NicholeLopez Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 There's this guy. I met him over a year ago through work. I saw him here and there - casual and friendly. After awhile, we started hanging out a lot and he made a lot of effort to see me/talk to me. He made it clear he was attracted and I knew it was beyond physical. It was emotional and mental as well. Here's the thing. He has a girlfriend. He told me if he was single he would love to date me, but he would never cheat on her. I told him that we shouldn't be doing what we were doing because I felt like I was being disrespectful to the woman he was with (we never did anything physical, only spoke of personal, deep and meaningful things) and also I didn't want to feel too much for someone that wouldn't reciprocate. He told me he wanted to leave her and was planning on it. He expressed how he was unhappy and is still with her because he felt like there was no other way until I came along, and also because it's hard since they live/work together. My logic in situations like these is that: I don't want a man to leave their girlfriend for me. I want them to end the relationship because they realized that the woman was wrong for him.. Because he doesn't know me well enough to know if I'm right for him and what matters is him knowing that she is wrong for him (Confusing I know). So, one night he told me he was trying to move out. I didn't mean for it to come out like this but I also didn't care to correct my statement, but he left thinking that - I like him but don't know if I would even date him after he leaves her. After that night, everything changed. Now, two months later he's still with her. I just realized how much of a connection I had with him. I know the reason for the change is either 1) He realized he can't leave the woman and they worked it out, or 2) He got the impression I wasn't interested and didn't want to leave her unless he knew he could have me for sure. What do you think it is? Should forget it and have him always be that one guy that is so perfect for me that I let get away? (Actually never had but still) Should I have made my feelings more clear, would it have mattered in his decision?
EM47 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 if he's still with her after sayin he would leave months ago, then he is not as into you as he has led on. i would live your life and dont expect much from him except lots of unbroken promises.
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