USMCHokie Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Good...f'in...lord...this girl is nuts, dude... But on a more serious note...where can I find me one of these girls...?
Author bananaboat11 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Good...f'in...lord...this girl is nuts, dude... But on a more serious note...where can I find me one of these girls...? You want a girl like my ex? No you don't... trust me.
USMCHokie Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 You want a girl like my ex? No you don't... trust me. I've never had a crazy one before...figured I'd check that box sometime before I kicked the bucket...
Author bananaboat11 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 I've never had a crazy one before...figured I'd check that box sometime before I kicked the bucket... Theyre amazing in bed...
EricaH329 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 You know what it is? This is going to sting, but i'm going to tell you exactly why she was acting that way. I know this too, because I used to be one of those girls until I grew up. She acted like that (a b*tch) because you let her. You allowed her to walk all over you. Nothing you ever did was right, am I correct? Sounds about right. No matter what you could have done, it wouldn't be the 'right' thing. She wanted someone to walk all over. And the minute you left her side, was when the paranoia of the fact that maybe while you are away, just maybe, you might come to your senses and decide to leave her. When she yelled, cursed, called you names... did you remain calm? Did you cater to her every whim? Did you take full responsibility for being the 'dumb' guy, and all of this was your fault? Rob, you are a wonderful human being. I have had my share of taking advantage of guys like that. Now, realizing the damage I had caused, I still go after those same types of guys... but with a different mind frame. I do not take advantage any longer. This girl does not deserve you. She doesn't deserve the lint in between your toes (gross, ok I know). What she did to you, was take your whole being and turn it upside down? Made you wonder things about yourself that you have never even thought about before. Things that weren't real. You weren't the 'stupid' guy, you were the victim of a very controlling, selfish, undeserving female. What you are going through now, is the withdraw of not having someone there to tell you who you are. Ok, I think that we can do that for you. You are a man that has a LOT of self worth. One that is extremely intelligent, and knows his boundaries. You respect people, even when they do not respect you. You deserve a woman that has just as much to offer, if not more. No less! Ever again! You will not allow another female to walk all over you the way this horrible female did. You are worth more than that Rob! You are a real man!
nomad0792 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Well, I just started on this site and eventually will put up my story (part of it is in "Breaking Up" regarding "Butt-Dialing". I can say from experience that I too and trying to get thru a toxic relationship and my mind is consumed by it. The sex was fantastic and there were no signs of any problems until the 8th month. I feel for you man and you are just going to have to stay the course of NC. DO NOT UNBLOCK HER FROM FACEBOOK!!!! That will only open up more opportunities to more pain and you are not prepared to take on any more heartache...right?
EricaH329 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Omg, I just realized something!!! I was in bootcamp for 2 months, and after I got out, I noticed why the 'drill sargeants' acted the way that they did. It's the same freakin' concept here! What she does, and they do, is they tear you down. They break every part of your being into peices. Then, when they've accomplished that, they'll bring you back up again. Do/say nice things. Compliment you. It's that very act alone, that's a very unhealthy addiction. You felt worthless while she was breaking you down, but the minute she began saying nice things again, it was like you felt loved for the first time. You felt the missing peice come back together again. Something you were longing for, she has finally given you. Until she starts breaking you down again, then you crave that acceptance. That love. Jesus i'm brilliant
Author bananaboat11 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 You know what it is? This is going to sting, but i'm going to tell you exactly why she was acting that way. I know this too, because I used to be one of those girls until I grew up. She acted like that (a b*tch) because you let her. You allowed her to walk all over you. Nothing you ever did was right, am I correct? Sounds about right. No matter what you could have done, it wouldn't be the 'right' thing. She wanted someone to walk all over. And the minute you left her side, was when the paranoia of the fact that maybe while you are away, just maybe, you might come to your senses and decide to leave her. When she yelled, cursed, called you names... did you remain calm? Did you cater to her every whim? Did you take full responsibility for being the 'dumb' guy, and all of this was your fault? Rob, you are a wonderful human being. I have had my share of taking advantage of guys like that. Now, realizing the damage I had caused, I still go after those same types of guys... but with a different mind frame. I do not take advantage any longer. This girl does not deserve you. She doesn't deserve the lint in between your toes (gross, ok I know). What she did to you, was take your whole being and turn it upside down? Made you wonder things about yourself that you have never even thought about before. Things that weren't real. You weren't the 'stupid' guy, you were the victim of a very controlling, selfish, undeserving female. What you are going through now, is the withdraw of not having someone there to tell you who you are. Ok, I think that we can do that for you. You are a man that has a LOT of self worth. One that is extremely intelligent, and knows his boundaries. You respect people, even when they do not respect you. You deserve a woman that has just as much to offer, if not more. No less! Ever again! You will not allow another female to walk all over you the way this horrible female did. You are worth more than that Rob! You are a real man! ...wow. I'm speechless... I used to be an alpha... smart, independent, strong willed, career oriented, but I cared... too much. You nailed that. I did end up dumping her 2 days after that incident... but she came crawling back. I and did the unusually stupid thing and took her back. Tell me... she won't ever contact me again. Get that out of my head, please...
