Silver_star Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 so my ex talked to me on facebook chat today. I ignored him on friday, but today i just knew i had to get something out of my system. He asked how i was, and i told him i was fine. He started to pry..."why just fine". Uhmm maybe cause u took a slap chop to my heart a week before christmas i dunno? But Anyways he seems to be genuinely sorry for acting like such a jerk. He said he wants to be friends and said that I was the best thing for him but hes just a loser and needs to figure his life out...should I be friends with him? i miss him everyday, and im finding it very hard to live without him.
gaudi Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Do you want to be just friends with him?? From what you've said about missing him so much, obviously not. He's asked you how you are, then tried to get more out of you when you replied. Why does he need to know ?? Does he want to hear how much your missing him ?? If you want to be friends with him then you can be. But I would strongly recommend only doing so once you are completely and totally over him. That's gonna take time.
LovelyDaze Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 so my ex talked to me on facebook chat today. I ignored him on friday, but today i just knew i had to get something out of my system. He asked how i was, and i told him i was fine. He started to pry..."why just fine". Uhmm maybe cause u took a slap chop to my heart a week before christmas i dunno? But Anyways he seems to be genuinely sorry for acting like such a jerk. He said he wants to be friends and said that I was the best thing for him but hes just a loser and needs to figure his life out...should I be friends with him? i miss him everyday, and im finding it very hard to live without him. By what you wrote, you are not ready to just be friends. Look deep inside yourself and ask if you don't mind being FB friends(or even out in the open friends) listening to him talk about the gorgeous and sweet girl he is falling in love with. Could you REALLY be okay knowing he is not into you and into someone else? If the answer is no, then you need to take some time to heal until you could give a damn who is dating.
Author Silver_star Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Yeah...it was hard to sit there and hear that he wanted to be friends while still getting his mixed mesages like "babe" and "i still love you" and "im so sorry for hurting you" but I think this was right thing for us, and i need time to sort out this mess of a life i have. I told him I do deserve better and he knows it, and he said that he thinks "when i sort my life out i will be "that" guy for you. ppshhh Reading it over it sounded so lame, but i did tell him not to call me babe, that i wasnt his girl anymore to protect, that he shouldnt apologize because it doesnt change how i feel. I told him if i can "get over" how he made me feel that maybe we could be friends in the future...but i dont see how i can get over it. Im just not sure. Can i forgive something like that and be chummy with someone like that, in person? You guys are right tho..im still not over it. Im stronger now, but i wouldnt be able to be his friend...we dont even have any mutual friends, so it would be just us and i dont beleive that its very platonic to hang out with someone you used to have a crazy passionate sex life with. I can tell he feels like a moron, again, but I dont care this time. He cant have me back. He just cant do this to me again.
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