Metal_Muffin Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 So....i split with my ex four months ago. Ive even written a post on here telling people how im gettin better, moving on, coming to terms with it all. I was..i really was and then..this! I dont know whats happened...i just know that every day without fail i think about him, whether its for a second but a lot through out one day or jus for half hour. We loved each other...i dont doubt that. I even know that we werent meant to be because we would have been less destructive. He had a drug issue plus many otherss....but thats nothing to do with this. Im wondering if its the way we broke up....everything was fine but he used to play random games where he would say about not being happy or something and i would plead and beg him back. One day i snapped i couldnt handle it anymore, i just said fine...i wasnt prepared to keep doing this to myself or to us really and if he didnt love me fine. I heard from him a few days later saying how hard it was...how he loved me but as soon as i replied nothing....and nothing since. We broke up over txt...he wouldnt see me and he wouldnt speak on the phone. My ex never did have a back bone i always carried us both. Im wondering if the reason im now getting nervous when i think about him and feel like im just not making anymore progress is because there was no real goodbye...three years and it ended with txts...txt!!! I never saw or spoke to him again! Now its too late...i couldnt do it now i have to keep battling on and trying to distract myself. Do you think it could be a closure thing?! Sorry for ranting......xxx
TheMastaPlan Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 break up, over a text after 3 years...move on, im in a situation with my ex girlfriend, if youd like ot read my problem go ahead, i def rambled more than you. I feel for you right now and its going to be tough, ive almost been over my ex and she says something that brings me back and makes me feel like i have hope, then somethings stupid happens and boom antoher argument lol...anywyas back to you, drugs shouldnt have played a roll in any part of the break up, theres something else. But you aren't always going to get an answer to all the questions in the world. My advice is, you carried your relationship, MOVE ON, find someone whose willing to pick up that 50lb bag and take 25lbs of it all the time and sometimes every more for when you need help or are emotional, someones passed, etc. Find a guy who wants to be with you. Good luck try to keep ur head up - i jsut started posting todat and jsut getting on here and typing has helped me a lot...its good to talk to people, maybe try a phycologist - ive thought about it - a relationship one, theyve heard everything!
HLP234 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 You got broken up over a text, my ex did it to me over facebook..posting pics with another guy. Not even saying anything to me while we were on a "break." If you replied and he never said anything, you must move on. Keep yourself busy and always focus on you. Its really tough, I know. My ex never said anything to me, just left so I also have no closure. Sometimes this stuff happens because the other person is selfish and doesn't know how to handle things properly. You must make your own closure and it will take time. There is no point in going back to talk to them if they have never said anything in the first place.
Author Metal_Muffin Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 He was very selfish...thank you both for the comments. I hope things do get better for you x
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