Anna1987 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Ok, so I've known this cute guy for 9 years now. I've met him during my sophomore year at high school. He was the nerdy type of guy. Smart, but unattractive. I remember he asked me out to the senior prom, but I rejected him. So fast forward to 7 years after he asked me out. I see him again at a cafe, and MY GOD HE'S SO DAMN HANDSOME! He also runs his own business and makes a 7-figure-salary. And the best part is that he's still single! But he doesn't want to go out with me anymore. He always goes out with these fat, ugly girls. Why would he choose them over me? And how can I win his heart?
bananaboat11 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Ok, so I've known this cute guy for 9 years now. I've met him during my sophomore year at high school. He was the nerdy type of guy. Smart, but unattractive. I remember he asked me out to the senior prom, but I rejected him. So fast forward to 7 years after he asked me out. I see him again at a cafe, and MY GOD HE'S SO DAMN HANDSOME! He also runs his own business and makes a 7-figure-salary. And the best part is that he's still single! But he doesn't want to go out with me anymore. He always goes out with these fat, ugly girls. Why would he choose them over me? And how can I win his heart? Go rot in a ditch, please. I really tried to be nice on this one, too... but it just didn't happen. a 7-figure-salary? unlikely... very few do. I'd see his name in Forbes Magazine. Try 90,000+ most likely.
Author Anna1987 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 Go rot in a ditch, please. I really tried to be nice on this one, too... but it just didn't happen. a 7-figure-salary? unlikely... very few do. I'd see his name in Forbes Magazine. Try 90,000+ most likely. Oh so I see this place has loser guys. Listen, all I asked for was advice. You don't have to be an ass about it.
bananaboat11 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Oh so I see this place has loser guys. Listen, all I asked for was advice. You don't have to be an ass about it. Oh... burn. k, I can be a loser if you really want me to. I mean, after all.. I post on an internet forum and suffer from NGS. Come kick my ass in real life, I don't give a ****. Women with your attitude make me sick.
hoping2heal Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 This post is so not even serious. Whatever happened to chip windsor. At least HE was actually entertaining with his spoofing.
Author Anna1987 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 Oh... burn. k, I can be a loser if you really want me to. I mean, after all.. I post on an internet forum and suffer from NGS. Come kick my ass in real life, I don't give a ****. Women with your attitude make me sick. I'm the one with the attitude? I just asked for advice and you're the one who's cursing me out.
Zeegagge Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 *gets popcorn* I might have just found some entertainment for the night! Carry on...
tigereyes1428 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 he is not intersted in you - if he was he'd be asking you out - how dare you describe his choices as fat and ugly - you clearly have tickets on yourself love.. no wonder he is not biting? and why mention his salary - dont you have your own salary - perhaps he can suss what you want from a man and is as disgusted as I am -
bananaboat11 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I'm the one with the attitude? I just asked for advice and you're the one who's cursing me out. Attitude was a poor choice of words. Superficial (and yes, EVERYONE is superficial to some degree)... but have you ever considered why you are SUDDENLY interested in him? Suddenly he's handsome and rich? ...what about the person beneath all that? ...hm? Go fly a kite in a thunderstorm... there's probably a VERY good reason he shot you down. He can smell your shallow nature... looks fade, baby. One day you'll want to be held upon your death bed by someone who loves you. And if you can't live with that thought... and would rather die in a pool of money... I weep for your future.
Author Anna1987 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 he is not intersted in you - if he was he'd be asking you out - how dare you describe his choices as fat and ugly - you clearly have tickets on yourself love.. no wonder he is not biting? and why mention his salary - dont you have your own salary - perhaps he can suss what you want from a man and is as disgusted as I am - I have 2 eyes, don't i? I can see that all the girls he goes out with are fat slobs. There is no way someone like him would go out with girls like that. I think he still has feelings for me. I just need to make him see how much I love him.
Confusedalways Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 How do you know he isn't interested anymore? You could try asking him out maybe?
