duece22022 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 i have been no contact for a month in a half. she just texted me happy bday. should i reply. this is the first time in a month that i have heard anything from her. i know all she is trying to say is happy bday and there is no hidden message. should i say thankyou or just ignore it?
New Again Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 "Happy birthday" doesn't require a response. btw, happy birthday.
HLP234 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Hmm I wonder if my ex will contact me at all for my birthday coming up in a month. We were on a break and I still went to her birthday because she was acting like we were together and wanted me to go. But I doubt now that she left without saying anything she will even say happy birthday. But these type of messages are like little gateways sometimes. You will say thanks..and then she will think everything is ok and contact you with something else. If you are over her completely and I mean 100% and anything she could possibly say, you will not take as a hidden meaning or message, then you can write back thanks, but there really is no point in general.
gaudi Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I've been in my own period of NC for just over a month now. If it were me, I would not respond. But then again it's not my birthday.
Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I think it depends on the breakup. If you guys ended your relationship amicably then send her a quick thank you text... with my relationship, my ex cheated on me, so no I won't send him a thank you text...
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DustySaltus Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Happy Birthday buddy. Look, no gift or saying can make up for the fact that she broke up with you. I like to spend my birthday with people that care about me. I've had ex's send me happy birthday texts, call me or not say anything at all. It's supposed to be YOUR day. I think that especially on days like this you should not respond at all. She chose not to be a part of your life anymore and that's on her. Let her live with the consenquences of her actions, don't let her off the hook by responding and making her feel better.
Ingenue Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 If it were me, I would not respond. My ex did the same thing. He emailed me a happy birthday. I ignored it. Considering the recent break-up, even if it was amicable, I doubt that the two of you are in a space to be friends. Why perpetuate the pretense of friendship or residual relationship obligations, when that relationship no longer exists. My friend gave me some great advice when I asked her the same question. She said that she thought it was weird that my ex and I didn't speak for a month, but then I was going to say thank you for a birthday greeting, despite not having any communication with him. She was right. Perhaps in time the two of you will reach a point where texting/wishing each other happy birthday doesn't generate anxiety or intense reflection. Until that time, ignore it. You need to do what's best for you.
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