Crazy Magnet Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 i'm STFU...what do i match with? a STHU possibly?
Stung Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I have never tried eHarmony's matching system. The one I tried had literally thousands of questions, although you could opt out at any time and answer zero if that was your preference. The more questions answered, the more accurate the personality matching became, in theory. There were questions on moral stances, hygiene, sense of humor, sports, recreational preferences, sexual preferences, travel preferences, the works. Some questions seemed stupid and pointless, others seemed insightful. Because I'm one of those people who sometimes finds internet quizzes a form of mindless entertainment, I found it kind of interesting and actually answered a lot of questions. My husband was ranked as a 97% match for me.
1000 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Don't sweat it. First wait and see if the girl is the same one you saw in the online pictures. Then worry about chemistry. Hey man first you want to make sure that the girl is actually a girl.
Stung Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Hey man first you want to make sure that the girl is actually a girl. That's a pretty good point, too.
Johnny M Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Hey, I've been struggling through the online dating world and am starting to think that it's a lost cause relative to dating from other sources, but am still giving it a go for a little while longer. That said, I've got a few first dates lined up from online, and was hoping people could chime in with their thoughts on the best way to help build chemistry on these frequently awkward first meetings to help secure a second date (when the awkwardness tends to largley disappear). I'm a guy, so comments from guys on what you do (that's worked) is great, as is feedback from women on what you like the guy to do. Best thing you can do is forget the fact that you've met online. This would take much of the awkwardness out of the situation. Also, try to not have any expectations (either negative or positive). Pretend that you've just been introduced to somebody and take it from there.
bac Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I realize that you can't build it out of thin air, but there are certainly things that you can do to help bring the chemistry to the surface. NLP -talk to girls, be interested in them, ask personal questions. Don't be a player, but be natural. The players are all the same like robots and so boring. They fake their confidence, afraid to be personal and sincere. Do not have an entitlement complex on a kiss. Go with flow about the kiss. The kiss often does not mean anything unless you are looking for ONSs. Take all the initiative and have the attitude to get what you want no matter what.
Author Vintage79 Posted January 21, 2010 Author Posted January 21, 2010 I'll try to keep everything in mind - I've got one of the first meetings tomorrow...I'll let you guys know how it goes.
colosseum Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 OP, I do believe there are certain things that generally help bring to surface whatever kind of chemistry what might find: 1. Listen 2. Ask questions 3. Smile 4. Be honest 5. Be confident; if not, at least act like it. Best of luck to you.
brock25 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 dude you can't "build" chemistry out of thin air...its either there or its not I don't completely agree with this. On a first date, chemistry can be a maybe that could eventually turn to a yes or no on subsequent dates. Sometimes chemistry can gradually develop over time when 2 people get to know each other better. It's not always instant fireworks.
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