'm genuinely curious.

White is anyone who is of European descent. I have no problem with the two hypothetical pairs you mentioned.

[Johnny M]

Clep, although you disagree with Johnny M's values, a lot of people would argue that you are in fact the one with a poor value system. If you brought the guy in your avatar picture home to meet your parents and he was dressed the way he is in that picture, can you honestly say that your parents wouldn't have a problem with you dating that guy?

LOL . That guy looks like he was pulled out of a minstrel show. I honestly hope that picture was taken on Halloween....

[OpenGL]

I'm not sure, it's just an instinctual "yuck" reaction. Maybe it's because whites and blacks are so different from each other appearance-wise.

 

So your "yuck" reaction is purely physical? Meaning that you don't actually think blacks are dirty? You just don't like their physical appearance? Is it just anybody with dark skin? For example 90% of Indians and a lot of south asians are darker than me, but I am black and they obviously aren't. Would you be more disgusted with me or them?

 

White is anyone who is of European descent. I have no problem with the two hypothetical pairs you mentioned.

 

What about dark Spanish men? Or do you mean people who generally have light skin? What about North African blacks? There are people in North Africans that have more genetically in common (due to geographical dispersal of the human race) to European whites than, say, Russians.

[stillafool]

Two reasons:

 

1) It is usually a certain type of white girl that is attracted to black men (the kind of girl most men would not consider long-term dating material);

 

2) The very concept of interracial sex between whites and blacks is revolting. It's hard hard to explain....there's just something very dirty about it (in an "ewwww" rater than "hot" kind of way).

 

Personally, I just can't help losing whatever respect I may have had for a woman if I find out that she's dating interracially. I know that the resident PC crew will accuse me of being racist, but I really don't think I am. I don't view the white race as superior, nor do I treat people differently because they are of a different race. However, when it comes to intimate relationships between people of different races (especially whites and blacks), I just find it disgusting.

 

I know black women who feel the same way in reverse. They feel that most of the black guys who some white women like they wouldn't give the time of day. I hate to say it Clep but if that is your man in the avatar, they wouldn't even glance his way. Hey, but as long as you're happy!

[stillafool]

I agree. I am black woman and I have been with a few black men that were so small it wasn't even funny. One of them went out with a white girl after me and she was bragging about how well endowed he was and I was like I mean he was small like 4 inches.

 

I have been with some white men too and they are just as endowed as an endowed black men. And there are black men that are very small. Not saying I have been around the block but it is a myth that all black men are bigger. The only people that seem to think this are women of other races. Maybe they know it's small but they are trying to justify dating a black man by saying he's huge. IDK. But don't believe every woman who says that.

 

I know. The thing that kills me is black men seem to buy into the "Myth" themselves. There is no difference really.

[Clep]

Clep, although you disagree with Johnny M's values, a lot of people would argue that you are in fact the one with a poor value system. If you brought the guy in your avatar picture home to meet your parents and he was dressed the way he is in that picture, can you honestly say that your parents wouldn't have a problem with you dating that guy?

 

The way someone dresses does not determine my values, nor does the fact that I am not stereotypical or judgmental of the way people dress. I live with the guy in my avatar picture, my parents and family thinks he is great. They also do not judge anyone based upon the way they dress, but appreciate others for the life choices they make, the way they treat others and their values.

 

How judgmental are you? If you were to see a picture of him in his every day clothes in a baseball cap and ski jacket I guess he would be a different guy in your eyes. We are the same people no matter what we are wearing.

[Johnny M]

So your "yuck" reaction is purely physical? Meaning that you don't actually think blacks are dirty? You just don't like their physical appearance? Is it just anybody with dark skin? For example 90% of Indians and a lot of south asians are darker than me, but I am black and they obviously aren't. Would you be more disgusted with me or them?

 

 

 

What about dark Spanish men? Or do you mean people who generally have light skin? What about North African blacks? There are people in North Africans that have more genetically in common (due to geographical dispersal of the human race) to European whites than, say, Russians.

There is no such thing as North African blacks. North Africans are semitic people of Arab and/or Berbers extraction. And ethnic Russians are as white as any Europeans I've met (although there are non-white minorities living in Russia, like in many other countries).

