just_some_guy Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I've started seeing an individual counselor to help me sort out my own feelings on my marriage. I decided to look for a male counselor and got a referral through my EAP at work. Other than he stated his method is CBT and he seems a little hard of hearing, I don't have much to say one way or the other. I'm not having anxiety or depression issues, I strictly want to deal with my relationship problems. He seemed to ask a lot of questions about those subjects, but I suspect that's normal on a first visit. Any thoughts on how to judge whether I've selected the right one or not?
anne1707 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 To be honest. much of it can be based on just a gut reaction. When my H and I started MC, I just did not gel at all with the counsellor so we requested a different one. This was agreed with no problem at all so we started seeing a new counsellor. She started asking pretty much similar questions to the first (getting backgrounds, what our aims were, etc) but I had no problem with her at all. Some people you like and others you don't. If you don't feel comfortable with your counsellor then they are not for you - plus most decent ones will appreciate that this happens and not take it (too) personally.
Trialbyfire Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Some of the most important elements of a counsellor/patient relationship, are: Clear and respectful communications.Empathy and connection.Trust.Confidentiality and non-judgementalism.Skill.Knowledge.Experience.IMO, if these seven elements aren't there, time to find yourself another counsellor.
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