HeavenOrHell Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Don't bother trying to get back your dumper, it rarely works. Love always dies in the end, you're better off alone.
tnttim Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Whats the common denominator in all your relationships? You have a throw away attitude, did she really f*ck you up that bad?
Beeotch Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I choose not to have that outlook and bet bitter and miserable, as the only person's life it ruins is my own.
sunrae Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Don't bother trying to get back your dumper, it rarely works. Love always dies in the end, you're better off alone. Hahahaha.. Sorry that made me laugh. Someone must be having a bad day... I agree with Beeotch, very well said....
Nuala83 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Don't bother trying to get back your dumper, it rarely works. Love always dies in the end, you're better off alone. What's the dealio H? Such a downer! Luckily I'm on a high so it doesn't affect me. Better luck next time chummm.....P
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 There's no common denominator in all of my relationships, my ex (male) dumped me after 18 years as he was no longer in love with me. I don't have a throw away attitude I am deeply depressed because I am still in love with him, 6 months on. Therefore it makes me feel all love dies in the end because I thought we were solid. Most people here told me to not have hope of ever rebuilding with him and their posts are often bitter because of their own rejections etc, so I am just doing the same and agreeing with them all. I want to rebuild and he doesn't (I assume), so forgive me if I'm f***** up and cynical. How the f*** would you feel if you were left after that amount of time after a wonderful, deeply loving relationship? Whats the common denominator in all your relationships? You have a throw away attitude, did she really f*ck you up that bad?
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Thanks for the support and glad you're happy, that's all that matters. What's the dealio H? Such a downer! Luckily I'm on a high so it doesn't affect me. Better luck next time chummm.....P
Art_Critic Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Don't bother trying to get back your dumper, it rarely works. you're better off alone. HOH.. I agree with your post except for this part.. It should read "You're better off moving on and finding love somewhere else"
tnttim Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 You are the common denominator. I am not bitter, maybe you should IM me when you get time.
Nuala83 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I want to rebuild and he doesn't (I assume), so forgive me if I'm f***** up and cynical. How the f*** would you feel if you were left after that amount of time after a wonderful, deeply loving relationship? In separation terms 6 months isn't that long. Took a good 8 months or so till my ex showed any interest in reconciling. Takes some people a year or two or more. Just because there's no hope at this present time, doesn't mean there never will be. Yeah I would feel f***ed up and I have felt f***ed up but I never took a defeatist attitude. Why? Because it's FUTILE!
sean1970 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Love always dies in the end, you're better off alone. If you really believe that, why are you not?
Nuala83 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Thanks for the support and glad you're happy, that's all that matters. Sorry. Didn't realise your situation or the freshness of your breakup. Sometimes people on here just appear every now and again on the second chance forum and tell people who are considering reconciliation not to do it. They make it out to be an impossible task and confused people are influenced by this. I don't like those guys. Thought you were one of them but I can see now that you're just hacked off. Appologies H.
broncosfrk83 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Ive been split up with my girl for a month now and i still pray everyday she will return...
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 It's ok, I'm sorry I wrote an angry post, I'd bumped into ex and it went downhill from there. Usually I say to people there is sometimes hope. I'm just feeling crushed at the moment, well for most of the last 6 months. Sorry. Didn't realise your situation or the freshness of your breakup. Sometimes people on here just appear every now and again on the second chance forum and tell people who are considering reconciliation not to do it. They make it out to be an impossible task and confused people are influenced by this. I don't like those guys. Thought you were one of them but I can see now that you're just hacked off. Appologies H.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 I don't feel better off without HIM, I feel I should be with him still. I don't think I could trust anyone again, if he left after all that, then how do I not be insecure about any future partners? I wasn't insecure with my ex as we felt so secure and solid, well we WERE for so long. If you really believe that, why are you not?
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Some people do get back together. I'm just being cynical, my ex left me twice 9 years ago, came back and then left me 9 years after that (last year). Ive been split up with my girl for a month now and i still pray everyday she will return...
Nuala83 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 So he's come back before. Proof reconcilliations can happen I s'pose you could say. You said he's 'fallen out of love'. Did he tell you that? If the two of you have been in love, happy and secure before (for a long time as well), it's unlikely that it's all just dissapeared.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 Have you got a link to your original story? It's below but it's v long, I can condense if you like? Actually come to think of it you did reply to some of my messages. 6 months on and I still love him and can't move on Every bit of me is crying out to be in his arms, it feels so wrong not to be.
aerogurl87 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 It's below but it's v long, I can condense if you like? Actually come to think of it you did reply to some of my messages. 6 months on and I still love him and can't move on Every bit of me is crying out to be in his arms, it feels so wrong not to be. I feel your pain HeavenOrHell. My ex and I broke up 6 months ago and I've dated other guys but all of them seem to be missing something. My ex wasn't missing anything really except a few screws but that was mainly due to some childhood trauma. Anyway, I still love him with all my heart and he knows it. They say distance doesn't create issues but that's pure bulls**t. That's where all our troubles started, being apart and thus I know if we were together things would be awesome. They always were when we were with each other. But you may find in time you'll be over your ex or you may find like me, that there is no one else out there in the world who is as awesome as him. Sure you may find someone who is second best, but what's second best when you've had the creme de la creme, even if it is a close second? But be patient, he may come back, he may not. In the meantime try not to dwell on the fact that he's gone. Go meet new people, experience new things, and try to remove this bitterness from your heart. Because if he does come back you won't want all that resentment built up inside you if you plan on having a reconcilliation that will work.
bananaboat11 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Don't bother trying to get back your dumper, it rarely works. Love always dies in the end, you're better off alone. Personally, I don't believe in second chances... as much as I want them (or claim to)... but your statement is morbid. I want to cry suddenly...
ella23 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Don't bother trying to get back your dumper, it rarely works. Love always dies in the end, you're better off alone. love always dies in the end? are you saying relationships are ultimately pointless? Or are you only talking about getting together after breaking up once?
scatterd Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 When you have been betrayed after many years of complete trust and also have been let down before its hard to trust any body is worthy of forever.I do understand.I hope you find that great person that is worthy of having you good luck.It will get better and you will be stronger.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 I put ALL my trust in our relationship, I felt we were at our most solid ever this time last year from things he said to me and the way he was with me, then a few weeks later it's "I don't know if I want to be with you anymore." If the love of my life left me, I have no trust left, if I attempt another relationship I won't trust them, I will just be an insecure idiot, which I've never been before, so I feel what's the point? I can't go through this heartbreak again. I won't believe anyone who says they love me etc etc, they will change their minds the next week, month, year whatever, love seems so fickle. I am still in love after 18 years,. I feel like this because we were so compatible, and still are, had such a deep, loving bond, one of those couples who everyone says how well suited we were. love always dies in the end? are you saying relationships are ultimately pointless? Or are you only talking about getting together after breaking up once?
Nuala83 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 It's below but it's v long, I can condense if you like? Actually come to think of it you did reply to some of my messages. 6 months on and I still love him and can't move on Every bit of me is crying out to be in his arms, it feels so wrong not to be. That's not surprising really considering you were together for what, 18 years? Are u still in contact with him? Is he with someone else? Why did he leave on previous occasions? I'm asking a lot of questions I know but I can't remember ur story (and I'm too lazy to look for it!).
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