How would you react? What's normal for these situations?

[LuckyLady13]

Mom flirting shamelessly with boyfriend & sister kissing the back of his neck?

 

Okay, my mother has a problem with flirting with anyone I've ever dated. Standing close, playing with their hair, stroking their faces telling them how smooth they shaved. I want to know how other people would react to this because I know my reaction is not normal at all. At most, I've been mortified and did and said nothing. Stood there in disbelief, if anything.

 

What would you do in the same situation?

 

A similar situation - My sister decided one day to demonstrate what I can do to improve my relationship (we weren't having any problems at the time) and kissed the back of my boyfriends neck.

 

Maybe other people would be as shocked as I was but...immediately after something like this, what would your reaction be?

 

I'm not asking at all what the "correct" reaction would be or well thought out, appropriate reaction but rather...just as a human being with a total normal, instinctual reaction.

 

I know their behavior was absolutely inappropriate but I never really got past the shock of it.

 

What would you have done/said?

[torranceshipman]

I'd be in real shock like you, probably a bit too much shock to actually react in a cogent way. It'd make me question whether my family respected me and I'd probably step away from them if my conclusions led me to the idea that they don't always have my best interests at heart.

 

I did actually limit contact with my own family for a long time becausde I felt they weren't healthy to be around for me (numerous reasons), but things are a lot better now so I see more of them...

[Aries77]

Okay, my mother has a problem with flirting with anyone I've ever dated. Standing close, playing with their hair, stroking their faces telling them how smooth they shaved. I want to know how other people would react to this because I know my reaction is not normal at all.

 

A similar situation - My sister decided one day to demonstrate what I can do to improve my relationship (we weren't having any problems at the time) and kissed the back of my boyfriends neck.

 

Apparently, your mom and sis like to be affectionate and outgoing with themselves. Maybe that's just how they are. If MY mother did that to my boyfriend, I guess I wouldn't think much of it, but if it did bother me, I would totally let her know how I felt.

 

It's TOTALLY OK to feel how you feel. Someone may react differently. Others may react just like you did. Everyone's different. I think that if you talk with them, it would help.

 

Good luck.