Author bananaboat11 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 (edited) Now... because of her, my heart is closed. My mind and body are healing and free, but I don't want to open my heart for a very, very long time. I have every reason to be conceited, self-absorbed, arrogant, cocky, and all those other obnoxious character traits... but I'm not. Maybe I should try it out for a change... Edited January 21, 2010 by bananaboat11
EricaH329 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I used to be an alpha... smart, independent, strong willed, career oriented Correction: You are an alpha, smart, independant, strong willed, career oriented man. You were only confused for a little bit. This female tricked you into thinking otherwise. Well, now that she is no longer in the picture... it's time to realize, once again, who you are. You are all of those things you listed. And now, you're all of those things with the experience that can never be taken away from you. The experience of being broken down until you feel like you are absolutely nothing, and not only living through that, but coming out a much stronger man on the other side. Never again will someone let you feel like that! You strong alpha man you Tell me... she won't ever contact me again. Get that out of my head, please... I can't tell you that. But what I can tell you is that you will not give her the satisfaction of your time, or energy ever again. You will never allow her to experience the man that you are, greatness and all, ever again.
USMCHokie Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Omg, I just realized something!!! I was in bootcamp for 2 months, and after I got out, I noticed why the 'drill sargeants' acted the way that they did. It's the same freakin' concept here! What she does, and they do, is they tear you down. They break every part of your being into peices. Then, when they've accomplished that, they'll bring you back up again. Do/say nice things. Compliment you. It's that very act alone, that's a very unhealthy addiction. You felt worthless while she was breaking you down, but the minute she began saying nice things again, it was like you felt loved for the first time. You felt the missing peice come back together again. Something you were longing for, she has finally given you. Until she starts breaking you down again, then you crave that acceptance. That love. Jesus i'm brilliant Indeed you are...I mean, you're 35, right...? But this is a good analogy...it's all about control...a vicious cycle...the insecure ones may tend to do that because deep down inside they don't feel that they are good enough to keep their partner around without abusive tactics...
EricaH329 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Now... because of her, my heart is closed. My mind and body are healing and free, but I don't want to open my heart for a very, very long time. And that's ok!!! That's even better, actually! Now you have time to make yourself happy! No one else but yourself! And once you've accomplished the task of being able to truly and honestly love and care about yourself... well... you'd be a made man! I have every reason to be conceited, self-absorbed, arrogant, cocky, and all those other obnoxious character traits... but I'm not. Maybe I should try it out for a change... You know what that screams?! SHE WINS!! That's what I see written all over that statement. Don't let her get the best of you. She's already done enough. How awesome would it be to come out of this experience a much better man than you ever thought possible?? Isn't that the best form of revenge?? Plus - You think you have it bad being who you are now?! Try those things out. See what kind of disgusting females you pick up with those traits. I know i'd never be seen with a man like that. The person you are now, and the person you will become, are and will be SO much more attractive.
Author bananaboat11 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Correction: You are an alpha, smart, independant, strong willed, career oriented man. You were only confused for a little bit. This female tricked you into thinking otherwise. Well, now that she is no longer in the picture... it's time to realize, once again, who you are. You are all of those things you listed. And now, you're all of those things with the experience that can never be taken away from you. The experience of being broken down until you feel like you are absolutely nothing, and not only living through that, but coming out a much stronger man on the other side. Never again will someone let you feel like that! You strong alpha man you I can't tell you that. But what I can tell you is that you will not give her the satisfaction of your time, or energy ever again. You will never allow her to experience the man that you are, greatness and all, ever again. I know I'm in a 'bad state of mind', and I appreciate your advice, kindness, and sweet words... but please... (see bold lettering above) I unfortunately attract the wrong sort of female... The hot, sexy party girls see me... then they notice I'm not paying attention to them.. I'm infatuated by my work.. or paying attention to the lecture (meet them all in class, library, coffee shop)... I carry myself well. I know this. I am well groomed, clean shaven, dress well, maintain above average hygiene.... yeah, yeah, yeah... and they pounce... and I give in, like a ****ass. I need to stop dating.
USMCHokie Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I have every reason to be conceited, self-absorbed, arrogant, cocky, and all those other obnoxious character traits... but I'm not. Maybe I should try it out for a change... Yea...tell me how that works out for ya... Playing her game for the next girl(s) that come into your life isn't going to help you get over what she did to you...you're a better person than that to have to resort to "vengence" against society for what one crazy nut did...and it wouldn't help you grow in the long run...
Author bananaboat11 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Yea...tell me how that works out for ya... Playing her game for the next girl(s) that come into your life isn't going to help you get over what she did to you...you're a better person than that to have to resort to "vengence" against society for what one crazy nut did...and it wouldn't help you grow in the long run... you guys are right... *sigh* I'm watching Avatar online. One day... true love will find me. I will love her with every waking breath.
USMCHokie Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I unfortunately attract the wrong sort of female... The hot, sexy party girls see me... then they notice I'm not paying attention to them.. I'm infatuated by my work.. or paying attention to the lecture (meet them all in class, library, coffee shop)... I carry myself well. I know this. I am well groomed, clean shaven, dress well, maintain above average hygiene.... yeah, yeah, yeah... and they pounce... and I give in, like a ****ass. I need to stop dating. I need to drive up to Massachusetts...seriously... But it's sleepy night night time...it's late, go to sleep.
Author bananaboat11 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Erica, many thanks and much love and appreciation to you. As the gentleman I am, I bow my head in gratitude to you. And a smile for you. USMCHokie, good looks man. You are right... and have, unfortunately, experience on me. Let these trials be the last of poor times for us. Good night all. I need some rest now...
EricaH329 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 you guys are right... *sigh* I'm watching Avatar online. One day... true love will find me. I will love her with every waking breath. And she will love you back, equally as much! Erica, many thanks and much love and appreciation to you. As the gentleman I am, I bow my head in gratitude to you. And a smile for you. USMCHokie, good looks man. You are right... and have, unfortunately, experience on me. Let these trials be the last of poor times for us. Good night all. I need some rest now... You're welcome, Rob. Get some sleep. You'll feel better in the morning.
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