dietpepsi Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 For dumpers or dumpees, how did you act, or how was the other acting towards you? How did you notice indifference? Was all emotion from either end of the spectrum gone?
HLP234 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 It depends on how the break up went. In my case, my ex left me without even letting me know. Hell I was the last one to find out and she still has never said anything to me. So for me, Indifference is not caring, it is silence on my part. I have nothing to say to her for her actions. What is there to say anyway? It will only bring more pain for me. She has someone else now so she is moving on fine but I am by myself. Taking time to yourself and dealing with it alone is also what I think indifference accounts for. Its not caring about their actions or what they will say in the future/have said in the past. It is focusing on yourself without worrying about how it affects your ex or other people.
Silver_star Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 For me indifference is in their actions pre-breakup. Its the little and not so little things that u brush off, but show that they dont give a ****. Less than a week before the breakup i got a flattire and was unable to change it myself because 1. ive never changes one before and 2. It had a locknut on the tire and the key was broken (but i didnt know this yet). Anyways i called my boyfriend because i was on the same side of town as him and he said he was busy shoppin with his buddy and then they were gonna see a movie. LOL. So my dad drived in from out of town to bail me out. My bf didnt even express concern over me. I was pissed, but i brushed it off after a talk with him...which during he seemed pretty indifferent. Indifference is in the small things and they are all adding up to one huge fact....Hes not into you anymore.
LovelyDaze Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 For me, indifference comes anytime I learn an ex has gotten married or is in a new relationship and I am 101% cool. So cool, I think more about what's on TV then that info! Basically, it's when you don't care WHAT they are doing...period.
carhill Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 How did you notice indifference? Their aura is a flat-line. You'll notice that a lot with people who are emotionally disconnected. They'll 'think' emotions, or rather actions which mimic emotional content, but the underlying dynamic is dead. It doesn't matter whether you're a SO, ex, or just a person on the street.
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