brown_cow_eyez Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Not sure if I should be posting here or not. I've been married for almost 8 years and have two children with my husband. Two years ago we argued and got into a fight where he kicked me and the kids out .. (knowing I was going to my mothers and the kids and I would be fine) Then a few months later he tried to get me to move back home. Being stubborn and not wanting to let him win, or fall back into the same rut we'd been in for 6 years I said no and moved into my parents house. (Insert elevator music) two years later I have decided that maybe I wanted to give up and try to get back together because I honestly admit that I do and have missed him, and its a given that my children miss him. There is only one problem... Hes had a girlfriend for about 6-7 months. I want to approach him about what Ive been thinking but I don't want to hurt my pride.. I'm asking for advice as to.. should I leave him be or should I mention it one time in passing conversation?
KikiW Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Has something changed to indicate that your previous problems have been or can be resolved? It sounds to me like he has begun moving on, so unless he is the kind of guy who will ditch his girlfriend at your beck and call, you are going to be putting pressure on him to make a big decision: choose his girlfriend and give you the "well he refused to work it out" ammunition, or choose you and potentially go through this again in another year or two (and subjecting your children to further upheaval). That is a very tough place to be in, and I'm not sure it's fair after all the time that has passed. Of course this is JMHO based on your brief post.
bittersweet memories Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Not sure if I should be posting here or not. I've been married for almost 8 years and have two children with my husband. Two years ago we argued and got into a fight where he kicked me and the kids out .. (knowing I was going to my mothers and the kids and I would be fine) Then a few months later he tried to get me to move back home. Being stubborn and not wanting to let him win, or fall back into the same rut we'd been in for 6 years I said no and moved into my parents house. (Insert elevator music) two years later I have decided that maybe I wanted to give up and try to get back together because I honestly admit that I do and have missed him, and its a given that my children miss him. There is only one problem... Hes had a girlfriend for about 6-7 months. I want to approach him about what Ive been thinking but I don't want to hurt my pride.. I'm asking for advice as to.. should I leave him be or should I mention it one time in passing conversation? Just wondering if he having a girlfriend now made you want to go back to him? Its been 2 years since your seperation what changed now?
cuppa Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 Maybe you can flirt with him? Just the way in the beginning before the marriage? How often do you see each other? I think if I were in your position, when he visits or plays with the kids, I would smile very sweetly at him, dress very nice (which you know is going to please him), put beautiful make-up, and innocently touch him here & there? Or compliment the way he dresses or things like that? If he's responding then maybe you can slowly talk toward that direction instead of bringing the heavy subject all of sudden? Since he has girlfriend, you might need to ease him into that way of thinking and makes him decide to go back to you instead of staying with the g.f. That way, you can protect yourself too.
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