betamanlet Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Lol...c'mon. I absolutely do not require six figures or a master's degree. Actually I don't care if you went to college as long as you have a stable position doing an honorable days' work. As I stated before, I don't need to be "wined and dined" at expensive restaurants or driven around in a Benz. I would like a man who can craft a decent sentence, who can have fun with me at a sports bar during football season or at a black tie dinner for my work, who can relax and make dinner at home with me sometimes. Someone who can fairly share the costs of our outings (I don't mind paying some times too). Forgive me, but I'd also like to find someone within five or seven years of my age (31) who doesn't think rap music is the be all, end all. I don't think I'm asking for too terribly much. So what is your income and education requirement, since you said you get a lot of responses from guys who don't satisfy this requirement of yours. What is your standard? And why don't you put something in your ad that requests only replies from guys who qualify said standard?
Author stace79 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 So what is your income and education requirement, since you said you get a lot of responses from guys who don't satisfy this requirement of yours. What is your standard? And why don't you put something in your ad that requests only replies from guys who qualify said standard? I don't have an "income requirement" or an "education requirement". I just said -- you need to be able to string together a grammatically correct sentence or two, and you have to be able to contribute equally financially. I'm not going to go out with a guy who's flat broke and can't do anything that requires any financial commitment. I.e. a guy who can't even go out to dinner at Chili's because he has zero money until his next payday. If you make $30,000 a year but you manage your money well, that's perfectly honorable. If you never graduated college but your gifted under the hood of a car and have a good career out of it, then that's honorable too. I don't think most women would think that's an unusually "high" standard.
betamanlet Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I don't have an "income requirement" or an "education requirement". I just said -- you need to be able to string together a grammatically correct sentence or two, and you have to be able to contribute equally financially. I'm not going to go out with a guy who's flat broke and can't do anything that requires any financial commitment. I.e. a guy who can't even go out to dinner at Chili's because he has zero money until his next payday. If you make $30,000 a year but you manage your money well, that's perfectly honorable. If you never graduated college but your gifted under the hood of a car and have a good career out of it, then that's honorable too. I don't think most women would think that's an unusually "high" standard. But you stated "I think it must have something to do with geography. Our area has a lot of low-income, low education jobs and not a ton of culture. You might be right" when someone posted about Geography being a reason for having bad luck on Eharmony.
meerkat stew Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 What do you say to people you meet in the airport or wherever? "I can't believe I got my glock through security...again! by hiding it up my cooch! Where ya headed?"
Author stace79 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 But you stated "I think it must have something to do with geography. Our area has a lot of low-income, low education jobs and not a ton of culture. You might be right" when someone posted about Geography being a reason for having bad luck on Eharmony. Yes, I did. But I did not say that I wouldn't date a guy below a certain income level or education level. A guy who makes a "low" salary in some cases can be "better off" financially due to good decision making than a man who makes six figures and blows his money on material things. I do not expect a man to financially take care of me, just financially take care of himself.
Author stace79 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 "I can't believe I got my glock through security...again! by hiding it up my cooch! Where ya headed?" Literally laughing my a$$ off...
boogieboy Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 (edited) I'd mostly like to meet people as friends and see where things go -- less pressure, no expectations kind of thing. Waiting for them to come to you online rarely works for most people. The guys most women want, do not go online todate, they know how to do it in person. So what you have left is, well...what you get. Many of the men on the site seem to put zero effort into their descriptions, leaving me to wonder if they are seriously interested in dating or are just looking for easy hookups. (If they can't put effort into a self-description to "attract" females, then how much effort would they really put in to getting to know a woman?) Many men have been on the site for a while and know that the description doesnt mean much. They only need basics, and have to hope the women like their pictures, anything else is a waste of space. Thats the way it works online. You cant judge someones personality based solely on what they wrote online, not everyone is good at making descriptions of themselves. I had hoped that stating in my profile I was open to meeting new friends & seeing where things go would open the door to MORE men, as maybe it wouldn't be so intimidating to them. (Like the typical, "oh I contact this girl and go out once and she'll want a ring next week" kind of fear haha) Nope. Just the opposite, it makes them run. What this says to guys is that youre looking for attention at the expense of guys time. They pass over this because no one wants to be used if the girl isnt looking for a relationship. No one is looking for friends. And saying this doesnt weed out guys that are liars and looking for booty calls, it more likely drives away the guys who are looking for something serious. So you have to take the "friends" word out and be realistic. You should know that the word friends to a guy means walk away. What you want is to date and maybe you will meet the one in the journey, so say that. Guys dont have to be intimidated online, because online is the most cowardly way to date. No one gets rejected like in person. Its the whole reason these guys are there. My point is that I can't imagine I'm so much more hideous in photos than in real life that men wouldn't at least give me a chance. Like some profiles you see, you're just automatically like "Wow, not a chance in hell..." Ya know? Your photos are judged the same way you judged guys profiles that dont have much of a description. If you want guys to give you a chance, you'd have to converse with all the guys and find out about them rather than depending on their profiles. Not only that, but you have to spend alot more than an hour a week online, and you cant wait for the guys to come for you. Im pretty sure that the guys you want are not messaging you. So you have to be proactive and message them. Just so you know, most people online go for people above their league. Thats why the guys you want arent answering you. They are going for women above their league, and those women are going for guys above their league. Edited January 20, 2010 by boogieboy
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 email me some pictures and ill be honest with you.....if you live close...you can date me;)
Crazy Magnet Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I'm not sure why you would join a dating site to make "friends" as that goes against everything the dating site stands for. You go there to end up in a relationship. It does not take the pressure off to say indicate that on your profile. Don't bother going online to date until you want a boyfriend again. If you aren't ready, that's ok, nobody is going to fault you for that. But the men there are either looking for tail or a girlfriend, not a friend. This is why it is known as online DATING not online FRIENDING.
TheBigQuestion Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 But you stated "I think it must have something to do with geography. Our area has a lot of low-income, low education jobs and not a ton of culture. You might be right" when someone posted about Geography being a reason for having bad luck on Eharmony. She's made her standards very clear and they're not unreasonable by any stretch of the imagination. What are you trying to prove now?
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