eternal.denied84 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I have been thinking of sending a nice wonderful mail to my ex gf who broke off with me and was really really cold mean and disrespectful while ending the relationship,,she brokeoff saying she felt disrespected with me...if you want to know the details http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t212099/ well I myself have not been very good in the relationship though i justify my actions saying that she forced me to behave like that but who cares. i was just thinking would it be good to send a nice ending mail to her wishing her good luck for future and blah blah..or would it be too much? If its ending anyways why not end it on good note..if i really loved her and cared about her? would i repent later being good to a girl who did not deserve that?
USMCHokie Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I actually read just the first sentence of your post and the first thing that came to mind was: "NO". That is all.
blackbear_703 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 You can send her the e-mail if you want...only as long as you don't expect a reply back. Or if you do get one, it might not be what you want to hear and filled with empty promises. If I were you, I'd just wish her well in my heart. In her heart, she probably knows you do.
Catseye8 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Well, you should probably ask yourself what you're hoping to achieve by sending it. Do you want to prove you loved her and cared about her? Well... you already know that, and you say you've told her, so emailing her now won't change anything. Do you want a particular reaction from her? If you're hoping for her to come back, sending her a nice email still probably won't achieve that, and then you'll just feel worse that you sent it to a girl who didn't 'deserve' it. Honestly it still sounds like you have a lot of rage directed towards her. You say in your original post about the breakup that you blackmailed her and called her a slut and a prostitute - and you feel guilty, but you also feel like she sort of deserved it? You say you've already sent her an email to say sorry, and now you're in NC, but you've got this thread asking whether you should send her a nice email, and another thread asking if you should send her a nasty one... I suggest you just calm down a lot before sending anything to her or communicating with her in any way. Stick to the NC. Work on yourself. If you still decide you want to send her a "have a nice life" email in the future, when you've got your head straight, then you can still do that then.
gaudi Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 You'll know when you are ready to send her some sort of e-mail/letter/text. It will be when you really don't have any urge to send it. Leave it for now. You won't thank yourself if you send it.
norajane Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 If I read your thread correctly, you were only together in person twice the whole time you "dated"? And things started off badly because you caught her chatting with some guy, and then something about a hotel room, and you weren't able to trust her after that despite everything she did to show she was trustworthy. Look, it's over. Let it go. Sending an apology email now won't be accepted by her in the spirit you intend it, and frankly, you want her back so sending the email now won't be about ending things gracefully, but about trying to win her over. A year from now, if you feel the need to apologize for your bad behavior, then send the email. She'll be able to hear it then, and you might actually mean it as an ending, not a hope for a new start.
sunrae Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Well, you should probably ask yourself what you're hoping to achieve by sending it. Do you want to prove you loved her and cared about her? Well... you already know that, and you say you've told her, so emailing her now won't change anything. Do you want a particular reaction from her? If you're hoping for her to come back, sending her a nice email still probably won't achieve that, and then you'll just feel worse that you sent it to a girl who didn't 'deserve' it. Honestly it still sounds like you have a lot of rage directed towards her. You say in your original post about the breakup that you blackmailed her and called her a slut and a prostitute - and you feel guilty, but you also feel like she sort of deserved it? You say you've already sent her an email to say sorry, and now you're in NC, but you've got this thread asking whether you should send her a nice email, and another thread asking if you should send her a nasty one... I suggest you just calm down a lot before sending anything to her or communicating with her in any way. Stick to the NC. Work on yourself. If you still decide you want to send her a "have a nice life" email in the future, when you've got your head straight, then you can still do that then. If the above is true eternal.denied84, then DONT send the email.... Sounds like you are just going throught the emotions of a break up, Sad one minute, mad the next, loving and wanting the person back, then cant stand them again.... You'll end up feeling like crap if you send it... I always do, because deep down I secretly want them to respond, and they dont, and I have to start the healing process all over again....
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