Orchid8 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 (edited) Ouch! Since when did this place turn into a hate forum? We are all on here to seek advice and share similar experiences. Come on people, let's help each other out instead of slinging mud.. OP: Why don't you just kindly ask him to go for coffee and start from there. If he is receptive, great! If he declines, then you'll know he doesn't want anything. Edited January 19, 2010 by Orchid8 typo :(
bananaboat11 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Ouch! Since when did this place turn into a hate forum? We are all on here to seek advice and share similar experiences. Come on people, let's help each other out instead of slinging mud.. OP: Why don't you just kindly ask him to go for coffee and start from there. If he is receptive, great! If he declines, then you'll know he doesn't want tanything. that's my fault. I apologize - clearly infantile and immature of me. Sorry Anna
Author Anna1987 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 Ouch! Since when did this place turn into a hate forum? We are all on here to seek advice and share similar experiences. Come on people, let's help each other out instead of slinging mud.. OP: Why don't you just kindly ask him to go for coffee and start from there. If he is receptive, great! If he declines, then you'll know he doesn't want anything. Thank you. All I did was ask for advice and that banana boy starts rocking my boat. Thanks again for your advice. I'll try it out.
tigereyes1428 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I have 2 eyes, don't i? I can see that all the girls he goes out with are fat slobs. There is no way someone like him would go out with girls like that. I think he still has feelings for me. I just need to make him see how much I love him. ARE YOU CRAZY???? LOVE HIM????????? how can you love him? and your the one saying he goes out with fat slobs? then in same sentance you say " there is no way someone like him would go out with girls like that" ... if a guy likes a girl enough he asks her out? HAVE YOU READ HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU - i am not trying to be cruel but am very confused by your contradicting posts over HIS choices of dates.. ps when you love someone then you tend to have respect for their decisions even if you dont agree
Choboto Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I have 2 eyes, don't i? I can see that all the girls he goes out with are fat slobs. There is no way someone like him would go out with girls like that. I think he still has feelings for me. I just need to make him see how much I love him. do you love him, or his 7 digit salary?
Orchid8 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Thank you. All I did was ask for advice and that banana boy starts rocking my boat. Thanks again for your advice. I'll try it out. You are welcome. Keep us posted on how it goess. Also, he did sincerely apologize so let's just forgive and forget.
Author Anna1987 Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 ARE YOU CRAZY???? LOVE HIM????????? how can you love him? and your the one saying he goes out with fat slobs? then in same sentance you say " there is no way someone like him would go out with girls like that" ... if a guy likes a girl enough he asks her out? HAVE YOU READ HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU - i am not trying to be cruel but am very confused by your contradicting posts over HIS choices of dates.. ps when you love someone then you tend to have respect for their decisions even if you dont agree Oh, stop with that lie. "If you truly love a person, you have to respect their decisions." I won't. I know he loves me. And I won't stop pursuing him until he says yes. If you really love a person, you won't give up so easily.
D-Jam Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 OK...putting aside the past thing and not suddenly imagining Anna as someone who rejected me in the past or anything like that... Objective Answer: Make a move. Ask him out. Orchid was right on the money. If he rejects you there, then face up and realize you'll never have him. Until then, take a chance. As for the rest of you, it's like I said in the Red Pill Matrix topic. You can spend your life seeking hate and revenge on people who wronged you, or you can put it away and live life. Besides...Anna rejecting him on the senior prom wasn't some great evil. She just wasn't into him. Not like she accepted and then blew him off. Turn it around. Imagine Anna was 250 lbs and covered in zits back in high school and she liked the guy, but now she looks like Megan Fox. Would you tell the guy who rejected her in the past that he's got no shot? Or take a chance?
tigereyes1428 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Oh, stop with that lie. "If you truly love a person, you have to respect their decisions." I won't. I know he loves me. And I won't stop pursuing him until he says yes. If you really love a person, you won't give up so easily. LMAO.... your scary - you cant answer my questions now he loves you too WTF - good luck hope you have fancy wedding and live happily ever after and for the record you sound shallow and superficial - it reeks out of you
Choboto Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Oh, stop with that lie. "If you truly love a person, you have to respect their decisions." I won't. I know he loves me. And I won't stop pursuing him until he says yes. If you really love a person, you won't give up so easily. you sound reallllly possesive...and again do you love him, or his seven digit salary?
