Love_Awry Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 I met and started dating a man (we'll call him Ted) a few weeks after getting out of a horrific relationship. I wasn't expecting it to turn into anything. It turned into something great and amazing. Though there were multiple times I took my baggage out on Ted. And while he had gotten out of two bad relationships, the first, with his ex-wife, then a different ex, he was still very good to me. We broke up officially in September, and because our connection was still strong, we still hung out. He is always aiming for us to be in eachother's lives as great friends. And we would still be intimate with each other, but decided to stop hanging out a few weeks ago, because he felt like he was leading me on. We weren't good at not keeping our hands off each other, and I still loved him too much to stick around. Then on Thursday, I contacted him. I had been seeing the prior ex for a few weeks...but I missed Ted so much. Then he asked me to call. We talked for a long time like old friends that didn't skip a beat. Then, he asked me to come over. He said he couldn't get over how I looked at him one time...like I hated his guts. I clarified, and ask, "how do I look at him now?" He knows I've gained much perspective, and that I love him. He loves me very much as well. He also stressed that I was making a bad decision getting back together with my ex. I know it was, and ended it tonight. He still wants me to be in his life. And tells me what we had was really special. He doesn't know yet, but I will tell him, that I broke up with the other man...not because of what he said, but because that man is not what I want in my life. While he is starting to realize as we talk that the only problem we had was the residual baggage which is no longer the issue anymore, he is not open to having a relationship with anyone right now. Does anyone think that we stand a chance in working things out and reconciling? We're both in our early 30s.
Author Love_Awry Posted January 19, 2010 Author Posted January 19, 2010 When we broke up, I was ready to move on, but he kept finding sneaky ways to meet with me. Months later, we've worked through many issues with communication and honesty. Even then...we're not together...
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