iwanttolive Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Dear all, I'm not sure where to post this question. I'm living with my fiance and his mom. For a certain reason, the deal is not to have our own place but to live with his mom. His mom is taking care of my fiance's 2-year-old nephew who's definitely at the "terrible two" phase. I never ever disliked kids or babies. I know many kids who are sweet and I love them to death. But I've grown to dislike my fiance's nephew to the point of disgust. Firstly, his mom adores him blindly. His mom used to be suicidal until the birth of his nephew which gave her a renewed purpose in life. She thinks it's cute and smart when the toddler defies an adult. It is plain irritating. As a result he became super demanding and stubborn. He knows when he cries harder he will eventually gets the things that he wants. Last night, I was practising on my piano and he wanted to have a go on it as well. Because I only had one hour to practise, I told him nicely "Later ok?" He said "NO, NOW!" So I repeated myself and he defiantly wailed "NOW NOW NOW!!!" I did not wish to give in to him because I did not want to send him the wrong message that if he cries hard enough he will get it. I want him to learn to wait and he will get a compromise if he's patient. He wouldn't stop wailing "NOW NOW NOW!" We tried to distract him with other stuffs, it just wouldn't work. I got so worked out although I did not show it. Now I'm so disgusted at him I don't know what to do because I see him everyday
Author iwanttolive Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Oh, btw, I can't stand his mom as well. She's the laziest woman alive. Her hubby (my fiance's bro) does all the houseworks. My fiance's mom takes care of the baby. All she does is eat and watch the telly until she remembers all the details of every soap opera. She doesn't exercise because she's afraid of sweating, so she's super over-weight right now. Sorry, this bit maybe irrelevant, i'm just venting
Ronni_W Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Sorry, this bit maybe irrelevant It could be highly relevant. It sounds as if you have a HUGE beef with your future husband's sister-in-law, and you're taking out your frustrations on her defenseless 2-year old. A toddler is NOT responsible for his or her behaviour. This child is only being and doing what his grown-ups have trained-programmed him to be and do. I honestly don't get how a rational mind can "dislike to point of disgust" a 2-year old. Possibly you could gift all the grown-ups with a few 'positive parenting' books and videos, continue to role-model your own excellent parenting strategies and techniques, and offer your future in-law family acceptance, forgiveness, understanding, encouragement, support, etc.
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