Zeegagge Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I just absolutely dread it. It's the bane of my existence. My own personal hell. No I don't hate myself or anything like that, quite comfortable, I just hate not having anyone to do stuff with. Waking up alone. No one to share in my many adventures and journeys. No one to love and be loved by. I have so so much to give in the way of personality, fun, sincerity, honesty, being real, love and im not bad looking (or short, lol) either. Alas, I am single and really really REALLY hate it!!
Woggle Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I love being married to the right woman but I also loved being single. Build your own life up without a partner in it and you should attract somebody worthwhile in time.
D-Jam Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I love being in a RL...but I liked being single too. I guess it just came with that change in my mentality I had years ago.
Author Zeegagge Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 Lets get married! Where do you live? I live in the Caribbean, how much do you really like adventure??
bananaboat11 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I thoroughly enjoy the companionship in a relationship... the secrets shared... having someone to hold late at night, but what worth is all that comfort if you cannot sleep alone at night with content. Teach yourself to "see" your world before you look into someone else's... because if you blind yourself to your own... you'll eventually be unable to let another see yours. I'm learning to cope with being single again. I've had on average 6 months of being single between my 4 relationships. I'm 25 now... 2 LT, 2 ST. One day... when I least expect it... I am hopeful I will meet someone who will love me like crazy... someone I can fall head over heels for. And we will both know it's 'just right'.
Payden Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I know what you mean dude, but my crying days abput it are over now.. trying to make the best of my situation..that is my goal now..if a RL happens in the meantime..then I wil welcome it, but right now..I'm not stressing over it. F*ck it.
espec10001 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 When you've been single as long as I have (4+ years, which isn't very long to some other single people) you see the world much differently. I couldn't say it is better or worse, but let's just say that I do not envy my married or coupled friends that much anymore. Sure it would be nice to have someone to do things and hang out with, but for me it is an attachment thing, I don't like being attached to people like that. Cause all the married and coupled guys I know, if their wife or girlfriend left them, they would turn into an absolute mess. And many of them ARE turning into fat, lazy slobs taking for granted their relationship. So you gotta look at it differently.
torranceshipman Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I know what you mean dude, but my crying days abput it are over now.. trying to make the best of my situation..that is my goal now..if a RL happens in the meantime..then I wil welcome it, but right now..I'm not stressing over it. F*ck it. Do something really cool with all the spare time you've got that you wouldn't have if one of us crazy females was your girl and always made mad demands on your time to shop, take us out to dinner, visit our folks, etc...like spend your evenings in the gym getting a killer body or something :laugh:
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 i've been single for 8 months now and am going nuts! this is tied for the longest I have ever been single since i was in HS...15 years ago....
Payden Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Do something really cool with all the spare time you've got that you wouldn't have if one of us crazy females was your girl and always made mad demands on your time to shop, take us out to dinner, visit our folks, etc...like spend your evenings in the gym getting a killer body or something :laugh: I don't know if this is sarcastic or not?.. Well I do a lot of cool stuff in my single life.. I have lots of time and extra money at my disposal. You should see my Radio Control helicopters in my house. To most they are toys, but they are far from. I'm saving to get my very first miniature turbine powered Heli. We are talking around 10,000 dollars for something like that. I obtained my PPL to fly airplanes(real) I work on cars and help at the races in the summers. I build websites, fluent with java scripting and in the process of installing Puppy Linux on my computer lol. I'd be glad to drop most of that for a girl that could accept me for me and my beer belly......anytime.
USMCHokie Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I am a recent convert to the school of thought that says that you can't be truly happy in a relationship unless you can be just as happy single and by yourself. You should never feel like you need someone else to be happy. I've been single for almost 6 months now since the breakup...I don't think I'm really in any hurry to find another relationship...I'm beginning to realize the freedom and awesomeness of not being attached...
