bananaboat11 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 So people STILL like to bring up my breakup in some f*cked up way, shape, or form... and when I ask them to stop mentioning it and say she's not coming back ever... let me move on. They apologize and then proceed to tell me, "yes, she will..." I don't want to think about this. Stop telling me this **** in real life friends... i'll smack you all upside the head. Anyone else run into this with your friends around you? It's becoming quite a nuisance... and EVERY time I tell them to STOP... somehow... it comes up again a day or 2 later. I want to move on already... and it makes it harder when I'm reminded day in & day out by the people who were there for me when she left... and let me cry on their shoulders (I've been there for them...). These are the people who knew her + me. /coping rant online. Thanks for reading. FML.
TaraMaiden Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Tell them you think you're gay, and that you're beginning to fancy them instead (if they're male) or tell them (if they're female) you really think you're over her, and would they like to date you? You're sure their husband/boyfriend won't mind if you just go out on a casual date..... In both cases, you'll probably get rebuttals....and here's your chance: "Ok, well, every time you bring my ex/old relationship up, I will ask you out again. So here's the deal: You shut up about it, and I won't come on to you. How's that?"
USMCHokie Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Even fresh off the breakup, my friends wouldn't mention it unless I broke the seal first...and when I did, they told me to forget about her and move on. Then they'd blow some sunshine up my ass and make me feel better about myself. Fortunately, my friends respect me enough to know that I'm strong enough to deal with it and don't have to ask me if "I'm doing ok..." Mutual friends can always be difficult to deal with after a breakup...that's why me and her seemed to have an unspoken understanding to split up those mutual friends...I think I got all the good ones...
ella23 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Tell them you think you're gay, and that you're beginning to fancy them instead (if they're male) or tell them (if they're female) you really think you're over her, and would they like to date you? You're sure their husband/boyfriend won't mind if you just go out on a casual date..... In both cases, you'll probably get rebuttals....and here's your chance: "Ok, well, every time you bring my ex/old relationship up, I will ask you out again. So here's the deal: You shut up about it, and I won't come on to you. How's that?" lol, that sounds good. bananaboat, I can relate somewhat. When my ex dumped me, my friends used to do similar things, but have shut up since I started dating someone else.
GrayClouds Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 As the saying goes hell is paved with the stones of good intentions. Damn their good intentions. Tell them that she has begain the process of having sex affirmation surgery and that pretty much precludes any future association. But thanks for their interest. Or just thank them for being so kind and ask "So Santa Claus and Easter Bunny is real?" Or maybe just carry a hammer around and tell them you rather they whack you with it if there feeling supported. .
GrayClouds Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 As the saying goes hell is paved with the stones of good intentions. Damn their good intentions. Tell them that she has begain the process of having sex affirmation surgery and that pretty much precludes any future association. But thanks for their interest. Tell them you think you're gay, Great minds think alike, and so do you and I
Author bananaboat11 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Hahahaha loving the responses. thanks guys!
sunrae Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 As the saying goes hell is paved with the stones of good intentions. Damn their good intentions. Or maybe just carry a hammer around and tell them you rather they whack you with it if there feeling supported. . Ha.. I may take this advice myself.... I love my friends, but sometimes, when they ask "so have you heard from X" I'm like thanks, No I havent and I was having a good day until you asked...
Serena2009 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Hey Bananaboat, It's great to see that you're doing so well and becoming so strong and leaving it behind you in order to move on!!! I'd say to my friends: "I know you're trying to help, but I've asked you to help me by not mentioning her or the relationship, so I'm honestly wondering, what are you getting out of bringing this up and wanting to talk about it?? And then I'd stick to it anytime she or the relationship gets raised again by saying, "Why do you want to talk about this?" and that would be my only and repeated response. Keep on keepin' on!! You rock!!
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