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Does my coworker like me, or is he just being nic? I am clueless


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Little backgroud story. I am 31 and my coworker is probably in his late 40's. He is a VP in our company and I am just an analyst. I always saw him around but never had reason to talk to him except hello if we saw each other in the hallways. I had to go into his office a couple of months ago to get approval on something. He is very intimidating because of his position and alot of people at work are afraid of him and think he is a jerk.

 

Well that day that I went into his office he just started talking to me and before I knew it we started emailing each other all day ever since. It was never anything inappropriate, just about work and how are days are going and so on. He asked me to lunch a couple of times and even offered to pay (although I refused to let him do so). My coworkers started noticing us talking and everyone is surprised that he even talks and let alone to me. He has told me that he is really happy that I came in that day which got us to start talking. I find myself really attracted to him because of his position and he is really funny. I told him about a crush I have and he told me he is jealous. He described me a couple weeks ago as intelligent, extremely attractive and funny. If he steps out for lunch he will ask sometimes if I want him to pick me up something.

 

I find myself thinking about him alot and the worst thing is I have a boyfriend of 4 years! I am very clueless when it comes to telling if someone likes me or if they are just being nice. I don't know if I am reading more into this or if he is just being nice? Any opinions?

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I tend to not want to assume a guy likes me unless he exclusively tells me :) but in this case, i really do think he thinks of you more than just a co-worker and it's more than just being nice. About your bf of 4 years, are you happy with him? Sometimes it's infatuation and the attention that you get from another person can be so exciting that you forget the good things you have in front of you. If your relationship is good and you see good things in the future, then don't risk all of that for a "glimpse" of excitement. If you think the attraction is real and you're not happy where you are at right now, then take your chances but just remember that the grass is not always greener on the other side.

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Yea that's how I am too so I don't want to assume that he does like me. Regarding my four year relationship, for the most part I am happy. He actually had broken up with me this past summer for about four months and I was devasted. This site actually helped me alot during that time. So we are back together and things have been ok since then.

 

Maybe it is infatution with this guy at work. I think about him ALL the time. Even when I am with my bf i can't stop thinking about the guy at work. I am not saying I will leave my bf for him...but then again the thought has crossed my mind lol. But realistically because of our work situation I really couldn't see us being in a relationship together.

 

We even email eachother after work hours. I don't know if people would think of that as inappropriate but the way I see it we are friends and that's what friends do. I am just confused.

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I think he likes you. If a man constantly drops you compliments, and says he's jealous when you have a crush, he LIKES you.

 

But a sure way to tell is to disregard anything he says (because anyone can just talk, its only words) and watch what he DOES. Watch his actions.

 

You said he took you out to lunch, he paid, how is he with you physically? When you have a meeting or are in the same room, does he stand close to you? Does he find reasons to touch you? Usually these are dead give aways.

 

But from what I hear, I think he likes you.

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I feel really bad for the boyfriend. I hope things end well for him.

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What do you know about him outside of work? Try and find out more. I don't want to seem bad but he could just be using you as a distraction for what ever.

What's with the asking people about what you want to eat. why can't he just ring you? Or drop you an email?

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