Choboto Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 OK...putting aside the past thing and not suddenly imagining Anna as someone who rejected me in the past or anything like that... Objective Answer: Make a move. Ask him out. Orchid was right on the money. If he rejects you there, then face up and realize you'll never have him. Until then, take a chance. As for the rest of you, it's like I said in the Red Pill Matrix topic. You can spend your life seeking hate and revenge on people who wronged you, or you can put it away and live life. Besides...Anna rejecting him on the senior prom wasn't some great evil. She just wasn't into him. Not like she accepted and then blew him off. Turn it around. Imagine Anna was 250 lbs and covered in zits back in high school and she liked the guy, but now she looks like Megan Fox. Would you tell the guy who rejected her in the past that he's got no shot? Or take a chance? well that tells you she only likes his looks and money. I doubt a relationship will build from that. if shes lookin for a mistake baby to get some money out of him every month, thats dif, or a sex buddy cuz she finds the money a turn on or something. but a 'healthy' relationship? i doubt it.
Woggle Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Quite honestly you had your chance back then and you turned him down. I doubt he wants anything to do with you right now and to be honest I don't blame him. The women he dates now probably have you beaten in the personality department quite a bit.
D-Jam Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 well that tells you she only likes his looks and money. I doubt a relationship will build from that. if shes lookin for a mistake baby to get some money out of him every month, thats dif, or a sex buddy cuz she finds the money a turn on or something. but a 'healthy' relationship? i doubt it. Hey, she's free to be shallow and love men only for looks and money if she wants. Men are free to love women purely on body type, boob size, and how quickly she'll get into bed. It's a free country....but....it doesn't mean you get what you want. So HYPOTHETICALLY let's say she's the shallow evil woman you all think she is. If he's of sound mind and body then he'll reject her and you can all laugh at how good triumphed in the end. OR...he might decide she's worth a lay and he'll toy with her and toss her away, pulling out the lonely prom as his excuse. NOW THEN...coming to reality, what if she's more than just looks and money? What if he was hideous in high school, but hot now? Lord knows I was fat in high school and had poor fashion sense. Now I dress and look way better. I'm not saying she's a good or bad person. That's not the point of this topic. The point is she wants a guy to go out with her and I simply told her she should break traditional gender roles and take a shot. If he rejects her then she should move on. The big issue I see on this board is too many people project themselves into the people who get "wronged" in these topics. So many read her story and instantly imagined she rejected them personally. Hey...my Junior Prom date ditched me at the last minute and I didn't go. My Senior Prom date was my friend's sister, and it was just as friends. I was rejected a lot in my past too. I wouldn't date any of these women now because I see now how wrong for me they were back then (not even because they rejected me). I don't hold grudges or hope for karma to give me a great big "right" to correct the "wrongs". So let Anna do as she pleases and you do as you please.
tigereyes1428 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Hey, she's free to be shallow and love men only for looks and money if she wants. Men are free to love women purely on body type, boob size, and how quickly she'll get into bed. It's a free country....but....it doesn't mean you get what you want. So HYPOTHETICALLY let's say she's the shallow evil woman you all think she is. If he's of sound mind and body then he'll reject her and you can all laugh at how good triumphed in the end. OR...he might decide she's worth a lay and he'll toy with her and toss her away, pulling out the lonely prom as his excuse. NOW THEN...coming to reality, what if she's more than just looks and money? What if he was hideous in high school, but hot now? Lord knows I was fat in high school and had poor fashion sense. Now I dress and look way better. I'm not saying she's a good or bad person. That's not the point of this topic. The point is she wants a guy to go out with her and I simply told her she should break traditional gender roles and take a shot. If he rejects her then she should move on. The big issue I see on this board is too many people project themselves into the people who get "wronged" in these topics. So many read her story and instantly imagined she rejected them personally. Hey...my Junior Prom date ditched me at the last minute and I didn't go. My Senior Prom date was my friend's sister, and it was just as friends. I was rejected a lot in my past too. I wouldn't date any of these women now because I see now how wrong for me they were back then (not even because they rejected me). I don't hold grudges or hope for karma to give me a great big "right" to correct the "wrongs". So let Anna do as she pleases and you do as you please. I agree with most of that but Anna asked for opinions and i think she is seriously deluded
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