chloe1408 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 i've posted before but basically, i just want to know if its wrong that i have hope. i dont mean hope as in the sense that i'll sit around moping till he comes back, i mean going out with friends, going to uni etc but in the back of my mind, still hoping. my ex left me after a year and a half out of the blue for a 16 yr old girl (he's 21) who lives a half away drie away (i live round the corner). We were fine, he kept saying ho wmuch he wanted to be with me and things were generally great. We spent all our time together and pretty much lived together. Anyway 5 and a half weeks ago he leaves me for her and i've barely spoke to him since. He logged onto a fake profile taht he has (dont ask me why he has it) so hje could view my facebook profile and start sarcastically commenting on all my statuses. One friend called me gorgeous (he's gay) and my ex started abusing him. He sent me a message calling me a slag (even tho i havent been with anyone since him) & saying i cheated (even tho i never ever did). I've recently messaged him saying that this relationship was clearly important to both of us, that i'm not trying to get in the way of him and his new girlfriend, but i just want to be friends, or failing that, just clear the air. He hasnt replied as of yet, but our relationship felt so intense that it seems so strange for it to end like this. And whats worse is this girl has invited him on holiday with her family and theyre both saying i love yous. I know he never cheated because we spent all our time together altho i know they were talking for a few days before we split up. Should i have hope? Honest answers. Obviously i would love to hear that he is coming back, but part of me is prepared that he is not. Thanks so much.
nomad0792 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 I'm assuming you're 21 as well. You are very young and maybe you can't believe this right now, but you will more than likely have several more relationships after this one. NOW, I'm not saying he isn't your soulmate, but as you get older, your relationships get deeper and you begin to understand love and respect a little bit more after each relationship. My suggestion to you is to go into full NC. Do not have any FB contact or any means of communicating with him. He's seeing someone else and it doesn't do you any good to know anything about it. Focus on yourself and there is always hope.
TaraMaiden Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 "Hope" was the final energy to be released from Pandora's Box. It was nestled in there, with all the other evils of the world. Pandora released them, but ensnared Hope. Now. many people think that 'Hope' is a good thing. I disagree. I think, having spent time in that box, with all those evils, some of their crap brushed off on Hope. I don't think 'Hope' is all it's cut out to be. I don't think it's necessarily a good thing, always. And in your case - It appears I'm right. besides, Hope in this case is not only nasty - so is he. you're really thinking it would be a good idea to have such a small-minded, spiteful, childish and moronic individual back in your life, after all the things he said about you on Facebook? You see what a B1tc*h Hope can be? Move on honey. you deserve much better. And I Hope he and his girlfriend achieve the relationship he deserves. Don't you?
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