Kristine Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Okay we had a date last night, I'm at school and lost my cell phone during the date but know where it is and will pick up later. Anyway, he e-mailed me (since that's the only way to reach me right now) and told me he loves me. I've been waiting to hear at least that before we do the deed, but I thought I should wait and see if I hear it in person. I responded with I think he's a wonderful guy and stuff like that, but I didn't say I loved him back because it's via e-mail, I am falling for him, but I'd rather say it in person but after he does. KWIM? What are you thoughts? Thanks
Stung Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Although I understand that it's a hard thing to say first, it's a little bit lame to 'I love you' in an email. That's partly because it's so difficult to read any nuances of emotion that come with the response, unless you were to rush to a pay phone to ring him up and burble 'OMG I love you too!!!' down the line. I haven't seen your response, but saying 'oh, you're a wonderful guy' after he has said 'i love you' could be interpreted as a brush-off or a stalling mechanism. Certainly you are not obligated to tell him you love him too if you're not sure...I firmly believe nobody should EVER say that unless they really feel it, and I have taken more than a month to reciprocate in saying 'I love you' before. However I did not prevaricate, I always directly stated that I really cared about the person but was reserved about saying those words until I knew for sure I meant them, and I just needed a little more time to figure out my own feelings. If you have strong feelings for him and are worried how he might interpret your response to what he said, be more direct with him. Email him back and tell him that you loved his letter but you believe this is a conversation you want to have in person, then set up a date to see him. Soon. Preferably somewhere romantic, or at least where you can get horizontal quickly, if this is what you've been waiting for to have sex.
Author Kristine Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Thank you for your response, I will e-mail him again. I'm seeing him tomorrow. I did say how happy I was to hear from him in addition to how wonderful I think he is. But I suppose it could be seen as a brush off. It's a swimming date at his apartment, couldn't get much more intimate than that.
Author Kristine Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Okay I e-mailed him back but didn't say love said enjoy instead. Hope that helped smooth things over. I was checking out his feet position because they say they point towards you if he likes you and away if he doesn't, and well I'm into him but I wasn't sure if he's into me until he said that then I was like woah, maybe he is into me too.
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