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Jersey Shortie Established Member

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I agree with that sentiment; however I think women do it to men too. Maybe not by being engaged with other men, but definitely by not appreciating their partners, etc. Both genders just show lack of appreciation in different ways. Same results though.

 

I can agree with that OnlyJack. However, if he isn't giving me his attention because he is excited about the football game, I am more understanding of that then if he isn't giving me his attention because of the hot woman that just passed him.

annxxdisaster Established Member

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I may be turned off if he NEEDS to call help to change a tire.

Then again, my last two relationships were with auto mechanics...

tami-chan Established Member

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women, which is the biggest turn off in a guy?

 

  1. he can't change a tire without calling for help. (not a big deal, that's why i have triple A)
  2. he asks what you like to do on a date instead of having a plan of his own. (so..he is trying to be sensitive to what i might want to do instead...)
  3. he waits too long to try to kiss you. (ahhh...a patient man...)
  4. he looks at other girls when he's with you. ( why not? He is not blind...)

 

I think the above choices are too shallow....

paddington bear Established Member

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4 is the worst. I know all men do it, but the problem arises when it's done really blatantly, head swivelling around. That's just plain rude. Or for good looking women to be verbally pointed out to you, that is totally sadistic and cruel.

 

On the other side, I love when there is one or more stunning woman in the room and he only has eyes for me (this has, alas only happened twice in my life).

 

then, 2: Just because it feels like he's not trying to impress you and if he's not trying to impress you at the beginning that does not bode well for later on when he's got you and you've both got a little lazy.

 

3: dependent on how long - wondering does he like me in that way or not? + going on ad infinitum = not good.

 

4: doesn't bother me, I can change tyres myself. That's the funny thing with long term singledom (and poverty). I can tile a bathroom, build units, change tyres, wire in lights...but...but...it would be lovely to stand back and let my man be all manly and take chargeish with what are traditionally seen as man stuff because I think all this diy stuff has made me into a less girly girl and while I'm proud I can do all this, I have to sometimes pretend I can't do all this stuff 'cause it threatens men (like the changing the tyre story lol)

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Of course you can post anything you like, as long as it's on topic. When I said your opinion wasn't relevant, I didn't mean that it wasn't a welcome part of the discussion (as long as you don't turn this into another ridiculous thread about men vs women and who's worse and has more double standards :rolleyes:). I meant that whether or not it's a ridiculous thing to be turned off by is moot, since (obviously) many women do find that to be a turn off. Arguing against that won't change anything.

 

Fair enough. We simply have different viewpoints. I think there are many more important things to consider in a relationship than the ability to change a tire or cook. I consider these types of things to be bonuses. Not must have requirements.

D-Lish Established Member

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Women, which is the biggest turn off in a guy?

 

4. He looks at other girls when he's with you.

 

I read this list somewhere and was curious what others think of it.

 

#4 without a doubt.

samsungxoxo Established Member

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1) He can't change a tire without calling for help but I don't know. If I like him enough then I don't really care.

Otherwise, no else on the list would be enough to consider ditching him.

 

2, he was only asking you and there's nothing wrong with that.

3, why would he be forced to kiss you quicker, what if he's settling for relationship material and not easy hook-up.. why can't you kiss him instead if you're so much into him

4, well unless you want to date a 10 year-old he will look at other women. Come on, wouldn't we look at a handsome well chested dude on the beach with just his boxers on. How about if it was a famous celebrity?

Els Established Member

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Women, which is the biggest turn off in a guy?

 

  1. He can't change a tire without calling for help.
  2. He asks what you like to do on a date instead of having a plan of his own.
  3. He waits too long to try to kiss you.
  4. He looks at other girls when he's with you.

 

I read this list somewhere and was curious what others think of it.

 

I've actually never had a guy blatantly do #4. Probably has something to do with the type of guy I like. I imagine the bad-boy/player variety (or those who'd like to think that they're bad-boys/players) would have a higher chance of doing that.

 

#3 is a plus, I don't much enjoy kissing. :)

 

#1 is just meh. Would be nice if he could change it, doesn't much bother me if he can't.

 

#2 is the most surprising of all. Do you girls really like a guy to decide all of the time? I find it really sweet for my guy to ask me what I'd like to do, and indulge me, as compared to just planning what he'd like to do.

ella23 Established Member

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He can't change a tire without calling for help.

He asks what you like to do on a date instead of having a plan of his own.

He waits too long to try to kiss you.

He looks at other girls when he's with you.

 

no. 4 probably.

It's okay if he can't change a tire.lol.

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Women, which is the biggest turn off in a guy?

 

  1. He can't change a tire without calling for help.
  2. He asks what you like to do on a date instead of having a plan of his own.
  3. He waits too long to try to kiss you.
  4. He looks at other girls when he's with you.

I read this list somewhere and was curious what others think of it.

 

None of these things are major turn offs.

1. As others have stated, changing a tire or being handy in general may be a plus. But it's not a big deal if he can't.

 

2. I think this would be a nice gesture. It shows that he is considerate of your feelings.

 

3. I think this is better than being overaggressive and coming on too strong.

 

4. I think it is natural for men to look other women or vice versa. There is huge difference between looking at other women and trying to go after another woman.

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thegreatmoose Established Member

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I can't believe there are men on this planet who couldn't change a tire

Why is it such a big deal? That's why there's mechanics. I have no idea how to change a tire, but how is she going to find out? I don't see that as a likely question on an early date.

 

Let's suppose we're driving around a year into the relationship and a tire goes flat. Is she going to break up because I called AAA? I highly doubt it.

 

I'd certainly learn if there was a good reason for me to learn, but I don't see one at the moment.

 

If I' was in a serious relationship with a woman and she tells me how great it would be if I could clearn to change a flat time, that alone would be reason enough to learn.

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