BWLoca Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Funny story because the same thing happened to me last weekend at the club. Dude bought me a drink and chatted me up but I didn't pass up the free drink I think overall more men have bought me drinks than women. Um, because typically guys buy drinks when they want to go home with you after the club closes... Just because they're gay doesn't mean they aren't men They're still on the prowl.
OpenGL Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Are you sure you're not gay yourself? Very sure, I have zero interest in men.
amagordos Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Good guys do exist, but they don't go after what they want like jerks do, and when good guys do go after the girl they want, they get shot down. I know because i rejected a good guy and now i regret it because I haven't gotten someone as nice as him to ever ask me out again. I might be too picky, so maybe thats why i always fall for guys with girlfriends.
OpenGL Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 But seriously though, what you just said tells me that it's all in your head when it comes to women. If you can attract good looking gay guys, then you should have absolutely no problem attracting women. It's almost as if you don't want to attract women. You're more comfortable feeling sorry for yourself, throwing the pity parties, and getting sympathy from others to boost a low self-esteem. And until you change that attitude, no amount of anything will ever help you. And you must be petite...gay guys certainly do like smallish men who are in shape...like a little toy... Good looking gay guys don't have as high of standards as below average women. It's not in my head, back and in the day I was a FREQUENT clubber, like every single Friday and Saturday for like 1/2 a year. I know how much more shallow and superficial women are compared to guys (gay or straight). I trust what my eyes see rather than what comes out of women's mouth. And there is no way you could consider me petite unless your baseline is sloppy tall and very fat men. I look very muscular and masculine with very broad shoulders and manly looking face. I can stand right next to a guy that's my height and weights 15lbs more than me and I would look way bigger than him.
Template Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 15lbs more than me and I would look way bigger than him. They call that stage presence in theatre circles....
lord alfred douglas Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Some of you guys sound pathetic like you just want any warm moist hole to crawl into Cognac sounds pretty cool though, although I think hes a bit of a narcissist I agree that young women have big senses of entitlement these days, but Id feel a lot more empathy with you guys if you were posting about individual unrequited crushes instead of all these blanket generalizations
Pizzaman81 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Don't feel too bad or feel like your results will improve if you go after other 5's. I'm also a 5 and go after 2's and 3's and they don't give me the time of day. The only people I can get are morbidly obese women and gay men. Really? you're a 5 only? Why put yourself down so badly?
USMCHokie Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Really? you're a 5 only? Why put yourself down so badly? Your response actually got me thinking...is a 5 really that bad...? If we take the customary 1-10 scale, wouldn't 5 be an average rating...? Or would a 7 be average...akin to a 70%, or a C, in academia...? What really is the average person...? I have a feeling that a good number of people aren't as ugly as they think they are...so the "average" should skew towards the more attractive end...? But then again, I might be overthinking this...I do that sometimes...
sagetalk Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Good guys do exist, but they don't go after what they want like jerks do This is 100% true. Many women think that because a guy is aggressively pursuing them, it means he is great catch. It's usually the farthest thing from the truth. Also, if a guy leaves his girlfriend for you, you did not find a great guy.
GAchasen Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Let me stop you right there, I think you are misunderstanding what women really mean by that. When women say there are no good men, what they mean is that there are no very good looking and successful men that meet their ridiculous standards that they don't even posses themselves. LOL...No...I believe I will meet the right one for me. Maybe not now, next week, or not even in 3 years. I will, though. I just want him to be a good person, have a stable career, and be mentally stable. Someone like me!
meerkat stew Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 OpenGL, cognac, never, ever turn down friendship from a cool gay guy if you are seeking to meet women. Unlike female friends, they will go out of their way to hook you up with women, and most of them have HOT female friends who cry at them on the phone about not being able to get a good man. They have the best parties and tons of very social straight friends who will also go out of their way to hook you up. I'm not talking about the super swishy obnoxious ones who are always hitting on straight guys for kicks, but the normal cool men who are gay. I met more women out in NYC while with gay friends from work than I EVER met going out with straight friends. My experience running around with gay guys was mostly in NYC so results may vary for other parts of the country.
Author Zeegagge Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 I think it all really does come down to just finding each other. That's why I say don't hide and don't put too much of a guard up. We're looking but if you can't be found...?
cognac Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I am kind of short and slim but I don't think I'm "petite" as in fragile looking. I still look like a man, walk like a man, and talk like a man. I think getting gays checking you out isn't really so much about you being "hot" but rather about the indiscriminate nature of male sexual preferences. However here in NYC I notice it everywhere, and honestly, I really don't like it and I don't take it as a compliment. For example at the same bar where I met these dudes there was a karaoke going on. (Yes I sang LOL) I was there with my best friend having a double whiskey and noticed the typical, all the women were hovering around 2 really tall guys (they were like 6'4-6'6 easily) who were kind of muscular, they didn't seem like jerks or douchebags in their defense , but from the conversation they were making they were painfully boring. There was a group of random normal looking girls sitting at a table and there was one guy about 5'9 (not super tall) who was making out with one of them out of nowhere but he was also really muscular (like the guidos of jersey shore) and wearing a tight ed hardy t shirt...in the middle of the winter The only woman who looked at me all night was a cute bar waitresses with this betty page haircut who was sitting at the edge of the bar having a cocktail. I wasn't going to approach her, just wanted to get a drink from the tender. When I walked up next to her to order a drink at the only open space on the bar she gave me this pissed off "don't even think about it" kind of look and quickly turned away. Found it really funny how defensive and cold women can be to a guy whose not "hot" or rich ( i was wearing my work clothes and its a low income retail ****hole), despite me just minding my own business. Oh and some girls I don't know were taking pictures of me when I was singing karaoke, don't know the story with that, but the song was Mc Hammer's classic "U Can't Touch This", which made everyone laugh. But at that point i was so drunk I didn't even know or care what was going on and am not sure it was even the girls i thought I saw doing it (to use as an opener about taking my picture"), it may have just been my male admirers. But hey, atleast I realized what all the girls on this board tell me. There's someone out there for everyone Unfortunately, like my height, my sexual preference for the pink hole over the brown one is something I will never be able to change
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