Juno Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 So I broke my 6 month NC a few weeks ago and texted my ex happy birthday and happy new year. This was around 6:00 in the evening. He immediately texted me back to wish me the same and to say thanks. I made a comment that it seemed he was still celebrating by his constant mis-spelled text messages. He said he was alone and liking it and couldn't believe I was solo on the weekend. We texted some more, then he closed by saying he missed my breathe in his ear and my breast in his mouth and text later. I said yeah I miss you too. This was way more than I expected especially since we had been NC for 6 months. Later that evening he did text me again about 9:00. Small talk mostly, but around 2:00 am I finally got up the nerve to ask if he was still seeing the girl he dated immediately after we broke up. He said no, but there have been others! Long pause in convo followed, partly because I felt like "eww yuck" and partly because I doozed off to sleep, (it was 2:00 am after all). He followed that up with "surely there have been others for you too" Again eww. I did not reply and with that we said our good nights. We have not contacted each other since. I did ask him about the girl he dated immediately after we broke up, but I thought the other unsolicited information was strange and wondered why he felt compelled to share. Any thoughts on that?????? Overall, I did not feel horrible about our conversation, his comments made him appear less attractive to me. I think I will be able to resist in the future.
HLP234 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I'm guessing he just wanted to make you jealous. He may still have feelings for you but in a way he is getting through it. No one wants the other to know anything they feel after the break up. Maybe he just thought you would keep writing him back. If he wanted anything I think he would of texted you first. 6 months is a long time..have you gotten completely over it? I'm only on month 1 and it feels like it will never end.
kristinabopp Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 me too HLP234! i feel the same way, its almost 3-4weeks of NC and i feel like i wont be able to get over with my ex! im scared i wont be able to find someone like him. i want him and nobody else. hope he realized what he lost.. and come back.. *i can only wishh*
Beeotch Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 So I broke my 6 month NC a few weeks ago and texted my ex happy birthday and happy new year. This was around 6:00 in the evening. He immediately texted me back to wish me the same and to say thanks. I made a comment that it seemed he was still celebrating by his constant mis-spelled text messages. He said he was alone and liking it and couldn't believe I was solo on the weekend. We texted some more, then he closed by saying he missed my breathe in his ear and my breast in his mouth and text later. I said yeah I miss you too. This was way more than I expected especially since we had been NC for 6 months. Later that evening he did text me again about 9:00. Small talk mostly, but around 2:00 am I finally got up the nerve to ask if he was still seeing the girl he dated immediately after we broke up. He said no, but there have been others! Long pause in convo followed, partly because I felt like "eww yuck" and partly because I doozed off to sleep, (it was 2:00 am after all). He followed that up with "surely there have been others for you too" Again eww. I did not reply and with that we said our good nights. We have not contacted each other since. I did ask him about the girl he dated immediately after we broke up, but I thought the other unsolicited information was strange and wondered why he felt compelled to share. Any thoughts on that?????? Overall, I did not feel horrible about our conversation, his comments made him appear less attractive to me. I think I will be able to resist in the future. Good! He isn't my ex but that turned me off too. Sorry, but he sounded pathetic. He is drunk and alone, talking about he misses you for the sexual aspects and telling you about how many other women he has had...ughhhh...anyway, yea he should be less attractive and hopefully this helps you to keep on keeping on
counterman Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Don't worry about what he has to say about the other girls. He is just trying to make you jealous and, thus, boost his ego with more, which is pathetic. He is alone and you texted him and that made him feel good so he would reply to get more out of you. I'm glad you see him as less attractive now. If he wanted to contact you, he would have done so and it wouldn't be with bread crumbs in a text. Stick to NC and resist anything that might compel you to contact your ex again.
Author Juno Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Good! He isn't my ex but that turned me off too. Sorry, but he sounded pathetic. He is drunk and alone, talking about he misses you for the sexual aspects and telling you about how many other women he has had...ughhhh...anyway, yea he should be less attractive and hopefully this helps you to keep on keeping on Thanks for the reply. In the past he has often said things to me that made me sick on the insides and I didn't understand at the time until I thought long and hard about it. For instance, when we first started dating he said "believe it or not, I have broken up with a lot of girls in the past"...alluding to the fact he has been the dumper oppose to the dumpee more times than not. For awhile I didn't understand why he felt this was something worthy to brag about. Now his lastest statement of "there have been others" made him appear to be a "male slut" especially since I only inquired about 1 specific person. Again, why feel compell to brag about being a male slut. I think I am nearing the end of my emotional roller coaster ride with him. It has been long and painful (1 year hardcore and 1 year off/on). Last January I was at my worse state, but now I can contact him without pining for him afterwards, however NC is still the best way to go. I agree...his comments were pathethic and highly unatttractive. Good riddance!!!
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