Clep Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 1 for sure. If he can't figure out how to change a tire that is pretty pathetic. I don't have an issue with guys looking at other women. I did have a guy once on a date cut his food and eat, have a conversation and talk to the server while no taking his eyes off the football game on the big screen once. I mentioned to him that it bothered me and he smiled and kept doing it. I then asked nastily if it would help if I was in a g string and a jersey. Needless to say he is gone. That was the worst insult I have had so far and the biggest piss off.
Ruby Slippers Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I'm surprised that you ladies are turned off mostly by guys "lookin" I mean..we all do it..every single guy does it..yes he can be rude about it sometimes, but it happens and I hope with my girl we can just slap each other(jokingly) if one our eye's goes wandering lol. I think that in general, it bothers women much, much more. And not all men do it. The guy I had the best relationship with (so far) -- I never once saw him checking anyone else out. He gave me his undivided attention when we were together, and I gave him mine. It was awesome, and people would look at us with goofy smiles everywhere we went. The guy after him leered at other women. I had never experienced that before, and though it sometimes made me want to vomit, I put up with it because I didn't really know any better at the time. Now, if a man did that, I wouldn't see him again.
OceanTropic Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 He can't change a tire. I need a man who can do manual labour, and its so sexy to watch... I don't think #2 is a turn off at ALL. I like that a man would love to accommodate me, and is interested in seeing what I like. However, if he does this ALL the time, it would get annoying. A man needs to take charge too.
GAchasen Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 The biggest turn off is when he asks for sex at the beginning Yes, this is my #1 turn OFF...I hate this with a passion. Even if the date went very well and I'm interested in getting to know him...., as soon as I feel like he is coming on to me in anyway....I want to RUN! Dating is about getting to know someone, not getting to know the bedroom;)
GAchasen Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 He can't change a tire. I need a man who can do manual labour, and its so sexy to watch... I don't think #2 is a turn off at ALL. I like that a man would love to accommodate me, and is interested in seeing what I like. However, if he does this ALL the time, it would get annoying. A man needs to take charge too. I agree with this one, too. I would say most of the choices are turn offs for me.
PinkToes Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 # 4, definitely. I'd forgive the tire issue because I'd want a guy to cut me a little slack if I couldn't do some traditionally girly thing. But I wouldn't be checking out other guys while I was with someone I was interested in, and I would hope he wouldn't either.
New Again Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Women, which is the biggest turn off in a guy? He can't change a tire without calling for help.UnmanlyHe asks what you like to do on a date instead of having a plan of his own.WeenieHe waits too long to try to kiss you.InsecureHe looks at other girls when he's with you.Dick I read this list somewhere and was curious what others think of it. Biggest turn off is between #1 and #4. I'm gonna go with #1 is the biggest turn off, with #4 being the rudest, most WFT are you thinking moment.
Stung Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I'm surprised that you ladies are turned off mostly by guys "lookin" I mean..we all do it..every single guy does it..yes he can be rude about it sometimes, but it happens and I hope with my girl we can just slap each other(jokingly) if one our eye's goes wandering lol. Don't tell me you woman don't "look" heck..you all even look at other woman according to the Megan Fox thread hehe;) Sure, I notice other people. But I register them as attractive people and then move right along with my conversation, reserving my focus and admiration for my husband, and I expect him to do the same. I'm well aware that he notices other women...there's a cyclist in our neighborhood we both refer to casually as 'Boobs' as she is always bent over her handlebars wearing extremely lowcut tops, rain or shine, and I'm under no illusions that he didn't notice her long before I did . But he doesn't take his focus off of me, and he keeps me assured that he finds me special.
New Again Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Women, which is the biggest turn off in a guy? [*]He asks what you like to do on a date instead of having a plan of his own. I don't see why # 2 would be a turnoff. Compromise is an important part of a relationship. I would think that a man who can't compromise & consider a woman's wants would be a bigger turn off. By asking her what she wants to do you are showing that you can compromise & consider her needs as more important than your own. Women will be more inclined to meet your needs when you put their needs first. #2 is a turn off because he's an indecisive wimp. A guy needs to demonstrate confidence. Plain and simple. It has nothing to do with compromise at that point. If a woman really is interested in you she's not going to be turned off just because you waited a long time to kiss her. The longer a man waits to kiss the better. It shows he's a gentleman and he's considerate of the woman's comfort level. Dave, you're a guy, right? I don't see how you know anything about how a woman feels about these things. Yes, a women could very possible be turned off "just because" a guy waited a long time to kiss her. PUSSY.
New Again Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Men who don't compromise are not displaying confidence. I believe in treating women the way I would want to be treated. There are times when I would want a woman to ask me what I want to do on the date. I too am looking for a woman who believes in compromise. You can't always get what you want. Men who don't ask a woman what they want are controlling. If I'm a wimp because I try to be considerate of a woman's desires then so be it. I'm not going to stop showing good manners & courtesy just to prove that I have confidence. I guess my point was, men without plans for a date (first date?) are: indecisive, lazy, lacking in confidence, insecure, lazy...any number of negative things. The OP didn't mention anything about a compromise (which really implies a relationship, not a first date or dating stages). Women like men with confidence. Not having a plan for a first date implies a lack of confidence, the way the OP describes teh situation. It's not that anyone has to do what the the guy suggests for the date. But the fact that he actually bothered to come up with something to begin with that is important.
