OnlyJake Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 He owns a house in a European country (we're from the U.S.). He goes several times a year for a week or two at a time. He's going again in a few months and has invited me. Usually he goes with several friends from college and his home town (some of them are our mutual friends); this time he's only going with one of his brothers. I would pay my own expenses, but obviously stay at his house for free. Our history is, years ago we used to date/hook up. We've been friends for several years since then and nothing has happened, though I'm not sure how much of that is mutual and how much of that is just because I haven't wanted anything to happen. Two questions: 1. What do you think the chances of things remaining platonic would be? 2. Although this is probably jumping the gun, I'm concerned how this would work if I ended up getting serious about someone in the meantime. Thoughts?
Yamaha Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 How close is your friendship? I can't imagine a guy taking a girl friend to his house to stay for 2 weeks and he just wants to hang out and talk. He probably wants you.......
Author OnlyJake Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 How close is your friendship? He's probably my closest guy friend, aside from my brother. We only see each other a couple times a year because we live in different states. We're in regular contact via the internet and phone calls and texts. We talk to each other about people we are/were dating or relationships, but our contact drops off when one of us is seriously dating someone, out of respect for the SO. Because we used to date/hook up we don't want to potentially mess up a new relationship, or make the SO uncomfortable. Sometimes he'll bring up sex and try to talk to me about it, but I always let him know that's not something I'm comfortable talking about with him. I can't imagine a guy taking a girl friend to his house to stay for 2 weeks and he just wants to hang out and talk. He probably wants you....... This is what I'm struggling with a bit. If more people were going I'd feel differently. I also might just be full of myself.
New Again Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 How often does an opportunity like this come up for you? Do you want to go and would you be able to go if you didn't have someone that knows the area and a place to stay? I say just go for it. Just make sure you manage expectations beforehand, or before accepting the invitation maybe. Unless, of course, you want something to happen, in which case it sounds damn romantic, minus the brother!
Author OnlyJake Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 K, I accepted the invitation! I hope this doesn't come back to bite me in the ass!
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