Im stuck on stupid (MY EX) What next.

[bluestraps]

Im at the point now where im not sad or going through the pain of the initial breakup period , which was for me about 3 months. I've become mostly physicaly self sufficient and can function at about 90 %. I dont feel depressed all day or have any anger, which I did because of the situation of my breakup. I was in a rough state on this one. Anyone who has been in a long relationship which I consider 4 years or longer knows that you cease to be an individual. It is really true, some may not agree and thats O.K. I feel I may be obsessed with my relationship, and my Ex in particular. I still feel like we still have a chance. The relationship was never 100 % healthy for either of us and i'ts like I dont care. I know in my mind that I can find another relationship that is more relaxed , more fun and more satisfying. I would be willing to pick right back up with her and continue even if it means changing my lifestyle and the direction Im heading in. Maybe it's because we have broken up before, I feel this is just another rough spot. We could have a happy life, Its just like the timing is off.I am not really interested in anything that used to matter to me. How do I know that i'm not having some obsessive compulsive disorder or having delusions. Or just crazy.I will post more on this as time goes on.

[nomad0792]

I'm going thru much of what you are experiencing. I don't find much pleasure in certain things I normally love to do. All I can say is time heals all. Not much I know, but that's what works.

[Howitzer]

Not finding joy in things you used to do is a sign of depression. Depression isn't always felt as sadness or anguish; it can also be a lack of motivation and interest. I'd recommend seeing a therapist to learn a bit more. Or google.

 

That said, I feel I'm in a similar situation to yours. Feeling mostly fine, but still longing for my ex and wish we could be back together. Goodluck man.