guy.lepage Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I made out with a former co-worker about three months ago. A couple of days later, I asked her out. She didn't really turn me down but we didn't go out either. Anyway, I moved on. I was surprised this morning to find an email from her, asking me how I am and to get in touch with her. Should I see this as an opportunity? Would she have contacted me just to be nice? I know this is a stupid question but I figured I'd ask anyway.
Satisfaction Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Be friendly and chatty back. Don't rush to asking her out though. She could be a flake! What happened the first time?
carhill Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 What do you want? Are you still interested in her? IMO, 'opportunities' are over-rated. Think about it. Were either of you under the influence of drugs or alcohol when you 'made out'?
Author guy.lepage Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Be friendly and chatty back. Don't rush to asking her out though. She could be a flake! What happened the first time? Essentially, she was a flake! One minute she was into me, the next she said I was only interested in her body... Now I'm wondering why she re-contacted me. It's a big city here. It's not like we'll ever bump into each other again.
carhill Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Now I'm wondering why she re-contacted me. No need to wonder. It's simple. You made out with her and then asked her out on a date. She knows you're interested. IMO, a healthy perspective is to understand that she will use that knowledge and in ways that do not necessarily have your best interests at heart. Accept that
New_Life08 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Probably the relationship she was seeking with someone else (at the time you made out with her) didn't work out...so now she is coming back to you bc she is lonely and/or bored.
Template Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Here's a thought: If you are still interested, hit her up back, and just see where it goes from there. Find out what's up. If not, don't hit her back, move on to bigger and better. Go in with expecting nothing in return, and you won't be disappointed when nothing is all you get.
boogieboy Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Have an attitude that youre too busy for her. She might be just seeing if she still has you at her beck and call. Dont have any expectation with her, treat her like she will flake again, she probably will.
Satisfaction Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Essentially, she was a flake! One minute she was into me, the next she said I was only interested in her body... Now I'm wondering why she re-contacted me. It's a big city here. It's not like we'll ever bump into each other again. Hmm, that doesn't sound good, she is sounding confused/confusing. Could be masses of hard work. Well, maybe if you have no one else and you are not the type who gets easily attached, you could try?
Author guy.lepage Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 Thanks for your replies, everyone. It doesn't hurt to try so I'll certainly give it a shot. Part of me thinks she sent me a note so I would ask her out. I mean, why in hell would you re-contact me after all this time? On the other hand, I really don't know how to respond...
carhill Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 On the other hand, I really don't know how to respond... Sure you do. You ask her out. Do it as many times as you've the stomach for. Good luck
Author guy.lepage Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 (edited) Sure you do. You ask her out. Do it as many times as you've the stomach for. Good luck Thanks for all of your replies, carhill. Yes, we both had a few drinks prior to making out. We had been flirting for a few weeks though so I wasn't surprised when it happened. I'll probably give her a call early next week. Edited January 22, 2010 by guy.lepage
sharkhunter Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I made out with a former co-worker about three months ago. A couple of days later, I asked her out. She didn't really turn me down but we didn't go out either. Anyway, I moved on. I was surprised this morning to find an email from her, asking me how I am and to get in touch with her. Should I see this as an opportunity? Would she have contacted me just to be nice? I know this is a stupid question but I figured I'd ask anyway. I would be Very careful my friend. don't let your heart out there just to be smashed. As Alphamale says "Never accept the consolation prize of "friendship" I would let her pursue you. Then you will know if it's really going to go somewhere. BTW, it's not a stupid question at all.
Author guy.lepage Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 I would be Very careful my friend. don't let your heart out there just to be smashed. As Alphamale says "Never accept the consolation prize of "friendship" I would let her pursue you. Then you will know if it's really going to go somewhere. BTW, it's not a stupid question at all. Thank you. I'm actually more worried about looking like an idiot than getting hurt... And trust me, we won't be friends (unless she suddenly shows up with a few lovely friends of hers).
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