 

In any event, while I appreciate you taking so much interest in my personal views, I'm not really sure where you're going with this. Do we really have to go through possible combination to determine what is and is not acceptable to me?

[OpenGL]

There is no such thing as North African blacks. North Africans are semitic people of Arab and/or Berbers extraction. And ethnic Russians are as white as any Europeans I've met (although there are non-white minorities living in Russia, like in many other countries).

 

In any event, while I appreciate you taking so much interest in my personal views, I'm not really sure where you're going with this. Do we really have to go through possible combination to determine what is and is not acceptable to me?

 

You're willing to have an honest discussion about your views although I obviously don't agree with them. Most people with your views have them but refuse to discuss it or can't intelligently discuss it, that's why I inquired. The only place I was going with this is to understand how/why people like you have the views you do.

 

I kept asking about different combination to try to understand if your issues with blacks is our skin color, genetic, or what? Because logically it still doesn't make sense to me. If you said any interracial interaction is sickening, it would make more since. I am still curious why you have the hierarchy and where it comes from. Even if it's by skin color, it still doesn't make sense of me since there are a lot of other races that have darker skin than American blacks.

[LadyRLD]

I know black women who feel the same way in reverse. They feel that most of the black guys who some white women like they wouldn't give the time of day. [B]I hate to say it Clep but if that is your man in the avatar, they wouldn't even glance his way. Hey, but as long as you're happy!

 

And it's not because of what he's wearing either. He's just not attractive IMO whatsoever. But as like stillafool said, as long as you are happy.

[LadyRLD]

I know. The thing that kills me is black men seem to buy into the "Myth" themselves. There is no difference really.

 

ITA, that's why they start to get the "I don't care" attitude. They all think they fit the "stereotype" because they are black But black women don't fall for it like others do because we know better

[Clep]

I know black women who feel the same way in reverse. They feel that most of the black guys who some white women like they wouldn't give the time of day. I hate to say it Clep but if that is your man in the avatar, they wouldn't even glance his way. Hey, but as long as you're happy!

 

The night that picture was taken there were different women coming on to my bf all night due to what he was wearing. I found it interesting to have some black women telling me I am taking their black men. The reason I think this is because it is an expensive suit and they smelled money. There were many different races coming on to him, and thanks...I am very happy.

[Johnny M]

I kept asking about different combination to try to understand if your issues with blacks is our skin color, genetic, or what? Because logically it still doesn't make sense to me. If you said any interracial interaction is sickening, it would make more since. I am still curious why you have the hierarchy and where it comes from. Even if it's by skin color, it still doesn't make sense of me since there are a lot of other races that have darker skin than American blacks.

First of all, I did not say I have issues with black people. I mean, in a way I do - but only with the drug dealer/gangsta/pimp/lazy unemployed bum types. An honest, hard-working black man I have absolutely no problem with.

 

Second, I said I don't like interracial dating. That doesn't mean I don't like people of other races. In fact, I think it's a great thing that we have many different races because that makes for a more interesting world. If everyone was of the same race and culture (the ultimate consequence of interracial dating), it would be a pretty boring planet.

 

As to the "hierarchy", it's really quite simple. The greater the difference in the two races' appearances, the more offensive it is to me (and it's not just about skin color but facial features, bone structure, etc.) Like I said, it's a gut level reaction.

[Clep]

And it's not because of what he's wearing either. He's just not attractive IMO whatsoever. But as like stillafool said, as long as you are happy.

 

Well it is a breath of fresh air to hear someone on this thread post their personal preference instead of determining who and what someone is by the color of their skin.

[OpenGL]

First of all, I did not say I have issues with black people. I mean, in a way I do - but only with the drug dealer/gangsta/pimp/lazy unemployed bum types. An honest, hard-working black man I have absolutely no problem with.

 

Second, I said I don't like interracial dating. That doesn't mean I don't like people of other races. In fact, I think it's a great thing that we have many different races because that makes for a more interesting world. If everyone was of the same race and culture (the ultimate consequence of interracial dating), it would be a pretty boring planet.

 

As to the "hierarchy", it's really quite simple. The greater the difference in the two races' appearances, the more offensive it is to me (and it's not just about skin color but facial features, bone structure, etc.) Like I said, it's a gut level reaction.

 

Ok thanks for the insight, I'll leave it at that.