paleblue Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Not sure what forum to post this, I dated a girl I work with for 4 years or so. got my heart broke. Would have cut off my arm to get back. I got ditched and she immediately started hanging out with her ex before me. that went on for awhile. Then that stopped. Then we started hanging again about a year later. Then went on for a few months. Then that stopped about 4month ago. She told me there was no one else. She asked to be friends. I said I will try/think about it. and we have had a little contact here and there. Now I am walking out the door for lunch today, and guess what I see, her and her ex leaving for lunch right behind me! Now if this was several months ago, I would have freaked out, been heart broke, back to square one. But for some reason I just don’t freak this time. I did not feel anxious, or upset, or shaky at all when I saw them. My heart didn’t really react at all. In fact I kind of snickered to myself a little and felt lighthearted. And I am not sure why?
gaudi Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Why ?? Because you are well on the way to the rest of your life. You are now in a place were quite a lot of us would give OUR right arm to be at the minute or soon enough. I'm not there yet. But it's so good to hear that someone is. It gives the rest of us hope. It wasn't so long ago I didn't have any hope. Congrats my friend !!!
TaraMaiden Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Because your 'thinking about it' was obviously something you were hesitating about - you must have had a sixth sense, an instinct that she wasn't 'all that'...and well lookee here, looks like you were right! That's worth a good belly-laugh in anybody's book....!
Author paleblue Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Thanks for the responses you guys. Hey when I was in a dark place the people on LS gave me hope. So I am more than willing to return the favor. I am just like you. I am the same. I can say for a fact, that as bad as it seems, as meaningless and hurt as you feel, and as much as you want to just go to sleep and never wake up, it does get better with time AND working on yourself. Also a positive attitude and thinking good about yourself goes a long way. For me, it went from initially wanting to die from excruciating pain, to now a constant dull ache -a year and a half later, which I can live with. I still have some really bad days –that’s expected. But I also have some really good days now. If my ex wants to keep seeing exes, hey, I’m not waiting this time. I still care a lot about her, but after already experiencing the second chance thing for myself… All I can say is my experience fell in line with most everyone else’s second chance experience – didn’t pan out. It ended for a reason the first time. And those reasons don’t seem to go away. After lunch today…. I got an email asking me if I was mad…. All I said was … for??? She said….. nevermind….. J he he heee Yes I aM enjoying it right now. because guess what? tomorrow I could be miserable for a week. But hopefully not.
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