Stung Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 The only women I consider ugly are obese women. I'd be perfectly happy dating a non-obese woman who is average/below average looking. The problem is those women only want options 1 and 3 too. Many average and below-average women are perfectly content with average and below-average men with average and below-average lives...as long as the men make her feel like they think she is not average or below average, but unique and wonderful. Women love a man who makes her feel special; some turn that outward and go for men they perceive as having high status or social value as a reflection of her, others take a different approach and seek out a man who values her above all others and makes her feel beautiful and loved. Since the angry misogynists on this board don't even like or respect women, they're unlikely to attract the latter. And since many of them are apparently otherwise unimpressive malcontents, they're unable to attract the former.
kiss_andmakeup Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Every time you post these threads you're given a slew of personal accounts (such as D-Jam's) which are an exact contradiction to your "rules." Yet you ignore them. I'm not going to state whether I'm average or above average lookswise because it's so subjective, but I'm 5'9", in excellent shape and have traditional attractive symmetrical features. Boyfriend is average looking, 5'10" and has a somewhat unfit/chubby build. He has a career that he loves but it pays him only about $30,000 a year BEFORE taxes...hardly a millionaire's income. And yet I am madly attracted to him and have been for close to two years now, because he has a great attitude, outlook on life, is hilariously funny, treats me with kindness and respect, and we have an awesome sexual connection. So therefore, he doesn't fit into either of your categories, and I picked him. In fact, we picked each other. There was equal chasing from both sides in the beginning. It's not a relationship where he has to put me up on a pedastal like I'm some kind of prize. We respect each other and have a great relationship. I'm sure many people on this board could tell similar stories, as D-Jam already has. But it won't make a difference. You won't acknowledge them, because making sweeping generalizations about women (and people in general) makes you feel better about your own personal shortcomings.
mem11363 Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 OG, No way you end up with a gal has the same negative/cynical view you have of women. Nope. You are going to have to find a woman who wants to fix your broken world view and mend your injured pride. I hope you do find her. I'm not obese (10% body fat), college educated, in a professional job making good money. Are you saying I am likely to end up with someone similar?
MissJoness Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Here is the problem with women: By definition, most women are "average" (in looks and/or personality/social status). So when choosing who they want to pursue, they get the following choices: 1. Good looking guy who is a loser in life. 2. Average looking guy who a winner in life. 3. Nobody. They of course want the good looking guy who is a winner in life, but those men don't give these women the time of day (look at MissJoness's thread for proof of that). Here is where the problem comes in. Most girls choose option 1, the rest choose option 3 until they can attract the good looking winner just or settle for option 1. Under no circumstances will they choose option 2 until they are 45 and washed up. There is absolutely no room of being average looking in a girl's mind, regardless of themselves being average. They will either pick a good looking loser or be single until they can attract the good looking winner. I would not choose 1. Just because a guy is really hot, I would not date him if he didn't have a car and a job or his own place Sorry but there is no way i am going to be driving a guy around and putting in all the effort in the relationship
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