xbluudevilx Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 So some people know that I am done with this selfish b*tch. Well, I've been talking to my X from 2 years ago and it kinda got heated, verbally... She's single and so am I and we shared a bond for a year, but broke it off because we just needed space from each other.. Hmm.. yall think this will last?
paleblue Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 why would you think its going to wind up any different than the first time is what i would ask you
DenverBachelor Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 why would you think its going to wind up any different than the first time is what i would ask you Maybe because they both did a lot of maturing? Who knows ... give it a go -- what do you have to lose. Maybe you'll end up as one of the happier stories on here.
You'reasian Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 So some people know that I am done with this selfish b*tch. Well, I've been talking to my X from 2 years ago and it kinda got heated, verbally... She's single and so am I and we shared a bond for a year, but broke it off because we just needed space from each other.. Hmm.. yall think this will last? go for it!
paleblue Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 Maybe because they both did a lot of maturing? Who knows ... give it a go -- what do you have to lose. Maybe you'll end up as one of the happier stories on here. perhaps.. im not knock'in it. i would consider it myself, but at the same time we all know where most second chances wind up, the same place they wound up the first time around. and why put yourself thru that. then again, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
norajane Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 why would you think its going to wind up any different than the first time is what i would ask you Not only do you need to think about the things that broke you up the first time and the things that were problems, you also need to talk about all of those things NOW and discuss whether those things can be addressed and how. If you can't have that conversation, and if you the issues aren't something you have or can resolve, you'll end up exactly where you were when you broke things off. Examples: Was one of you too clingy or distant? Has anything changed or is that person still too clingy or distant? Did one of you have a wandering eye, always going out with friends and flirting, and that made the other one jealous? Has your tolerance for that changed or is she able to see how that undermines your relationship and isn't interested in fishing all the time? Did you have problems communicating? Has that changed? How will you address that this time? Will you be able to discuss and resolve problems instead of whatever communication patterns you had before? Just because you had a "heated" conversation, doesn't mean anything about things actually working out better this time. It just means you might still want to get in each other's pants. So if you really mean to get together, talk about what broke you up and see if all that stuff is fixable this time around.
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