meerkat stew Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Women, which is the biggest turn off in a guy? He can't change a tire without calling for help.He asks what you like to do on a date instead of having a plan of his own.He waits too long to try to kiss you.He looks at other girls when he's with you.I read this list somewhere and was curious what others think of it. The irony of #1 is that I have been the driver of many women's cars who had no spare, no jack, and still would take umbrage if I couldn't wave my magic "man hand" and fix the flat tire on her car (usually flat due to her never rotating her tires or checking her air in the first place). My humble prayer: Please, O lord, if I should ever be in a vehicle that defies my efforts to fix a flat, and my female companion feels annoyed by this, let her tell me, so that I can take her straightaway home and deposit her there foreverafter to be denied my most worthy attention and company. Amen.
temple Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I think 3 would be the biggest turn off for me. Personally I absolutely need passion at the beginning of the relationship.
bac Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 4 is the worst, others are ok The longer he waits to kiss me the better. the worst is a guy to try to kiss me on 1-2 dates.
xXMarlboro_ManXx Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Come to think of it I don't know any mechanics that aren't married, maybe there is a correlation. All they have to do is not look at other women and they're set.
confusedmuch Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 Women, which is the biggest turn off in a guy? He can't change a tire without calling for help.He asks what you like to do on a date instead of having a plan of his own.He waits too long to try to kiss you.He looks at other girls when he's with you. I read this list somewhere and was curious what others think of it. #1 (can't change a tire) would be the biggest turnoff followed very closely by #2 What can I say? I want to feel secure when I'm with a guy. I don't want to feel like we're totally f***ed if something should unexpectedly happen.
Author OnlyJake Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Come to think of it I don't know any mechanics that aren't married, maybe there is a correlation. All they have to do is not look at other women and they're set. Apparently!
New Again Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 My ex is kind of metro, totally urban, and so not the type who would ever know how to change a tire. The hottest thing ever was when we got a flat in my car and he totally surprised me by popping the trunk for the jack and spare instead of whipping out his phone to call AAA or a tow truck.
BUENG1 Posted January 21, 2010 Posted January 21, 2010 My ex is kind of metro, totally urban, and so not the type who would ever know how to change a tire. The hottest thing ever was when we got a flat in my car and he totally surprised me by popping the trunk for the jack and spare instead of whipping out his phone to call AAA or a tow truck. I have a friend in NYC(male, 23 I think) who doesn't even have his drivers license .
brock25 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 #1 is the biggest turn off for me! I associate that with practicality, the ability to take care of friends and family, work with their hands, not afraid to get dirty....SEXY! I agree that all of them are annoying... I don't see what's the big deal about # 1. To me, that's not any different than a woman not being a good cook or some other "traditional" role for women. If I spend money on AAA, then I might as well use it when there is oppurtunity to do so.
Author OnlyJake Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 I don't see what's the big deal about # 1. To me, that's not any different than a woman not being a good cook or some other "traditional" role for women. If I spend money on AAA, then I might as well use it when there is oppurtunity to do so. No offense, but if you're a guy your opinion on what women are turned off by isn't very relevant. That said, cooking is a life skill, everyone should know how to cook. Changing a tire is also a life skill. What happens when you blow a tire in the mountains or country someplace where there isn't any cell service? Besides which, if you have a jack and a spare, why would you want to sit around for an hour+ waiting for another man to come rescue you?
DiscoChick Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 Women, which is the biggest turn off in a guy? He can't change a tire without calling for help.He asks what you like to do on a date instead of having a plan of his own.He waits too long to try to kiss you.He looks at other girls when he's with you. I read this list somewhere and was curious what others think of it. None of those are turn offs. (1) I don't care. I can do this. (2) I'm also indecisive. This would be annoying but not a turn off. (3) I'm not very fond of kissing before I am sure this guy doesn't have any latent STDs. I just think some things are icky. I don't even share drinks. (4) This is typical. I look at other guys. Him being as dumb as a box of rocks would be the killer for me.
sharkhunter Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I can't believe there are men on this planet who couldn't change a tire
brock25 Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 No offense, but if you're a guy your opinion on what women are turned off by isn't very relevant. That said, cooking is a life skill, everyone should know how to cook. Changing a tire is also a life skill. What happens when you blow a tire in the mountains or country someplace where there isn't any cell service? Besides which, if you have a jack and a spare, why would you want to sit around for an hour+ waiting for another man to come rescue you? No offense to you, but I'm entitled to state my comments about women's responses to this question. Changing tires or being a good cook may be a plus. But I wouldn't consider those things to be absolutely necessary life skills. Especially if you live in an urban area. I have changed my tire before. I have also called AAA for assistance. I usually didn't have to wait that long for them to arrive. They were usually able to change the tire quicker than I could.
meerkat stew Posted January 22, 2010 Posted January 22, 2010 I can't believe there are men on this planet who couldn't change a tire You go ahead and try changing a tire without a spare or a jack.
Author OnlyJake Posted January 22, 2010 Author Posted January 22, 2010 No offense to you, but I'm entitled to state my comments about women's responses to this question. Changing tires or being a good cook may be a plus. But I wouldn't consider those things to be absolutely necessary life skills. Especially if you live in an urban area. I have changed my tire before. I have also called AAA for assistance. I usually didn't have to wait that long for them to arrive. They were usually able to change the tire quicker than I could. Of course you can post anything you like, as long as it's on topic. When I said your opinion wasn't relevant, I didn't mean that it wasn't a welcome part of the discussion (as long as you don't turn this into another ridiculous thread about men vs women and who's worse and has more double standards ). I meant that whether or not it's a ridiculous thing to be turned off by is moot, since (obviously) many women do find that to be a turn off. Arguing against that won't change anything.
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