violaaa Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 My bf and I have been having ongoing sex for twice a week. Nevertheless, he is getting lazy in foreplay which I think is crucial part of sex. I see I will almost lose it if there is no real effort from him. I have talked to him seriously but he is not improving. What should I do? I really need some advice from you, thanks!
BlueeyedJonesy Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 My H started getting lazy in that department as well..aparently he thought he would just get a BJ and call it good..lol sooo I started doing foreplay on myself..in front of him and told him he couldn't touch me all he could do was watch..and this drove us both crazy as the anticipation built..he started trying to out do me. so of course it worked...try something creative.
Jeff1962 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 My bf and I have been having ongoing sex for twice a week. Nevertheless, he is getting lazy in foreplay which I think is crucial part of sex. I see I will almost lose it if there is no real effort from him. I have talked to him seriously but he is not improving. What should I do? I really need some advice from you, thanks! Tell him what you desire. Draw the guy a map. To me, foreplay is a must.
stuckinoz Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 My H started getting lazy in that department as well..aparently he thought he would just get a BJ and call it good..lol sooo I started doing foreplay on myself..in front of him and told him he couldn't touch me all he could do was watch..and this drove us both crazy as the anticipation built..he started trying to out do me. so of course it worked...try something creative. WHAT A SUPER IDEA! My husband's getting extremely lazy in this department as well. I'm going to try this! Thanks!! We've been married going on 30 years & I'll take any ideas I can get at this point.
Jeff1962 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 My H started getting lazy in that department as well..aparently he thought he would just get a BJ and call it good..lol sooo I started doing foreplay on myself..in front of him and told him he couldn't touch me all he could do was watch..and this drove us both crazy as the anticipation built..he started trying to out do me. so of course it worked...try something creative. That would do it for me.
Eve Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Ok, I dont really have any sexual issues to discuss... but just wanted to give a suggestion. Hubby and I have what we call 'the week of love'... dont laugh.. Basically we will take it in turns for one week at a time to show the other person how much we love them. Its not just a sexual thing.. as love making is more than that to me. Lighting candles, calling me to stay with him while he makes us a cup of tea. Nice, extra touches where there need not be any... that sort of thing... for one week each. We only do this every now and then but its fab!! I think its good to have precisely what you really really want sometimes... but that spark needs to be kept active. Personally, I dont think its right to just expect it to be there all the time. Take care, Eve xx
1000 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 My bf and I have been having ongoing sex for twice a week. Nevertheless, he is getting lazy in foreplay which I think is crucial part of sex. I see I will almost lose it if there is no real effort from him. I have talked to him seriously but he is not improving. What should I do? I really need some advice from you, thanks! 1. Get some very sexy new lacy black silk panties. 2. Get scented candles and bottle of wine. 3. Get favorite flavor of edible warming body lotion/massage oil. 4. Before you go to bed tell him "You need to shave off that five oclock shadow dude." Get him a nice new Track 3 razor and the highest quality shave gel. 5. Get similar shaving products for thine ownself. 6. Get a vibrator. OK the stage is set. Light the candles, open the wine. Say "I'm going to bed honey, are you coming with me?" Then start using the vibrator on yourself. Then ask him to use some of that warming body lotion with his hands on your naughty bits. Then, grab him by the hair with both hands by the back of his head, and shove his face between your legs.
sonicranger Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 So, heres the problem I have with the "typical" love scene. That doesn't matter to MOST men. I'm pretty sure it's most men, like 75% don't give a hoot about candles and scented lotions or whatever. Her goal is to get HIM to do MORE for HER. All that froo froo stuff will put an unnecessary overtone/undertone on whats going on. If you want a mans perspective as to what would get ME to do it? I'd be ready and waiting when he comes home in nothing but a t-shirt or naked and just tell him he's only allowed to start with his hands or his tongue, no time limits, no goals in mind, baby steps. Guys are SIMPLE, we need SIMPLE instructions. MOST, men..ok 75% at least...don't crucify me over the generalization.
Author violaaa Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 Thank you for the advices, they help me see things from various aspects. But overall, I may have been doing too much already. Like the sexy clothes, sexy words and sexual gestures are making him aroused. And may be most wrongly is to stimulate his excited part usually that has too soon causing himwant to enter to the last phase. Any insight or ideas? Thanks!
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