Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 I texted the girl the message I posted earlier... She said No worries.. thanked me for something I did for her.. and asked if I like Wii. Then invited me over to play Wii. Later I'm drive with my dad and I get a text about how every time she sees a mustang she thinks of me. So we start chatting via text and somehow we start talking through sexual innuendo using car terms cause we are both car buffs. Examples: It starts off like this: Her: Its all about how you shift the gears Me: Depending on how you shift it can be a smooth ride or a ruff ride Her: I like a stang that can do both... Heads to a direction like this: Me: You got to have some kinda commitment to drive this stang. Her: What kinda commitment? Me: Short term lease and with the right deal full on ownership Her: How often can I drive it? Everyday or special occasions? Is a one year lease available? Its goes on and on. She eventual said to me. I thought u were very innocent. Now I think differently. Dude ur funny! I like u more! Sense of humor goes a long way! To answer carhill. Yes I am saving my cherry for a special girl... I just may have found her...
dreamergrl Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 So I'm curious. She thinks your innocent... now she thinks your not. Are you going to tell her? Because when you have sex with her, she'll know.
meerkat stew Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Because when you have sex with her, she'll know. Nah, when the time is right, grab her by the throat and choke her a little bit, then back off and say, "my bad, sorry, forgot to ask if you are cool with that." Then continue with just the normal missionary. She won't think you are a virgin that way.
carhill Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 To answer carhill. Yes I am saving my cherry for a special girl... I just may have found her... Let's not get ahead of ourselves. One date at a time
dreamergrl Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Nah, when the time is right, grab her by the throat and choke her a little bit, then back off and say, "my bad, sorry, forgot to ask if you are cool with that." Then continue with just the normal missionary. She won't think you are a virgin that way. No, then she'll think you are freaking nuts and have a fetish with hurting girls while screwing.
meerkat stew Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 No, then she'll think you are freaking nuts and have a fetish with hurting girls while screwing. Yeah, but what if she -likes- that?
dreamergrl Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Yeah, but what if she -likes- that? And if she doesn't? She's going to know he's a virgin when they have sex. She's been with guys 15 years older then her. She'll know. OP Practice on your sexual innuendo ... I would have taken short term lease as not looking to stick around long. And as Stung said... I'm not beating up on you, but you want so much to have a relationship you say, you should really listen to the advice given to you.
meerkat stew Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 And if she doesn't? Well, that's what the roofies are for.
Peter Attis Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Well, that's what the roofies are for. But you gotta make sure to keep your rape bat handy in case they wear off.
meerkat stew Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 But you gotta make sure to keep your rape bat handy in case they wear off. "Rape Bat," that sounds like a level 50 creature in WoW or some MMORPG.
aerogurl87 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 OP you officially got chopped and screwed.
Chicago_Guy Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 She did not rejected you yet. She is waiting for you to email her. She will kiss and f..ck you later when she is ready. If you do not believe me, just ask her directly if she kiss you someday and when. In fact, you rejected her yourself. As you described you did it several times before. You wrote that it all collapses by 3 date for you. You have your false belief that a girl should kiss you (or whatever ) by 2-3 dates. So, because it is a false believe it is common that nice girls are not ready to get physical by 3 date. And, you reject the girls who really may like you a lot. I am sure someday you meet a girl who kisses everyone on the first date and has sex with everyone on 1-2 dates. I disagree. If this guy is paying for dates and the girl doesn't even want to kiss him on the 3rd date, he should just give up and try to find someone else. I'm am guessing that the girl either isn't really attracted to him or is hung-up on some other guy or has some other type of emotional issue. I really don't see how this could possibly go anywhere. It sounds like the girl just likes the attention, but that's it.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 Actually she spend close too the same ammount of money on the dates... First date I spend about $90 she spend about $5 second date she spend $55 I spent zip third date I spend $60 she spend around $70. She could just very well be shy and move abit slow. I was a bit worry when I invited her bowling for tonight. She told me she had a prior dinner engagement but would call me afterwards and if that doesn't workout she wanted to know if we could get together Saturday. She could have another date.... She may like me but have been avoiding the kiss because she doesn't want to take that step till she see how her other date pans out... Yes two reasons I don't think that's true. One she owns her own buisness and does have dinner meetings with clients and her bestfirend said she really needs to go on a date when giving me the number...
bac Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I disagree. If this guy is paying for dates and the girl doesn't even want to kiss him on the 3rd date, he should just give up and try to find someone else. I'm am guessing that the girl either isn't really attracted to him or is hung-up on some other guy or has some other type of emotional issue. I really don't see how this could possibly go anywhere. It sounds like the girl just likes the attention, but that's it. Believe me it is true about kisses. I have this problem because I am dating online and have the first dates'kisses problems. I am really tired of guys who are fixed on the first kisses.
carhill Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Believe me it is true about kisses. I have this problem because I am dating online and have the first dates'kisses problems. I am really tired of guys who are fixed on the first kisses. Chemistry in a heterosexual dynamic is expressed physically. Otherwise, how would the parties really know in a concrete way that there's anything more going on then platonic or sibling type interaction? For a man, being kissed or a kiss being accepted in a sexual way delineates the other person from his family members and platonic friends. Otherwise, he might as well hang with them. It's about getting one's needs met. Think about how a woman gets her needs met on a date and how, if they're not met, there is no future. That perspective is just as valid for a man. A man doesn't get to decide what perspective is valid for a woman and the reverse is true as well. Compatibility is the balance point.
OceanTropic Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 She may like you, but she isn't interested in being sexual with you. My take is that she feels lonely and just wants to cuddle with someone.
txsilkysmoothe Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I just think she got nervous about the "first" kiss. I've messed it up and done so with men I "really" liked and "really" wanted to kiss. You feel pressure for it to be great, memorable to him, and when the moment comes and you don't think it's going to be those things, instinct says "stop." I think she realized after the date that she left you with the impression that she didn't want to kiss you and knew she needed to explain. Her explanation was poor, but if she wasn't into you and didn't want to kiss you, why would she contact you at all?
carhill Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Her explanation was poor, but if she wasn't into you and didn't want to kiss you, why would she contact you at all? A relatively simple potential is one where the OP is otherwise, to the casual observer, a 'catch' and he's interested in giving her attention. This serves the disinterested female in two ways. First, and foremost, it feeds her ego. Look at this guy and he's all over me. Second, it raises her social proof, both amongst men and women. She can eye another potential whilst being 'seen' with this one and his presence inspires competition in other men, if not in actuality, then in their minds. It's a great tool
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