Payden Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I am a recent convert to the school of thought that says that you can't be truly happy in a relationship unless you can be just as happy single and by yourself. You should never feel like you need someone else to be happy. That is what I'm trying to learn now.. trying to get back to be happy alone. I once was and I aim to achieve that again. However being single is great..lots of time and do whatever you please, but the loneliness will consume you.... Just rainy days..no one there....looking out the window and end up going on a web forum all day.... That is when being single can be hard.
sumdude Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I spent a long period of my life pretty much single into my 20's. No LTR's just a little her and there. Then I met my ex wife and was with her for 7 1/2 years. After which I was a mess for a while after she left. You would think after all those years single it would be easy to adapt to it again. Well Since then in the past couple years I've had one relationship that lasted a few months. Otherwise a little fun here and there. Right now I don't really want to be in a relationship that much. I've reached a point after trying to make relationships work just to be in one isn't worth it. Dating just because etc... I imagine it would be great to be in the RIGHT relationship, If it happens someday great, if not eh.. I have friends, a band to play in, a boat to have fun on in the summer, I go skiing in the winter what's not to like? There will be an answer, let it be..
Pizzaman81 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I just absolutely dread it. It's the bane of my existence. My own personal hell. No I don't hate myself or anything like that, quite comfortable, I just hate not having anyone to do stuff with. Waking up alone. No one to share in my many adventures and journeys. No one to love and be loved by. I have so so much to give in the way of personality, fun, sincerity, honesty, being real, love and im not bad looking (or short, lol) either. Alas, I am single and really really REALLY hate it!! Get more friends.
Nikki Sahagin Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Where do you live? I live in the Caribbean, how much do you really like adventure?? London. We'll meet half-way on a floating raft. We'll decide where to go from there...if we survive.
USMCHokie Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 However being single is great..lots of time and do whatever you please, but the loneliness will consume you.... Just rainy days..no one there....looking out the window and end up going on a web forum all day.... That is when being single can be hard. I spent the first 23 years or so of my life spending nights and weekends sitting in my room alone...so it wasn't really a hard transition for me to get back to where I was before...but I'm changing things by getting out more, spending time with friends, and trying to meet new people...
StalledGirl Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 My life's a tad complicated so I am enjoying not having to think about someone else and just focusing on fixing my life although I don't know many people so don't have a social life now. If you don't like being single then you have to make finding a relationship a priority and meet more people.
Author Zeegagge Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 London. We'll meet half-way on a floating raft. We'll decide where to go from there...if we survive. I can survive anything with a helmet, a life jacket and enough Mountain Dew. I'm currently sowing myself a raft out of banana leaves. I'm studying the tides and will be leaving as soon as they're right. Bring some tea, and I'll see you soon.
OceanTropic Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 It sucks being alone, but on the bright side, you're not stuck with anyone and can expand your horizons, if you know what I mean lol.
alphamale Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 i don't mind being single...relationships can be a big hassle
Author Zeegagge Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 Get more friends. I have some of the greatest friends anyone could ever ask for and it's definitely a big help. Part of the problem is I'm a long way from home right now, but that's what cell phones are for. I have friends here too and they're great as well. We have fun but it still leaves me lacking a true love, which is all I am missing in this world. It does, however, excite me to think of what might be around the next corner. I know that when it happens again, with the right person, I'll be blown away and never look back. Soon... For now, back to sowing that life raft.
Author Zeegagge Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 It sucks being alone, but on the bright side, you're not stuck with anyone and can expand your horizons, if you know what I mean lol. Lol, I do know what you mean and that's definitely an advantage. Been doing a little horizon expanding around here, and it can be fun, but it feels a little hollow. I'm more of a serious, one (right one) at a time kind of guy.
Ms. Joolie Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I think what you really mean to say is that you hate the feeling of loneliness, especially feeling lonely on a island.
bananaboat11 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I think what you really mean to say is that you hate the feeling of loneliness, especially feeling lonely on a island. Island booty
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