tincanman99 Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 You guys remember me obsessing about some woman that had dramatically ratcheted up the attention in the last few weeks. That I was concerned she was married. I went to the gym yesterday and took all your advice and just kind of stepped back from it. She was not there but I was waiting to go into the weight training class I heard one of the people mention her name. Than they started whispering and it was quite apparent they did not want me to hear so I walked away. 10 minutes later one of the other women walked up to me and said "I know she is your new found friend and admirer but she is pregnant AND married". I was like um, ok. She said "I just want you to know because she and other women have noticed that she is hot for you but she is pregnant AND married. Than she says "before it gets any further you might want to keep that in mind". The woman also said "that there is no way that this girl is going to continue to be able to exercise at the level she was doing before if she is pregnant. She might be stressing that she is going to get fat which most women do when they get pregnant." Than she said to me "be careful and that this is secret, dont tell anyone because she does not want anyone to know she is pregnant". I said well sooner or later its going to be quite visible she is pregnant and I said thanks and went on my way. Obviously she did not just become pregnant yesterday (well possibly, you never know ) and probably has been for a wile. Was this all about because she feels self conscious now and she needs to feel desired because now she is pregnant? aka the infamous teaser or attention getter? I find the whole thing incredibly messed up and bizarre.
Art_Critic Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I find the whole thing incredibly messed up and bizarre. I agree... How many threads have you posted now about someone else's wife ? and to top it off you show how much you respect her by calling her your " Gym Bunny ". Dude........
JamesM Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Or perhaps these ladies are setting you up...per her request? Or maybe not by her request? Life is complicated...one never knows what lurks in the mind of man...or women.
paddington bear Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 You know I did this course once, and this guy was at the desk beside me and we reverted to being little kids while there, messing and joking about. He was married, I knew this. I had no interest beyond that he was fun in an otherwise dull course. I got taken aside by the women in the course and told to back off that he was married. Maybe I'd been giving out the wrong signals, but I certainly wasn't attracted, so wouldn't have been overtly flirting with him. So these do-gooders doing the same to you makes me laugh, the married party initiates something and the innocent party who doesn't want anything to do with the married person gets told off as if we are trying to lure them into an affair. Good. She'll be gone from the gym soon, unless they do yoga for pregnancy or whatever. I agree with Art Critic, this unavailable woman is taking up far too much of your thoughts that should be directed towards getting an available woman if that's what you want.
CaliGuy Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I don't normally disagree with you Art, but I don't see any harm in calling her a "gym bunny". She was indeed acting very strange and he has said more than once that he was uncomfortable with her level of attention given that she is married. Then again, I didn't see his other threads about married women so....WTH does CaliGuy know?! (not much these days, I tell ya, lol). The only issue I have here is her friends coming up to him and re-iterating that she is married and now, pregnant. I'd be like "Ummmm ok, well it's none of your business what goes on in my life but just so you know, I have no interest in her. It's not my fault she's "hot for me..." -- now please mind your own business..." Well, that may not be him but that's what I'd say in his shoes. I think it's damn rude of them to get up in his grill like that.
Author tincanman99 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Well she is a "gym bunny" . If you have ever been to a decent gym they kind of congregate there . I have no other threads about married women, just this one . Generally I dont obsess to much about women being friendly unless I want them . Its kind of hard to ignore her when she is standing 2 feet in front of you with sweat running down her cleavage . Or standing in front of you bending over to do rows. I am a guy after all I did find it amusing that the women are telling me to stay away from her. Like it was me that went up to her and start touching her and running my hand down her shoulder. Can you imagine what would happen if a guy you didnt know well did this? It would be ICCKKK! HE IS DISGUSTING! Anyway I handled their medding in a politically saavy manner and just smiled and said I understood. Its called pacification . That way they walked away satisified and feeling in control though they are not. I have decided in the last few days that it can never be bad to have too many good looking women friends providing I can just keep it at that and nothing else. As others said she wont be there to much longer. I think she is already going into hiding already because this is SECRET and she certainly wont be able to walk around the gym 1/2 naked with a belly can she. Thanks for all the words of support, its appreciated.
Author tincanman99 Posted January 20, 2010 Author Posted January 20, 2010 Or perhaps these ladies are setting you up...per her request? Or maybe not by her request? Life is complicated...one never knows what lurks in the mind of man...or women. What do you mean setting me up by her request? I dont understand.
Art_Critic Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I have no other threads about married women, just this one . Generally I dont obsess to much about women being friendly unless I want them http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t217012/ It isn't that hard once you find out that a woman is married and you see her husband to put it all in perspective. The moment you found out she was married is when you should have put your energy towards another girl and moved on away from this obsession.. What makes you think she is embarrassed that she is pregnant and her "secret" is out and that she will disappear ? I have known women that exercise up to the point of giving birth.. My wife was one of those.. well she did up till about the 7th month anyhow. I think you just need to realize that this women isn't in your future at this point and work on someone else.. When I made a reference to the name "Gym Bunny" as showing some disrespect I meant it in the form of if this woman is one that you are interested in then why give her a name or talk about her in a fashion that really doesn't portray her very well ? It shows me that you haven't a lot of respect for her as a person.. let alone a married person.. JMO.. I'm really not trying to be a dick.. I'm just having trouble understanding why a married pregnant woman has taken up your thoughts and energy when in reality she was never on the market for you to begin with. I know when I was single if a woman who was friendly with me was married I looked the other way immediately...
CaliGuy Posted January 20, 2010 Posted January 20, 2010 I know when I was single if a woman who was friendly with me was married I looked the other way immediately... Heh. This reminds me of a story. Had my boss's VERY HOT wife hit on me at a company Christmas party one time. Flat out asked me to "do" her. I was shocked but simply said "That's not me" and walked away. As I walked away she tried to tell me that she has an "open marriage". All I could do was shake my head and keep walking.
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