Lucky555 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Told guy i want to be exclusive. He said he won't sleep with anyone else. We are not sleeping together but I want a relationship. We know each other well but im not getting the word "relationship" out of him. So we are still seeing each other but how do i approach this! Its really bothering me. I thought after we had said we wouldn't see other people he and I would be in a relationship. Im also peeved at the fact his facebook says single...I think it is a small thing but it does matter because he himself has himself as being single when hes not....OR IS HE! I don't have a status on my facebook because i am not there to look for other single people. However, he does have a speed dating thing on his facebook and therefore he is there for potential dating. Advise please
carhill Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 OP, is the person being discussed here the same man as in this thread or someone different? I'm unclear from reading subsequent threads. What is your normal pattern for having sexual relations within a dating/intimate type dynamic? Is it compatible with his? Since you've had the exclusivity talk, his words and actions should reflect your understanding. If you are seeing signs that they aren't, further communication is healthy. IMO, his 'status' should be something he voluntarily changes. Communicate your relationship needs and wants and accept his reactions. If the result is healthy, that's one answer. If not, another. Personally, I would only consider sexual relations (like intercourse) within an openly exclusive and committed relationship. What is he saying to you about this?
Lillypetal Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Communication is the key.... facebook!! come on why is facebook the centralisation of whether you are in a realtionship or not. call him up invite him over and sit down and tell him when we said we were not going to sleep with others i meant that we are in a relationship. dont get hung up by the fact his facebook status doesnt tell the world you are together. Be clear and precise and if he doesnt like it than............ you know that he holds no future prospect.
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