curiousnycgirl Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I broke NC - I'm an idiot! I went to Costco this evening, and my card was flagged. I had to go over to the manager's desk to find out that someone in another store used "my" card. I told the guy that wasn't possible, it was with me all the time. BUT that is the Costco by my ex's house. He had a card off my account - and hey what do I care if he continued using it, I get a check for 2% for all purchases made on my account. Anyway the guy cleared the flag because it was obvious that the ex has his own card off my account. So what do I do? I sent him an email saying the following (and yes I quoteP "I don't know what happened at Costco, but your card is approved/active on the account. I was flagged in my Costco and I cleared it up" OMG how could I be so stupid?! Maybe he blocked my email. OMG why did I do it. Now I'll be tortured if he doesn' t answer, AND I'll be tortured if he does. 7 weeks down the toilet.
Author curiousnycgirl Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 OMG Alph you are such a guy! thanks for the chuckle
sedgwick Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I don't think that counts as breaking NC. He got your card flagged and you had to deal with it. He dumped you, he shouldn't still be using your stuff. You didn't write him begging him back, you wrote him about business only. There's nothing for him to respond to, really, so don't be upset if you don't hear from him! It's all good, and what you did is fine.
Author curiousnycgirl Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 Thanks Sedgwick, you are right. I appreciate it.
xpaperxcutx Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 just stop letting him use your account? Don't worry about breaking NC, it's all just business.
Author curiousnycgirl Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 just stop letting him use your account? Don't worry about breaking NC, it's all just business. I could but I really don't care. If anything I benefit from it, because I get a refund for 2% of all purchases made with the account. Trust me it's the ONLY money I have even remotely gotten from him - $'s always flowed the other way. But thanks for confirming that just business doesn't count.
paleblue Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 hey curious girl dont torture yourself too much over it. 7 weeks is a long stretch. you should commend yourself!
Trimmer Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I could but I really don't care. If anything I benefit from it, because I get a refund for 2% of all purchases made with the account. Trust me it's the ONLY money I have even remotely gotten from him - $'s always flowed the other way. But thanks for confirming that just business doesn't count. Check the fine print on that rebate deal... If it's the "Executive Membership" thing, then I think that you only get the rebate for purchases made by the primary card on the account, and not on purchases by the "Spouse" card. Don't know if it's different in different regions, but it may not be as much to your benefit as you think...
deux ex machina Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 ...7 weeks down the toilet. No it isn't. Those still count. I can only think of a rare story of anyone on this board who didn't have a some kind of "thing" happen at one time or another with NC, and each time it really does work itself out. It hurts, no doubt about it. But the space you have established for yourself with 7 weeks is not negated at all.
McGrupp Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 im still on my ex's costco account. i bought some **** not to long ago. i dont think she cared
Trialbyfire Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 NC isn't a do or die situation. It's intended for you to withdraw from the relationship addiction. This will take some time and if you break NC, here and there, shyte happens. I don't know anything about how Costco works but found it confusing that they would block your card due to earlier purchases. Is there a limit to how much you can purchase in one day? If so, when he responds, just tell him that you've deactivated the secondary card, if it impacts on your future purchases.
twinklecat Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Don't sweat it Wouldn't really count that as breaking NC, you did good, kept it business like, well done! ^^
DenverBachelor Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 (edited) "Costco -- Helping people break NC since 1983." (Please visit our housewares department to get your ex that new toaster he or she always wanted. It will show you still care. Receive a 5% discount for each month you have been NC. Limit 1 per person per breakup.) Edited January 21, 2010 by DenverBachelor
Author curiousnycgirl Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 "Costco -- Helping people break NC since 1983." (Please visit our housewares department to get your ex that new toaster he or she always wanted. It will show you still care. Receive a 5% discount for each month you have been NC. Limit 1 per person per breakup.) OMG this actually made me laugh out LOUD. Thanks DB. And thanks eveyone else. He didn't respond to the email - so we're at a big fat so what. Either he uses is again or he doesn't - I just don't care. Yes I still miss him (or at least the him I thought he was), Yes I still love him (or the him I thought he was), and YES I am getting on with my life (without him or the him I thought he was).
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